Assuming the dual output wind turbine controllers have blocking diodes internally and the Lead Acid is always present the voltage on the second output will not be higher than about 15V so all 3 option's will be equally fine.
I think that wind controller will have a voltage on the second battery output that is Lead Acid battery voltage + 0.7 to 1V drop on the blocking diode on the Lead Acid output.
So no in that case the ideal diode in the DSSR50 should not have any impact.
A solar controller will typically be powered by battery and that will be prevented by the DSSR50 thus it will likely not work depending on design. The Victron MPPT's will likely work as they can be also powered by PV solar and even with no battery connected they output about 14V or 28V thus again the DSSR50 will not have an impact on functionality.
The DSSR50 has an ideal diode so only a few mV drop not hundreds of mV to 1V on regular diodes so chargers will be able to see the actual battery voltage when they push a current in to battery.
As for max voltage handled by the DSSR50 is 60V the Victron battery protect max 32V (it has 35V rated input electrolytic capacitors) and do not know about the Fotek SSR's probably also 60V
I got some Fotek SSR's in the past from different sellers and they where all different and some where defect when received.
They seem to use a IGBT and will have about 0.7 to 1.1V drop meaning that at 40A they will need to be able to dissipate about 40W and that will require a large heatsink with active fan cooling.
Heatsink and active cooling is not required for Victron battery protect or DSSR50 as heat dissipation is order of magnitude lower.
A trip breaker controlled by EXT IOx set as type 6 to isolate the battery is all you need as secondary protection in order to protect the battery from both overcharge and overdischarge in case either a charger fails or a load fails.
The trip breaker will need to have two separate contacts one connected just after the PV shunt and the other just after battery shunt that way the battery will be fully isolated from all charge sources and all Loads and only the current shunts will remain connected to battery+
The DEXT will be available next month and that will provide plenty of EXT IOx and also output to directly control up to two trip circuit breakers.