
I'm sorry to hear you are having trouble.
As you can still connect to the wifi of the esp32, you may try updating the firmware over the preliminary, not really well tested web update form.
Go to /update on your sbms and then upload first the firmware.bin and then the spiffs.bin from https://github.com/armageddon421/electrodacus-esp32/releases
This should reset everything.
It should not be necessary to power cycle the device from the sbms' menu.
Greetings
Robert