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Zarla
Sep 17, 2010, 9:36:46 AM9/17/10
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Cusp,
He doesn't drive, and so if things need getting it naturally falls to me. When asked to order something to be delivered instead, he invariably leaves it too late-necessitating an emergency trip....by me!
You never said a truer word about how demoralising it is, as you know things are going a little 'conference-shaped' in some areas of my life just now -things will improve I'm sure.
I am not good at sticking to my boundaries, I'm often doing just that one chore too much cos it's easier than getting someone else to do it.
I'm blessed with a 16year old who is great, and his father... who is more like a 10year old! If I ask hubby for something to be done, very often it CERTAINLY will not be, just a stubborn dude! Hence, it doesn't get done whether I ask, or I don't!!
Still, can't seem to do much about him and his attitude, sorry have to go de-lint my blindfold and polish up my tacks!
In all seriousness Cusp, I really appreciate your comments, not only do you leave me thinking, but you always leave me laughing!
Take care
Zxxx
p.s. I hate Status Quo, I'm more of a folk fan!
Posted by Zarla to Carrying Elephants! at 17 September 2010 14:36
Cusp,
He doesn't drive, and so if things need getting it naturally falls to me. When asked to order something to be delivered instead, he invariably leaves it too late-necessitating an emergency trip....by me!
You never said a truer word about how demoralising it is, as you know things are going a little 'conference-shaped' in some areas of my life just now -things will improve I'm sure.
I am not good at sticking to my boundaries, I'm often doing just that one chore too much cos it's easier than getting someone else to do it.
I'm blessed with a 16year old who is great, and his father... who is more like a 10year old! If I ask hubby for something to be done, very often it CERTAINLY will not be, just a stubborn dude! Hence, it doesn't get done whether I ask, or I don't!!
Still, can't seem to do much about him and his attitude, sorry have to go de-lint my blindfold and polish up my tacks!
In all seriousness Cusp, I really appreciate your comments, not only do you leave me thinking, but you always leave me laughing!
Take care
Zxxx
p.s. I hate Status Quo, I'm more of a folk fan!
Posted by Zarla to Carrying Elephants! at 17 September 2010 14:36
Zarla
Sep 18, 2010, 1:29:04 PM9/18/10
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Jo,
Yes, you may be right about the balance of power in the relationship, and Cusp is right when she says its eay to get demoralised.
We've spent an hour or two talking this afternoon and although he's still not on the same page as me, we are at least on the same chapter...!
Onwards and upwards.
I'm sorry that your chap can't yet embrace something that would make life easier for you, and the family, I think mine would freak too.
Maybe if you told him about the pink and naked alternative.........!
take care Jo, and thank you
Zxx
Posted by Zarla to Carrying Elephants! at 18 September 2010 18:29
Yes, you may be right about the balance of power in the relationship, and Cusp is right when she says its eay to get demoralised.
We've spent an hour or two talking this afternoon and although he's still not on the same page as me, we are at least on the same chapter...!
Onwards and upwards.
I'm sorry that your chap can't yet embrace something that would make life easier for you, and the family, I think mine would freak too.
Maybe if you told him about the pink and naked alternative.........!
take care Jo, and thank you
Zxx
Posted by Zarla to Carrying Elephants! at 18 September 2010 18:29
Zarla
Sep 19, 2010, 10:20:21 AM9/19/10
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Toni,
The letter is a great idea, and I can see I'll maybe have to use it at some point.
I have managed to cope with the situation for 10 years, but i'm just not prepared to anymore... especially as lately i have met PWME whos partners are very much better than mine own!!
As you say Toni, my plate is heaped at the minute, i just don't have room for any more, and i'm on a diet!
I hope things are going ok with you, and that you are taking care.
Zxxx
Posted by Zarla to Carrying Elephants! at 19 September 2010 15:20
The letter is a great idea, and I can see I'll maybe have to use it at some point.
I have managed to cope with the situation for 10 years, but i'm just not prepared to anymore... especially as lately i have met PWME whos partners are very much better than mine own!!
As you say Toni, my plate is heaped at the minute, i just don't have room for any more, and i'm on a diet!
I hope things are going ok with you, and that you are taking care.
Zxxx
Posted by Zarla to Carrying Elephants! at 19 September 2010 15:20
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