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Regarding past actions, the person who suffers from scruples tends to overanalyze them without being able to stop, and always finds something new to critique about them. The sacrament of confession, which should be a solace for the soul, becomes instead a torturous experience, since for a scrupulous person, details and explanations are never enough to lighten their burdens.

In the majority of these cases, there is a psychological root to this attitude, related to some kind of obsession. So, it could be very helpful to consult with a mental health professional to get guidance.

In addition, we will try to give just some advice from the spiritual point of view without intending to cover the whole topic, which is very complex in itself. We will try to define some basic principles to commence this hard fight.

4. Overanalyzing: your major temptation. While advising people with this struggle, it is very easy to detect that one of the main problems consists in thinking too much. We start spinning around the same idea in our heads, making everything difficult without reason.

We wander around again and again without results. When we see our thoughts becoming confused and tangled, that is the exact moment to stop analyzing and go back to trusting in our first thought. I can see in my experience as a spiritual director and confessor how the first glance is usually the right one. But, when a person starts overthinking, he or she can reach conclusions that are almost out of the reality of what originally happened.

5. Healthy use of the sacrament of reconciliation. When we commit a sin, we can receive forgiveness with this sacrament. However, precisely because the idea of sin is disfigured in a scrupulous person, the remedy could be frequently misused/ineffective.

The other day, I wrote about how this Friday is within the Octave of Easter, which makes it a solemnity, or at least a day to be treated as a solemnity. This means that we can eat meat -- and, unlike any other Friday, we don't have to substitute another penance or sacrifice. It's a feast day, and we don't fast when the Bridegroom is with us.

For most people, this news means one thing: "Yay, meat!" But for others, it's a trapdoor into a pit of scrupulosity. The rules are not 100% crystal clear, and even if we do get clarity, we may still not be at peace: what if we're not necessarily required to abstain from meat, but not abstaining feels like we're letting ourselves off easy? Might that be a sin? What if we didn't research enough, and there might be some other reputable source that disagree about what kind of Friday it is? Is it sinful to stop researching? What if we accidentally swallowed a bit of chicken that was stuck in our teeth before we found out that it was okay to eat meat? And so on.

Scrupulosity might look foolish or even funny to outsiders, but for people gripped in its claws, it's hellish. I mean that literally: it feels like we are locked away from God and His love. Scrupulosity is a coil of fear, doubt, guilt, and despair.

For some people, it's a temporary if painful phase, common when we first begin to take their faith seriously, or when we are feeling anxious or doubtful about life in general. It's possible to work our way out of this transient kind of scrupulosity by receiving the sacraments regularly, and by putting ourselves under obedience to a good confessor, especially one who is trained in scrupulosity. Put yourself entirely under his care and let him make the calls about what to confess, how often to go to confession, and so on. Obedience is absolutely vital.

Many people find relief through reciting the Divine Mercy chaplet, or through other Divine Mercy devotions. Mercy is, after all, at the heart of peace. There is no way that we can earn grace or forgiveness or salvation, so sometimes we need a firm reminder that it's only through God's mercy that we exist at all. Any time we approach God, it is empty-handed. There is great freedom in realizing this.

Other recommended resources:

Other reading that many people find helpful:

Light and Peace by Carlo Giuseppe Quadrupani (Free ebook here) (If the link isn't working, cut and paste: )

33 Days to Merciful Love by Fr. Michael Gaitley

The works of the Catholic psychiatrist Conrad Baars

Spirituality and the Gentle Life by Adrian L.Van Kaam

Understanding Scrupulosity: Questions, Helps, and Encouragement by Thomas M. Santa

If these things, along with prayer, do not bring peace, then it's very likely that spiritual scrupulosity is actually a symptom of larger problem: an anxiety disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder, and it won't clear up on its own. In fact, insisting on pursuing only spiritual remedies can make our distress worse, because it feeds into the idea that we're simply not trusting or praying hard enough. The Church absolutely wants us to seek secular help with our emotional problems, even if they have some spiritual component.

