Years ago, I sat in the newborn intensive care unit gazing at my tiny baby. He was only two days old with a full head of curly hair, beautiful blue eyes and perfect skin. He had just been diagnosed with a genetic disorder called Cornelia de Lange syndrome.
Meet beautiful Baby Ava! I say it all the time but as a Southern NH newborn photographer, I get to meet and snuggle with the most adorable babies. There is something so special about getting to meet someone brand new to the world. I love seeing how little personalities are already coming out. Each baby is so unique and different.
I (24f) gave birth to my daughter six months ago and it should've been the happiest moment in my life. When my daughter was born her skin was very dark and looked like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent. My husband Jim (26m), fake name, was furious and accused me of cheating and left right then and there. He told everyone on both sides of the family what happened, made posts on social media and wanted a divorce. His family and a lot of our friend all called to say how upset they were at me and called me really nasty names. My mother was by my side the entire time and I kept professing my innocence. Jim refused to pick me up from the hospital, threw my stuff out on the lawn and changed the locks, so I had to stay with my parents. When my sister called to ask for the baby stuff Jim texted me pictures of the bare nursery room and said he got rid of everything. He even destroyed my Art studio, I like to paint, and the art I made and told me my work would be too awful to sell. I was distraught and tried to focus on my baby.
Jim has been begging for forgiveness. I said I needed time, he asked to see the baby and I let him but I'm too afraid to physically hand her to him. He's repairing the the nursery and keeps asking me what I would like and I cry every time saying we already had what I liked and some of the items that we had can't be replaced. He asked me if I still loved him and I admitted that he showed me his worst self and I don't know if I could live with that image. I didn't mean to be hurtful but it's how I feel. My sister suggested Couple's Therapy but I don't feel like I should have to work to fix something that I didn't break. I've never cheated and have been 100% innocent in all of this the whole. AITA for not wanting to give Jim a second chance?
First, my parent who was adopted did the Ancestry/23 thing and it turns out that Jim wasn't the only one who had African ancestry. My parent had at least 45%, which means I have at least 20%. I am legally separated from my husband with primary custody, and I'm living with my parents until further notice. He still keeps apologizing and wants me to come back to the house, he even offered to leave so I could stay with our daughter but I don't want to and really like having the support of my parents. My dad is retired so he does a lot of the babysitting while my mother and I work remotely.
So, "the keys must have been found" expresses the speaker's conjecture that the keys are in a recovered state, or that they were in a recovered state based on an observation. (Since time has passed between that observation and the present moment, it may not be true now):
Watch out though: these two sentences have a possible interpretation of certainty, as in "I'm positively certain that the keys were found". The sentence "The keys are sure to have been found" does not have a possible interpretation of certainty. Therefore, only one of these sentences makes sense:
The difference between 1 and 2 is just that you can use 1 when it is apparent that the keys are found. For example, you encounter the now unlocked door or see someone holding the keys, you can say "the keys must have been found." But you definitely wouldn't say "The keys are sure to have been found" because even though it has "sure" in it, it doesn't necessarily mean that the speaker knows that the keys have been found. The speaker just strongly believes that they were found.
In both cases, the person is confident that the keys have been found, but doesn't know it. If they wanted to say that they were found, they would have simply said "The keys were found" or more likely "they found the keys."
What a beautiful shower! The menu was so fun and I definitely think your mother would have approved! How sweet that you included her with the flowers. You have a beautiful family, Juliet! Thanks for sharing!
YES YES YES! Been waiting for this post from you. I placed a massive online shopping order last week of looser tees and a few dresses because I have NO clue if any of my pre-baby clothes will fit. The hardest part now is not being able to try them on, lol! This giant bump is not exactly accommodating. Of course you ROCK postpartum style! :)
Excellent article! I have kept many items from when my children were growing up. I kept a beautiful fuzzy baby blankent we used when our children were infants. I put the blanket in a sealed plastic zipper bag. I felt by keeping the blanket in the plastic zipper bag the blanket would be forever kept in great condition and might be passed to our children for their children to use.
What is it worth to each of us to have heart-touching items kept for many years in the garage and closets where the items cannot be seen and enjoyed. We carry emotional attachment to these items; yet since cannot see the items we kept, we must use our imagination to remember what the memory items mean to us. Why must we keep boxes of memory items packed away taking up space in our home?
When we started telling people about our baby, I think a lot of people were shocked, because I had been open about my struggle for wanting children. But the joy that others shared with us blew me away. Every life truly is a precious gift, and having those around me celebrate that new life with us was so special.
And this is why I have received such a lot of love from you all. From the time that I have come here I have simply been surrounded with love, and with real, real understanding love. It could feel as if everyone in India, everyone in Africa is somebody very special to you. And I felt quite at home I was telling Sister today. I feel in the Convent with the Sisters as if I am in Calcutta with my own Sisters. So completely at home here, right here.
Natasha & Vadim,
Congratulations on your beautiful new little one. I trust that the favor of God will be on her, that she would be protected by His Grace, come to know Him at an early age, and have a revelation of His will for her life. What a wonderful blessing!
God bless this beautiful family. You are blessed and I am so happy for you. I love reading your blog and have followed ur cake recipes and love them. And I love the faith you carry with you, may you also be blessed for that.
What a beautiful post, Natasha! I am so glad everything went so well even though you had concerns. I was a little worried about you when I read you were overdue. You have a beautiful family. God bless you, and enjoy these amazing moments!
Hi Cher, I cannot even imagine what kind of experience a C-section in Ukraine would have been. Praise God he helped you through it! I am definitely thankful for modern medicine in the US. I was just commenting about that to my husband the other day. thank you for your kind words. ?
Yay!!! Many blessings to your beautiful baby girl!!! Please take her in to see a Chiropractor, the faster baby is checked, the easier and healthier their life will be ? Quick recovery for mom and many Blessings to your family from God above!!!
I left birth with a third degree tear, a prolapsed bladder, a pretty miserable 48 hour experience, complicated feelings about the birth team I had carefully assembled, a beautiful baby, a new connection to my husband, and a deep knowing of the depths of my own strength.
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