[Pinkworld Son Big Baby Man.
Abdul Soumphonphakdy
I grew up a tomboy, keeping pace with my brother and 3 boy cousins as we played wiffleball in my backyard and touch football in the front. I was as tough as they come (or so I thought) and Pink was way too girly for me.
I always saw Pink as frou-frou, frilly and frankly, weak. I was above Pink; she was not going to define me or my child. When I was creating the baby registry for my daughter, I chose as many green, yellow and grey items as possible. I gave my mother-in-law a hard time for getting my daughter a pink poofy dress, and unapologetically asked her to return another pink dress that she got my daughter. I look back on those instances embarrassed of myself for many reasons.
Sweet, innocent, beautiful Pink. Corporations have used and abused her for their own gain. So that they could claim more market share, take advantage of female buying power, and make it easier for men to get women gifts. Fun fact: women drive 70-80% of all consumer spend!
Corporate use of Pink leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Deceiving consumers. Pigeonholing and stereotyping women. Making little girls look outside of themselves to fit in. I love the business world but damn its capitalistic ways that bastardized Pink!
Every person, Black, White, Asian, Latina, young, old, healthy and sick, is Pink. Give each one of us a paper cut and you will see the real Pink that is our flesh. We have come to forget this and think Pink lives outside of ourselves.
Tell them and help them to get in touch with their inner self and to look inside to understand what true beauty is and to understand the power that Pink represents, the tremendous power that they possess.
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Sometimes people just fail to develop into social or intellectual maturity. Maybe it's due to a very loving but confining mother or father, who don't suggest or won't let them get a job and move out, enabling their laziness or dependence instead. Maybe they were never taught any responsibility growing up, and now that they're adults, it's too late and they're set in their ways. Maybe they're a Spoiled Brat who's learned to manipulate their parents into doing what they want, and the parents came to the conclusion that it's just easier to indulge them than to fight about it. Or maybe they just didn't want to leave the nest. Maybe they've been intentionally secluded from learning about the world. Or they grew up as a neglected orphan without a proper education or any guidance towards adult life. Maybe their parents or legal guardians simply failed to teach them how to do things like cook for themselves, keep their home clean, balance the checkbook, make and stick to a budget, pay bills and taxes, do minor home repairs, or change a tire. Maybe they were literally Raised by Wolves. Maybe it's the result of brain damage, an intellectual disability or developmental disorder, or something sinister. Perhaps they just never had a life-changing moment involving a shotgun and a beloved pet. Maybe it's just a form of Mars and Venus Gender Contrast, or they live in a society with certain gender roles, where one sex is expected to be the responsible one, and the other is not expected to be (and is not always taught to be). Who can say?
Although the causes might not be clear, the effects are. The Man-Child, a term invented by William Faulkner, is usually an adult who possesses a very childlike or (stereotypically) childish demeanor. He's emotionally both simple and fragile; he prefers (although does not always need) to have a parent figure to look after him. He usually isn't very worldly and is typically pretty gullible. The Man-Child's interests are usually what most people consider to be immature or childish, sometimes even in comparison to actual children.
The character is almost Always Male. This is (presumably) to contrast the differences between him and "normal men" with the normal responsibilities and wisdom of adulthood. The female version is usually split between The Ingenue, the Manic Pixie, the Genki Girl, or other tropes which highlight an adult woman's child-like attributes rather than her grown-up persona. Manchild has many more negative connotations than The Ingenue; the manchild's immaturity and lack of outward adult behavior is emphasized as being a bad thing versus being an emphasized good thing like The Ingenue's purity and idealism. This is also because of the Double Standard most societies have, which exist for various reasons, where they expect more from men than they do from women. More contemporary works are increasingly likely to play female examples as unsympathetic (or, at the very least, deeply flawed), with a characterization that is fairly similar - irresponsible, unreliable, unable or unwilling to meet basic adult responsibilities on their own, and dependent on others. When portrayed unsympathetically, female examples are typically more dysfunctional than male examples, as their parasitism is typically aimed at partners (usually viewing them as meal tickets and lifestyle subsidizers, and often cheating on them when they grow bored with them or find a better provider), and they also tend to have more severe mental health issues and are more likely to have serious issues with substances.
