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[Marlys Stotesberry]

Obviouslythat was never your intention. Nor is it the way that he sold himself to you. An emotionally abusive partner normally projects himself as a special being that anyone in their right mind would feel incredibly lucky and grateful to have. (Although, if he believes in his own projection, that just proves he must be a tad deranged.)

Overall, he constantly challenges, and undermines, your notions of reality. He acts like the Agent of Anger and Hatred in your home, yet he sets himself up as the Voice of Wisdom and Reason. He acts like the husband from hell. But he labels you the wife (and mother) from hell.

If you feel that your relationship is driving you crazy, you probably are right. It is. However, that is because you are trying to stay sane around a Crazy-Maker. His craziness is not your responsibility.

An example of this could be a social event. You might be 100% sure that you were not made aware of an upcoming party and your partner will insist they told you. A one-off occurrence can happen to anyone but when this happens several times it is a form of crazy making.

Crazy makers project their internal chaos onto others. The emotional environment around them is tense, not rational and easy-going. Instead, people in their company often feel on edge, waiting to be picked on or judged in some way. When they make you feel anger, they are giving you a taster of what they feel all the time. They may cleverly disguise it, but crazy makers often have a history of tumultuous relationships. Generally, the more passive their partner is the longer the relationship will last.

Crazy makers will often make you feel as if you are doing something wrong without uttering a word. Instead, they will sigh loudly, roll their eyes (and make sure you see it) or shake their heads while you do something. This sends you a clear message that they disapprove of your actions. Instead of engaging in rational verbal communication, their subtle gestures will become something you are very in tune with. This is perfect for crazy makers as they can then carry on with their disapproving signs even when in public. On an ongoing basis, this erodes self esteem and confidence making a person even easier to manipulate.

Crazy making in relationships is all about gaining control. Crazy making behaviour often develops in childhood. When, as a child their emotional needs are not met, children learn dysfunctional ways to cope. They take these dysfunctional strategies with them into adulthood and try to use the same manipulative techniques in their adult relationships. Their manipulation tends to work better with other individuals with low self esteem although anyone is open to succumbing to this type of relationship depending upon their mental state at the time. Crazy makers are generally insecure people.

Crazy making in relationships comes in all shapes and sizes. It can be difficult to spot as there are many variations. If you find that you have become indecisive, doubt yourself regularly (whereas before you were quite self assured), have lost confidence or generally feel something is amiss but you cannot put your finger on it, it might be that you are in a crazy making relationship. Learning to interact as adults is key to forming a solid relationship where manipulation is not used as a form of control.

Crazy makers excel at challenging your thoughts and beliefs. They question your opinions, values, and decisions, making you doubt your own judgment. This manipulation can leave you feeling mentally drained and second-guessing your every move.

One key characteristic of a crazy maker is passive aggression. They express their anger or resentment indirectly, often by dragging their feet, being oppositional, obstinate, or ornery. These behaviors are their tools for exacting emotional control over you, and they can be challenging to spot for outsiders.

Attempt to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Pay attention to how they receive the confrontation. Are they willing to acknowledge the problem and work on it effectively? If not, it may be a sign that professional intervention is needed.

Evaluate how efficiently you and your partner deal with problems in your relationship. Healthy interactions involve identifying issues and finding effective solutions. If problem-solving seems next to impossible, it may be indicative of emotional immaturity or manipulation on their part.

Setting boundaries is crucial when dealing with a crazy maker. Clearly communicate your limits and expectations within the relationship. Be prepared to enforce these boundaries if they are repeatedly violated.

The internet is inundated with hyperbole and misinformation about narcissism, leaving many people confused and hopeless. Get the facts on narcissism and emotional abuse from someone who has been researching, writing about and treating narcissism and emotional abuse for over a decade.

He is the founder and director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute which offers education, training and counseling for people who want to break free of, and heal from, emotional abuse. Whether the perpetrator of the abuse is your spouse, partner, parent, boss, friend or family member, we offer practical advice for anyone trapped in a toxic, destructive relationship.

