What to do?

[Bab...@aol.com]

*Please excuse spelling.

I'm a 27 yr old woman running a small successful and high profile business in
Calif. with my mother and step father (who I feel is really my father). Both
of my parents have health and behavioural issues that affect the business and
my mental and general physical health: father - war disabled (back, legs,
requires some injections to replace missing organs), forgets important dates
and information but will consistantly say he did/did not say something he
did/did not, drinks almost nightly (Crown, Jack, beer, wine, whatever - guess
would be 4-8 drinks) ; mother - TMJ (in process of having all teeth recapped
and has probably had at least 5 surgeries performed over the last 5 years -
idea is to fix her particular problem with the alignment of her jaw,
especially while eating, and the pain will decrease or go away), smokes
approx 2 packs (Carlton Lights) per day, MAY drink 8 ounces of water in a day
but probably less and a rare day if more, has approx 4 cups of coffee (2
sugars and plenty of creame) per day, has approx 5 sodas (Coke, Dr. Pepper)
per day, may eat one meal per day but most likely to snack on cookies,
donuts, fast food (Burger King), takes approx 3 Percodan a day (in extreme
cases of several painful days will require her to take 7-9 a day), takes
approx 8 (more likely 12) Vicodin 5 mg (generic and brand) a day, may also
take 5mg of Valum a day but probably not daily but approx 70% of the time,
may also take Tylenol 3 or 4's either in addition to or instead of Vicodin,
Zantac - whatever the normal dosage is for a person with moderate condition
(had a laceration in her Pancreas several months ago), and "works" 14-20
hours per day seven days a week.

"Works" means that she may be physically in the building but little to
nothing actually gets completed. She spends her hours demeaning and
humiliating myself, my father and our employees either in public (with
others) or in private sessions. Has actually told me to "Shut the fuck up"
in several different meetings, this comment usually complements her extreme
physical and borderline violent actions. Recently the "Conspiracy Incidnets"
have been increasing. The most extreme I can think of was approx 2 weeks ago
she accused me of assisting a previous employee (who left the company with
self esteem in shreds and months of terrible personal treatment, to go to a
competitor, over a year later she is doing extremely well in a job that
require the same tasks as job did at our company) and a woman who was to be
leaving the company within the next day (needed a more professional working
environment and advancement - basically got tired of coming into hell every
day). The way in which I assisted was by providing these two women the
"concscious to do what they did". What this meant was by talking to them
about incidents (which my mother's behaviour was not acceptable and/or
totally unprofessional, in our opinions) gave them justification to steal
intellectual property. There was even a letter prepared for me to sign,
admitting (knowingly or unkowningly) assisting with the data theft. I did
not sign the letter and she would not let me out of her office, physically
threatened me, this whole process went on for 3 hours. The whole time she
would not tell me how I really helped them (our information systems are
protected and these individuals wouldn't know how to use the internal system
- and I do). When she finally told me what gave her the idea something was
being stolen (the other woman was the person stealing the data) I explained
to her the real technical answer (computer system had crashed and threw open
files in trash at restart - no big deal other than our databases with tons of
info and other stuff). Come to find out many hours later that was the same
answer she heard from our technical person, and never said anything. After
this night I was physically ill for 5 days, could barely move with a horrible
migraine, have not been into work or answered the phones or pager in 10 days.

Besides the horrible personal behaviour my mother imposes on society, she
does to the extreme core emotional nerve to everyone in the family and all
our employees. My father is scared (literally) of what she might do if he
trys to gain some kind of control, either publically or privately . This
whole situation will be the cause of the business failing. My parents
livelihood is tied to the business and it's not like they will have an easy
time finding a job, they probably couldn't get a job at this point. I'm
angry because they want to cut me out of everything and I'm just as much
responsible for buildign the business to where it is today as they are. I am
the single person with the most knowledge (and I'm not there anymore and
havn't been there for a week).

Also, my step brother (15) is living with my parents. They couldn't deal
with the teenager high school scenarious so he is on home schooling which
means he is in the office working 7 days a week, with NO life outside that.
My mother has destroyed my brothers belongings, tearing items into pieces
then burning them in the fireplace, smashed (nice) portable stereo with a
hammer, and more. Yes it is true that sometimes people are idiots and
sometimes teenagers act like jerks but the extreme emotional turmoil caused
is compltely uneccary.

After all this info it is barely telling what is really going on. My
question is with the basic info I have provided and your knowledge of the
chemical substances, what can I expect? What do I do? Where can I go for
help? This is extremely serious and I don't know what to do.