Hi Lily,
Thanks for the thoughtful question.
1. Yes, this seems to be what most people are doing.
2. I'd like to clarify this point. Detrending the data doesn't really help with unequal spacing. It simply removes any linear or systematic changes in the mean.
The status seems to still be the same- for these intensive longitudinal data, each researcher seems to choose whichever approach makes most sense to them based on assumptions and qualities of their data and design. I'd love to see some work on this provide a clear heuristic for people to follow!
If anyone on this list knows of a good solution please respond all.
Best,
Katie