A trained therapist trained in cognitive behavioral therapy, perhaps combined with anti-anxiety medication, can help restore your peace and help you learn better mental habits. A Catholic therapist would be ideal, but a good secular therapist should be able to help, too, as long as he's open to the idea that your spiritual life is important to you.

Scrupulosity can be so immensely painful, it may actually drive people from the Church as they seek relief -- which is precisely why the devil loves scruples. Scrupulosity drives us away from God and his love.

Simcha Fisher Simcha Fisher, author of The Sinner's Guide to Natural Family Planning writes for several publications and blogs daily at Aleteia. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and ten children. Without supernatural aid, she would hardly be a human being.

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Scrupulosity is not delicacy of conscience, but only its counterfeit. A delicate and rightly formed conscience does not confound imperfection with sin, or venial sin with mortal. It passes a sound judgment on all things. But it loves God so much that it fears to displease Him in anything. It has so much zeal for perfection that it wants to avoid even the shadow of evil. It is therefore full of light, love, and generosity. Scrupulosity, on the contrary, is founded on ignorance, error, or defective judgment. It is the fruit of a troubled mind. It exaggerates its obligations and its faults, and even sees them where they do not exist. On the other hand, it may often enough fail to recognise faults and obligations that are very real. One can be scrupulous on certain points to a ridiculous degree, and at the same time be scandalously lax on others.

It is assuredly the signified will of God that we should combat it on account of its disastrous effects. On this point all theologians and masters of the spiritual life are in perfect accord. They mark out in detail the course we should follow. Let it suffice for us to say here that, in order to conquer this terrible enemy, we must pray much, suppress voluntary causes, and above all practise blind obedience. The scrupulous person may be well instructed, very experienced, and even very prudent in all other matters: but in what concerns his scruples, his malady deranges his mind. It would therefore be folly to attempt to guide himself. Childlike obedience to his confessor, who diagnoses the disease and prescribes the remedy, is his best wisdom and his only hope of relief. This, nevertheless, is no easy matter. He must pray, therefore, with all instance, and implore the grace to renounce his own ideas, and to practise obedience even against his own inclinations. For his conscience being false, he has to rectify it by conforming to the judgment of his spiritual guide.

It is also the good-Pleasure of God that we should patiently support the affliction of scrupulosity so long as it pleases Him. We can always combat the evil. Sometimes times we shall succeed in banishing it altogether; sometimes only in lessening it; and sometimes, by the permission of Providence, it will persist in full vigour despite our best efforts. For it can come from very different causes, of which some depend upon our own wills, but many may be beyond our control.

The malady may owe its origin to excess in work or austerities, to the reading of books that are over-severe, to intercourse with scrupulous persons, or to the habit of seeing in God the terrible Judge rather than the Father of infinite goodness. Or it may have originated in the ignorance which exaggerates our obligations, or confounds temptation with sin, the sensation with the consent. In these, and such-like cases, it depends upon ourselves to remove the causes. Then, the source being suppressed, we shall soon see the end of our troubles.

But it often arises from a melancholy disposition, from a fearful and suspicious character, weakness of the head, or certain conditions of health. All these causes depend more upon the Divine good-pleasure than upon our wills. And in such cases, the scrupulosity usually lasts a long time and manifests itself even in profane employments.

The demon is not seldom the author of the evil. He avails himself of our imprudences, he exploits our predispositions, he works on our senses and imagination, in order to excite or intensify scrupulosity. If he sees a soul inclined to be somewhat lax, he pushes her on to greater laxity. But when he encounters one that is timid, his endeavour is to make her extravagantly fearful, to fill her with trouble and anxiety, in the hope that she will end by abandoning God, prayer, and the Sacraments. His purpose is to render virtue insupportable, to engender weariness, discouragement, and despair.

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