Sharing a few thoughts for Would-be Bride / Grooms
vasanth sekhar
For Would-Be Grooms(Ladke THODA Dhyaan Dein……………):
Rule.No.1 - Never compare your mamma's cooking with your wife's! There
is no faster way to dig your own grave than that! Please understand
that your mom's cooking has the backing of 20 odd years of
experience.. ..don't expect that from your wife whose hardly into the
process! What if she were to compare your earning capacity with her
dad's!!! So shshshhhhh.. ..!!!
Rule.No.2: Do compliment her every now and then, verbally or with
gifts! What are those lovely Teddies and Archies gift cards for? Don't
sit there like the Lord Of The Rings expecting to be waited upon! Of
course she will do it but everyone likes to be appreciated and
pampered!!!!
Rule.No.3: Please know that there is world other than you for your
lady. If you are the easy going sorts, she too has friends and family
like you. If you are the possessive sorts, she cannot be a person like
you as each person is different. Space these days is very important in
a relationship. Give her the space she wants and she will be happy
with you.
Rule.No.4: This is very important! Sulking or complaining about
marriage being a big mistake is a strict NO -NO !! You got into it
with your eyes wide open, brimming with enthusiasm !! No one ever
pushed you into it! So why this drama now!
Rule.No.5: It is important for a lady to feel that her future man is
competitive, as these days the whole world is so competitive. This is
especially when the lady is career oriented. So don’t freak her out by
being lethargic. Have the right focus about your career.
Rule.No.6: Be Brave and take your own decisions and stand up by them !!
Consult your parents for advice but realize that you are grown up
enough to lead your life! Respect your partner's views at all times!
Remember she has given up a lot more to make a life with you!!
Sharing thoughts for Would-be Brides(ab LADKIYON ki Baari……………………….):
1. Don't expect too much from him. Less the expectations lesser the
disappointments.
2. Don't ever dare to plan any outing or movie on a day when there is
an interesting cricket match going on. REMEMBER SPORTS <READ CRICKET>
is more important to him than anything else. U spoil his day n He
spoils urs
3. Over Emotions, Sentiments.. . Woha... What are these? Tears are not
going to give any results either. It's just a temp. attention tht u
get. No one likes Cry Babies m Whining Wifes.
4. Never dare to cross with his mother. Even if he says "My Mom's
cooking is the best. U are nothing in front of her." take it easily
with a smile. Tell him tht u are learning from his mother and will try
to do it better. U are not gonna lose anything!
5. Try to know his friends and understand that they are also part of
his world. Allow him to spend few weekends or occasional night out
parties with his friends.But at the same time make sure that u get u r
due importance! It must not be tht he roams arnd with his friends
forgetting that you exist at home.
6. Don't start fighting for silly things. Forgetting birthdays n
Anniversaries is not a big mistake. Men are not blessed with 2 GB RAM
for storing everything in main memory.If you are very particular abt
present gifts n parties on u r birthdays n anniversaries. make sure u
remind them well in advance by some means (I know it sounds stupid.
But if u are so particular,Do it for u r own good)
7. Take him for your shopping only if he's interested. If you are
going for Window Shopping or for sari purchase, Better go with your
friends/go alone. He is better at office/home watching cricket.
8. Give him importance always. Show due care and affection. That 's
the only way to win a guy's mind.
Keep Smiling JJ