"When somebody provokes your anger, the only reason you get
angry is because you’re holding on to how you think something is
supposed to be. You’re denying how it is. Then you see it’s the
expectations of your own mind that are creating your own hell. When
you get frustrated because something isn’t the way you thought it
would be, examine the way you thought, not just the thing that frustrates
you. You’ll see that a lot of your emotional suffering is created by your
models of how you think the universe should be and your inability to
allow it to be as it is."