After betrayal, it is normal and expected to have all kinds of feelings. Most of them are pretty terrible as you would expect, but there are surprising feelings of love, connection, desire, bonding, and things along those lines that really can catch us off guard. It does not mean you are crazy, weak, or pathetic. It means you are normal. It is all instinctual and can be really frustrating as we seemingly lose control of ourselves and our rational thinking. "I don't want to love him, it would be easier to hate him after what he did, so why do I still feel this?"

For many of us, we navigate the waters of hysterical bonding (also see this) for a while, which is the most confusing tangle of emotions I have ever experienced. Following disclosure, being angry was easy. Being sad was easy. Very unpleasant, but easy. Simple. No confusion about having those feelings. Enter hysterical bonding - the twisted scenario in which, following the revelation of betrayal, the couple feels so much closer and more connected (since the secret is now shared). The level of relational intimacy is at an all time high, and the desire for physical intimacy often follows, sometimes in an almost primal way. It is an attempt by both parties to connect and heal the wound, even without conscious understanding that is what is going on. Juxtaposed amidst the intense shock, grief, and anger, hysterical bonding with the partner who betrayed you is so confusing and can sometimes feel like a loss of control or even self-betrayal. From a rational standpoint, why would I want to share myself intimately with someone who treated me with such disregard and abuse of my trust? If you have ever experienced this you know what I mean. If you are in this phase now, just know it's ok, it's normal, and there is nothing wrong with you.

Over time, as the hysterical bonding subsided for us and things leveled out a bit, I experienced a phenomenon that was intensely frustrating for both of us, and without explanation or words to process it. Amidst the ongoing pain, we would have experiences of true, deep connection, that were meaningful and rewarding. We were intentional about trying new activities and taking trips to prioritize our relationship, sharing new experiences and creating new memories. In these times, we were focused solely on each other, and by all standards they should have felt safe and exclusive. Sometimes they did, at least for a while, but often, I would become overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts and reminders, escalating my fear to a point where I would spiral and withdraw, physically and emotionally. My husband would be confused and understandably frustrated, asking what happened? We were just having this nice moment and now you are angry at me? I think sometimes he thought I went out of my way to spoil good times. It was confusing and frustrating for me as well, as it made it seem like I could never relax and enjoy anything, and I started to wonder if I was subconsciously self-sabotaging our efforts. This left me feeling hopeless and angry with myself, like I was clearly just not forgiving enough and not cut out for healing. I just assumed I was a failure or not trying hard enough.

Attachment ambivalence refers to the innate need for relational safety and security from the very person who has taken it from us, in which our survival instinct is at war with itself. The ambivalence created by betrayal can generate unpredictable and confusing feelings and behavior. It's not unusual to vacillate between wanting to be close and wanting to run away. The need to be close is intense, but the fear caused by betrayal and deception can overpower it and cause you to pull away. Without understanding what is going on, betrayed partners can be left confused by their own contradictory thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

It is a very normal response to trauma, instinctually reminding the wounded party of the offense in an effort to protect against future danger. As humans, our brains are wired for safety, sometimes at the expense of growth and healing. Humans can survive as a species without happiness but we can't survive without safety, so safety is instinctually prioritized, whether we realize it or not. As a result, our brains are often more naturally negative than positive, scanning for danger to make sure we are ok, before expanding toward more rewarding processes of connection, growth, and healing. That's why we can't just "get over it" or "put it in the past" if we haven't productively processed the situation enough to feel safe.

Understanding this really helped to articulate things I was experiencing but didn't understand. It also gave me words to help explain it to my husband since we both just thought I was crazy, or being difficult at best. There were times we were having a nice day, even going away for a night or two, when I was trying my best to stay focused on us in the present, to enjoy what we were doing together. Things would be humming along reasonably well and then - boom - I would be hit with a thought that created such pain and fear I would withdraw. This happened in the blink of an eye, leaving my husband wondering what he had missed.

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