Dear David,
I see the issue. It is possible to specify the option "node has to be non-zero on attribute" which, however, would require that all participating nodes have the characteristic - not just one and the others may or may not.
I think that the setting "UHE has to be non-zero on attribute" would not solve the issue. With this setting all non-event hyperedges have to assume a value different from zero in the given attribute. It would not be sufficient that non-event hyperedges overlap with a given hyperedge (containing those nodes that have the property). We applied this setting in the 2019 preprint ("REM beyond dyads") to fit a model on repeated teams of coauthors. A hyperedge (team of authors) assumes a non-zero value in the attribute once they have published a paper together - and from then on they can be sampled in the model for repeated author teams. In your case you would have to set the hyperedge attribute for all possible sets (all sets of nodes containing at least one that has the characteristic).
In fact, I can think of one work-around. You consider your events as directed hyperevents always having one source node (one of those that have the characteristic) and a varying number of target nodes (all others). The settings would would be "source has to be non-zero on attribute" (giving the attribute indicating which nodes have the characteristic) and the target nodes probably have no constraints (or at least a different one). However, I cannot oversee whether it will really work out. For directed hyperedges there are other effects available than for undirected ones. It the "logic" of your events is undirected you would probably choose settings for directed hyperedge statistics ignoring this direction. For example "undirected repetition" which is a DHE_REPETITION_STAT with direction=SYM and no endpoint specified. I guess that for the triadic / closure statistics it gets more complicated to mimic an undirected behavior. It may or may not work - depending on which effects you want to test.
Best wishes
Juergen