On the Brain Chain, the Man Child occupies a space between The Cloud Cuckoolander and The Ditz, but without necessarily becoming The Fool. He usually does not have The Fool's luck, but he doesn't necessarily play the role of the Butt-Monkey either. Although the Man-Child is commonly portrayed as being mentally challenged, he does not necessarily have to be. In many cases, the character may be very intelligent, and even leave the idealism aside and be very shrewd in business or career, but this only makes him seem creepy when others find out his emotional immaturity. Alternatively, his childlike qualities/way of thinking, when intelligently applied, can be a basis for his success as a businessman, in which case he's also The Wonka.
In comedic works, he usually plays the role of The Ditz. In dramatic works, he could be the Jerk with a Heart of Gold due to his simplicity or immaturity, or the sympathetic character we come to love. Sometimes the Man Child embarks on a late-in-the-day Coming of Age Story, which ushers him into true adulthood. Note that usually Sex as Rite-of-Passage works only some of the time. In many instances, a Man Child is not necessarily a virgin, but only sees sex as a tool of pleasure and does not recognize its emotional significance. If he ever gets married, it's likely that his wife will end up being a mother-figure not only to their children but to him as well, doing all the "emotional labor" needed to keep the household afloat while he just coasts along and drags her into all sorts of wacky hijinks. If he doesn't, there's a good chance that he's a Glorified Sperm Donor - he very likely knocked up an ex or casual sex partner, but plays no role in the child's life whatsoever, either because he can't or because he won't (quite often both).
Some will agree that this is Truth in Television for certain people, as there do exist many immature adults out there who refuse to grow up. Sometimes it's just people who are capable of engaging in adult responsibilities but have childlike interests and personalities in their free time, other times it's adults who somehow have all the knowledge capable of living independently yet the emotional maturity and mentality of a spoiled child (or teenager). The likeliest cause of the man-child is a sheltered upbringing or mental illness, particularly Peter Pan Syndrome.
Does not relate to Never Grew Up, because they physically did grow up - but never outgrew being attached to immature or childish things or behavior. Sister Trope (perhaps) to Adults Dressed as Children, although that trope is almost always played for laughs or borders on the grotesque. Compare Keet, One of the Kids, Kiddie Kid. For a villainous version, see Psychopathic Manchild. Compare Basement Dweller. May form a Nerd Hoard out of items relating to their childish obsessions. Not related to Manchild, the British TV series, either. Compare and contrast The Three Faces of Adam. Contrast with Wise Beyond Their Years, where a child acts like an adult. Can overlap with Only One Finds It Fun for when the manchild is entertained by children's entertainment that fails to entertain the actual children. May engage in the Jinx Game as an adult and expect others to abide by the rules.
Magazines
- British lad-mag Loaded was predicated on this trope and serviced the needs of Man-Children who were beginning to feel marginalized and scorned by a society and culture that no longer valued them as much. At its peak in The '90s it had a circulation approaching half a million and spawned many imitators, including American equivalents like GQ and Maxim.
Podcasts
- The premise of Podcast: The Ride is the innate humor of "three childless men in their thirties" talking about Theme Parks for hours on end. Jason in particular is targeted for frequent jokes regarding how his height and love of sweets make him seem even more of a grown child.
Professional Wrestling
- George Steele, after his face turn. Fans would instantly sympathize with "the Animal" as he tried to win over Miss Elizabeth, which sparked a legendary feud with Randy Savage. Several vignettes were also filmed featuring Steele, such as at the Detroit Zoo and at an ice cream factory (one which made ice cream bars featuring wafers imprinted with a WWF superstar); still later, he was paired with a hand puppet named "Mine."
- Alexis Laree in Bad Boys Of Wrestling. She mistook birth control for candy.
- Find an archive that houses Abyss's career (at least starting with the Abyss gimmick) and marvel as he gradually transitions from a Wrestling Monster in Puerto Rico and NWA to asking if Jacqueline on his lap means he's no longer a virgin in TNA.
- R-Truth after being betrayed by John Morrison on WWE Raw, rapidly descended into an madness and childlike behavior.
- The Rock's criticism of John Cena basically boiled down to The Rock seeing Cena as a giant child. Cena had a counter argument, though it didn't endear him anymore.
- Wrestlers who frequently throw tantrums when things don't go their way, such as Chris Jericho when he's a heel, Alicia Fox or Ken Anderson.