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Ann Fontaine
Wyoming
1. Get to know them.
2. Treat them as people, and as just as much a part of your
community as elders or families with children. Don't think of them
as a curiosity that occasionally wanders in between Confirmation and
marriage and won't stick around -- unless you're into self-fulfilling
prophecy. Welcome them and treat them as you would the people your
parish is best at welcoming, whether that be new young families,
retired bishops or tithing orthopedic surgeons. (Don't leave them
out of Foyer invitations. When appropriate, give them their own place
in the parish rolls ... and pledge cards.)
3. Don't assume you know who they are, what they care about, what
they believe. (For example, the late teens/early 20s in my parish
are probably more conservative, on the whole, than the people of my
generation. And I remember the exasperation I felt at a very good
chaplain who could not seem to get it into his head that, no, this
particular group of college students did not spend their time
worrying about nuclear war, as all the adults supposed.)
4. Give them work of ministry to do. Not the things YOU like to do,
or liked to do at their age. (They're may not be interested in
Daughters of the King.) Find out what THEY are inspired to do and
empower them to do it.
5. Don't be judgmental, but be ready to talk about your beliefs and
values and listen to theirs. (If you're not in general ready to talk
or listen, it's time to make a change.)
6. If they bring friends to church, treat their friends as persons
worthy of respect as well, and as people who might decide to become
important members of your church...if you let them.
7. Be interested in their gifts and talents and prepared to make use
of them if they are willing to share, even if that means looking
outside of the ways you have always done things. (Our ministry to
young people grew out of their desire to start a praise band and have
a monthly alternative worship service. They were NOT interested in
singing in our chancel choir or being acolytes, though most also do
participate in bell choir.)
8. If you are in a position to be thinking about staffing for growth,
think about hiring someone with a real expertise in ministry with
young people. Let the young people you have be part of the vision
and search process. Make it a real position with benefits, and try
to get someone good and keep them around for a long time.
9. Help them find their way into the peculiarities of the worship
and community of a church, and in the transition to adult faith from
their childhood religiosity (or no faith at all). You'll probably
find that they are not the only people there who would benefit from
help in that transition, either; it's just that some have had to wait
a long time for it.
10. Develop the habit of looking beyond the fact that someone is
wearing a heavy metal T-shirt, pants pulled down almost to their
knees, green hair, hair on only one side of their head, tattoos, or
an entire hardware store worth of piercings. Then extend this habit
to older people who come in "looking different" too. If you have a
hard time with this, think about how odd Jesus' clothes and grooming
would look in your church, or yours in the synagogues of his day.
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Steven Horst, Ph.D., Alternate Lay Deputy, Diocese of CT
Dean of Middlesex Deanery
Church of the Holy Trinity, Middletown, CT (http://www.holytrinityct.org)
Professor of Philosophy
Department of Philosophy
Wesleyan University
Middletown, CT 06459 USA
The young adult's group that developed at my parish happened
naturally, and is now larger than the chaplaincy at the local
university. The group has parents, grad students, young professionals
and academics, and I'm sure others I'm leaving out. We all have very
different backgrounds, and many of us are going to transition out of
the area. What has made our rector extremely useful for us is
recognising that both the importance of the group to us and the
fludity of the group. She also realises that we all have different
things we need out of the parish, and doesn't try to get us all into
one ministry.
Cheers!
allie
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A few thoughts...
I agree about demographics not predicting tastes in worship. When
some of our young people (then all teenagers) started a praise band a
few years back, it grew into a monthly Saturday night service. But it
did not become a youth service. A number of our seniors love it, and
the band's friends have come and gone, but a lot of those who are
regulars are younger boomers and older X-ers. If there is a growth
group there, it may be something like people who have grown
dissatisfied with the Evangelical-lite experience in the local
equivalent of megachurches.
I would want to caution with respect to Dylan's wonderful story that
we should not assume that new worship initiatives will begin with
experienced and theologically educated people like her. If you've
got people with a vision for a different worship experience, let them
give it a go. They need to understand that many efforts fail for
reasons that do not reflect ill upon those who tried them, but the
leadership needs to understand that some also succeed!
It also occurs to me that starting a new type of worship service in
Boston is different from doing so in a town with only one Episcopal
church. Where people can easily travel to a few dozen churches by
public transportation, one can hope that things will spring up that
will allow everyone who is really looking to find worship that suits
their taste. If you're the only church in town, or the only one
within 100 miles, it may be different. Though in one sense it is
not: Dylan's story is about building a worship experience that suits
the people she found herself among. In her case, it was people who
shared a background in particular musical styles. But somehow I
suspect that she would find a way to do the same sort of thing in
other sorts of contexts as well.
You wouldn't know it from reading the newspaper or watching the television, but today is the first Sunday of Advent, the beginning of the Church year.
You'd hardly even know it was just Thanksgiving, because that too has been eclipsed by this strange new holiday called Black Friday. It's the biggest shopping day of the year, a time when merchants have special deals to lure us in. Some people wait out in the cold all Thanksgiving night to be the first ones in the doors of the big box stores. If you wait until 10 am, it may be too late to get a good deal on a television or refrigerator.
