When someone is
doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don't want it to be
done and when we are not able to accept it, we become angry.
However, When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a
way we don't want it to be done - and we are able to accept it- we remain
tolerant.
When someone has something which we don't have, or someone is able to
produce the results which we are not able to produce- and we are not able to
accept it – we become jealous.
When someone has something which we don't have, or someone is able to
produce the results which we are not able to produce and we are able to
accept it we get inspired.
Then emotional equation is quite simple.
Something +
Acceptance = Positive Emotion
Something + Non Acceptance = Negative Emotion
So, it is not 'something' or 'someone' who is making us feel positive or
negative, but it is our 'acceptance' or 'non acceptance' of something
or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.
It isn't the world but the quality of our response to the world that
determines the quality of our emotions. Next time we feel disturbed with
a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we
will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is
causing this disturbance in us. We will replace resistance (non
acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a
positive one.
Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that 'something' or
'someone' and starting to take the responsibility to respond life with
'acceptance'
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