I'm not sure that's a good idea. You would create a circular reference where the gender control controls the exclusion control, and the exclusion control controls the gender control. It would be possible, then, to completely remove data from the system, so it can never be displayed. Imagine this scenario: you use the gender control to select a gender, which removes all of the opposite gender from the exclusion control, which removes them from the gender control, so that gender doesn't even show up in the list any more.
You can have a chain of controls leading ultimately to a chart, but you cannot have controls operate on each other mutually.
If you want to change this so that the slider and gender controls feed the exclusion control and charts, and have the exclusion control remove data just from the charts, then that should be doable.