I started this process by going to the regular dentist, we went and met with 3 Othodontist before finding one we liked, we set up a game plan, his teeth are spaced apart, he has is 2 front teeth but not the Lateral incisor, we are able to move the canine over in their place, we have the 2nd bicuspid and 2nd molar, we are leaving them where they are and keeping the baby teeth for not, thats the top.
the bottom we have the lateral incisor but not the 2 central incisors, we have the canine the 1st bicuspid and 2nd molar, we are leaving all baby teeth, but going to move the lower lateral incisor over so he would only need 1 central incisor, since we have a total of 4 molars, we only need to put in 4 teeth on top and 4 on bottom for him to have a full front smile and enough teeth in the back to chew food without discomfort.
Our Ortho was concerned with his mouth staying full and not looking puckered or "sunk in", so we keep the baby teeth healthy and are careful not to move or disrupt them in any way, i have his xrays at home, i could send you a copy after Christmas so you can see where we started, it was mess!!! The mouth needs to keep as many teeth as possible for bone strength and fullness once you lose a tooth, if a new one doesnt come in its place the bone can actually shrink and be of no use for implants or jaw fullness, we have never been too concerned with having all the molars in the back since we have some adults and baby teeth for now and will get implants for a few later, we wanted to be sure the front of his mount had as many teeth as possible. The orthodontic insurance has paid their portion for the braces, but its only one payment for life and you cant submit more claim unless you switch insurance companies, once he gets older and wants implants, they cover about half of each one, and you can always claim "loss of value of life" due to the fact that a persons mouth and teeth are the first things you see when meeting someone, they typically pay an ok portion of whats needed. They definitely dont cover enough and by the time this is all over, i will have around 10K in his mouth, but since it comes in payments and steps its not that big of a deal, the braces have cost 5K out of pocket, but thats a 4 year plan for us since we have so much to do and since we are moving his teeth slowly to not disturb the baby teeth its a long process. We still have to get the retainer and we have discussed getting a retainer with "fake teeth" built on the retainer if he has lost any baby teeth when the time comes so he doesnt have to be missing teeth until hes 18 and can get implants. We discussed getting bridges instead of implants, but with bridges they actually have to file down the neighboring tooth and attach the fake tooth to the real ones, my ortho thinks this isnt the best action for someone like my son since we have so few teeth we dont want to file any of them down, so implants is the best choice.
I say find a dentist and ortho ( those 2 will work together a lot) that you like, that makes a plan and takes you and your childs feelings into consideration, ask a TON of questions, i even cried while discussing it my doctors understood, we talked for almost 2 hours and not once did he rush me. Having a good team of doctors behind your child can make you feel so much better about it all and therefore make your kid feel good about it, when we are scared they are scared.