Well, God has a special offer for us too. It's not a Black Friday deal. It's a Good Friday deal.
Jesus was up the whole night before, getting it ready.
He gave it everything he had until 3 in the afternoon.
It's the best deal of all time.
With this deal, you won't just saveŠyou'll be saved.
What do you get? You get forgiveness of your sins. You get God's own Spirit to guide you. You get adopted as God's own son or daughter, with a whole new family of millions of sisters and brothers. And you get everlasting life.
It's absolutely free.
There's enough for everybody.
And it's still available where you live.
You don't need to drive to the mall or go online. Jesus stands at the door and knocks. If anyone will open the door and invite him in, he will make his dwelling with them. (cont'd.)
For those of you recovering from having to compete with Black Friday weekend for your congregation's time, I forward excerpts from a sermon for Advent and the Sunday after Black Friday, pointing to the notable offer God made on another Friday. :-)You wouldn't know it from reading the newspaper or watching the television, but today is the first Sunday of Advent, the beginning of the Church year.You'd hardly even know it was just Thanksgiving, because that too has been eclipsed by this strange new holiday called Black Friday. It's the biggest shopping day of the year, a time when merchants have special deals to lure us in. Some people wait out in the cold all Thanksgiving night to be the first ones in the doors of the big box stores. If you wait until 10 am, it may be too late to get a good deal on a television or refrigerator.Well, God has a special offer for us too. It's not a Black Friday deal. It's a Good Friday deal.Jesus was up the whole night before, getting it ready.He gave it everything he had until 3 in the afternoon.It's the best deal of all time.With this deal, you won't just saveŠyou'll be saved.What do you get? You get forgiveness of your sins. You get God's own Spirit to guide you. You get adopted as God's own son or daughter, with a whole new family of millions of sisters and brothers. And you get everlasting life.It's absolutely free.There's enough for everybody.And it's still available where you live.You don't need to drive to the mall or go online. Jesus stands at the door and knocks. If anyone will open the door and invite him in, he will make his dwelling with them. (cont'd.)
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Steven Horst, Ph.D., Alternate Lay Deputy, Diocese of CT
Dean of Middlesex Deanery
Church of the Holy Trinity, Middletown, CT (http://www.holytrinityct.org)
Professor of Philosophy
Department of Philosophy
Wesleyan University
Middletown, CT 06459 USA
http://www.stevenhorst.com
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" .... hold more suppers, greet more strangers, give more responsibility to the young, laugh more. " Tom Ehrich
Our prayer team is available every week during communion to pray with
people for healing or any other need. When the rector mentions us
during announcements, we get more people coming back. She also says
that if anyone wishes to turn over their lives to Christ or recommit
them, we are available to pray with them in that as well. However,
that mostly only happens on occasions when people are invited to do
it in the sermon as well. (I believe the first time we did this, we
had five people who committed their lives to Christ.)
We have sheets with short prayers of acceptance on them available. I
had recently noticed they had disappeared and wrote up new ones for
this past Sunday, when I was going to do my evangelistic Good
Friday/Black Friday sermon. But it got me thinking about how we do
this, and wondering how others approach it.
As I think about it, I am not at all sure that ushering people
through a quick conversion prayer is the best approach. I'm keen
enough on the idea that it can be a good thing to have a particular
moment in one's life when one explicitly turns everything over to
God. I did that 30-some years ago and have never looked back. And
I'm not thinking here about the people for whom the standard
Evangelical model does not make sense, and have to be reached in
other ways. And of course I believe that when people wish to commit
to Christ, they should also be offered resources for spiritual
formation -- it's not like getting the flu shot, after all.
But when someone comes and says "I want to turn my life over to
Jesus", there has probably been a lot going on that we at the prayer
station do not know about. In that particular context, with other
people waiting in line for prayer, we don't have the opportunity for
extended conversation and discernment. In some cases, the people who
come may not want to talk to us about the particulars, and sometimes
they are people who are just there for the day. (For example, a few
weeks back a visitor whose wife had recently died a holy death wanted
to pray to renew his faith and have the sort of faith and hope he saw
in her.) And indeed, those who we see every week may particularly
not want to share the parts of their lives that they wish to give up
and move beyond. I may suspect that they would benefit from seeing a
priest for the sacrament of reconciliation, but I cannot offer it
myself, and am not sure that it is my place to suggest putting off
the act they came to perform for that or any other reason. (I think
there ARE moments of particular grace in our lives that should not be
allowed to pass by without taking action.) Yet part of me, I am
realizing, would be more comfortable seeing conversion come in the
context of some sort of counseling and spiritual direction before the
fact.
I apologize if my thoughts on this are not clear enough to lead to
specific questions, but am hoping I might start some discussion that
would draw upon collective wisdom and experience about the wonderful
if daunting ministry of assisting others in making a commitment to
Christ.