I don't know... the way I read gmail's reply was that the method used
for authenticating the email does support forwarding, so as long as
the original sender of the message is authentic it should work, but
that's being broken somewhere along the way.
And yes unfortunately gmail do zap the mail. At least as far as the
receiver is concerned as they simply bounce it back. When I was
experimenting to try to work out what was going on, there were
occasions where eBay mail I'd forwarded to gmail myself from a
different account would bounce back to me with some sort of email not
accepted message I don't recall exactly.
In the end I set up a new email account with my ISP, then had e4ward
forward the eBay mail to it. I now download that email with my usual
email client, and it has a message rule set up to automatically
forward the eBay mail to my gmail account where it sits being stored
for backups. It's a bit of a ridiculous process, but at least that way
gmail doesn't bounce my eBay email any more.