The weakness with those numbers is they are basically measuring the thickness of the gold plating on the contacts. I've done it myself, balancing lifetime insertions vs gold plating thickness. Running hundreds of connect/disconnect cycles.
But it assumes you are inserting carefully and correctly. They usually test with fixtures, to ensure optimal alignment. No twisting, no angle, no offset. Those things stress the (usually) plastic housing. For me, that's what always breaks, the plastic housing. I've never seen a connector with any kind of spec for how long the plastic bits last.
For years I was being cheap, and using RJ45 cables with broken clips. Works fine, until a gnat lands on the cable, moves it just slightly, the connection fails (usually intermittently), and I spend all day tracing the issue back to a loose connection.
Now when the clip breaks, I cut the cable in half. Just to prevent myself from using it again.
Bruce