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Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability

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  • 2 days ago: Strength thru vulnerability is a double edge sword. To be vulnerable is to be free of judgement, expectation and attachment or void of giving things meaning. That is the freedom. However we e humans ( westerners) are meaning machines, dualistic at our core, we are wired for right and wrong, being vulnerable is a direct opposite to those behavours. Vulnerability therefore must be embodied, one must be "oF iT", committed to that way of being and accept the connectivity with others of like being will be minimal ( just not many authentic beings out there) , albeit rewarding.
  • 2 days ago: Fear runs wild in our world. It would seem to me that our lack of vulnerability is deeply connected to our levels of fear. I would venture to say in direct correlation. The more fear the more false confidence and bravado. As human beings on this planet we have not come to grips with the FACT that this (our existence) can all end very quickly. A comet, a super flu or a dramatic temperature change could wipe us out forever. We are vulnerable and naked to the universe. If we understood this wholeheartedly it would not create more fear, it would free us from our notions of control and our inhuman thirst to have more. We would be more vulnerable.This talk explains so much. Our political world is irresponsive and irresponsible. Our health is painfully reaching the point of no return and we believe smart people are our enemies. If that's not a case of national numbing I don't know what is. Thank you Brené Brown, this will stay with me for a long time.
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    5 days ago: What a fabulous talk, definitely one of the best I've seen in a while. I feel better knowing that vulnerability is key: legitimizing my and the actions of those around me and helping us all to lead more fulfilling lives. Yet it is still rather distressing that it is just so much easier to be guarded and as a result, we will continue to mask our feelings. I hope we can all find the courage to take a breath and show our real selves one day.
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    6 days ago: How to be vulnerable in a world that everyone seems to be confident.
    For me, the more confident one seems to be, the more vulnerable he is. We're in a world where everybody use masks, and the only way to unravel one's essence is to present yourself as a vulnerable, imperfect person to the others.
  • Jun 11 2012: I think being vulnerable to everyone around you, can make bad intentioned people to take advantage of you. 
    I am more of the opinion that one has to be vulnerable, but to selective people who has the higher probability of being there for you in dire needs.
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    Jun 10 2012: I'd say we were separated at birth, but aren't we all? "Soul-mates on a journey to our better, bigger, higher, more loving selves," is what I understand us to be. Every time I hear my words and sentiments coming from someone else, I believe this more and more. So I resist not learning so much of these understandings decades ago, inspired by talks like these and others, I put my energy into moving forward, opening more knowing 'm free'er now than I've ever been. And with this freedom, comes a bigger and deeper capacity to serve. Thank you!
  • Jun 9 2012: This is an excellent presentation, I feel that Brené Brown hits the nail on the head so to speak when it comes to how vulnerability can help people find worthiness and happiness!

    Unfortunately being vulnerable is simply not a socially acceptable thing to do, particularly if you happen to be male. Although I have read and heard multiple accounts of how women have said they wish men where more understanding/caring/emotional/etc.. the fact is that women respond poorly to such men and respond well to the typical "tough guy" male.. Until women can realize that what they say they want and what they respond to are different and then do something to change how they respond good men are doomed.
  • Jun 6 2012: It's been about 2 years when I first saw this documentary. I finally understand what it means. Feeling shame allows you to 'channel' out the negativity and then you can finally begin to feel love again.
  • Jun 6 2012: Beautiful, insightful and so very important. Thank you Doctor Brene' Brown . I have ordered you new book and I intend to share it with my friends.
  • Jun 5 2012: This was great. I got to thinking what about the overly dramatic and emotional people in society? You know those people who wear their hearts on their sleeve and slew their vulnerability. It is almost as if they have no shame and can "open up" to everyone. Are they making true connections with people, or are they overusing vulnerability to gain popularity? Honestly, I dislike people who use something as powerful (as shown in this TEDtalk) as vulnerability so easily because it lowers the value of vulnerability. Think about sex as an example, sex, arguably, lost its value because of the hook-up culture.
    • Jun 6 2012: Maybe those people need to learn how to be vulnerable in another way. Those people need to be vulnerable to the fact they need to gain strength from themselves instead of the attention of others. Like those who succumb to the "hook up" culture may need to be vulnerable to spiritual connection they may try to gain from "hookin up"
    • Jun 12 2012: I think what you might want to ask yourself Julia, is why "those" people annoy you so badly. Is it really their behavior or are you seeing something in them (people being vulnerable) that you wish you were more?
      • Jun 15 2012: I couldn't agree more with you sylvain. Lenora, how can one learn to be vulnerable in another way? Would that not be numbing oneself in a way - isn't that how we - society have gotten to be in this state we are in now where vulnerability equates weakness... it could also be arguable that sex lost its value BECAUSE of being numb to being vulnerable ( DE-valuing emotions involved leading up to sex - something so intimate you WILL feel vulnerable - like love, closeness, hope, admission of such emotions could be identified with fear of rejection... shame... so by all means because vulnerability is a weakness, one must ensure by all means possible AVOID that .... hence the hook up culture. ) Like you said it arguable
    • 1 day ago: You mean the people that are afraid to be sincere, who exploit rapport and emotions to control others? Pretty common these days. Not real empowering to find your efforts were wasted because someone "cried wolf." More dehumanizing to find you ignored a real cry for help, I think, though. As for "hook up" culture, which I think is your real gripe. Do you mean like fishing or worm hunting? Do you pity the targets of your affection much as yourself? Is insecurity just the target? I mean no disrespect, but you might be interpreting it that way. Hey maybe they are, too? Is it possible that learning from certain kinds of mistakes could be a terrifying elimination process filled with people who won't wear warning labels and aren't forgiving if you stumble over a tender spot they tried to hide? A place where others learner's feelings? A world full of evasive, contrary, confusing, unsure and unprepared people? Lust and love and trust aren't the same words. Not mutually exclusive, I hope. I'm blaming this on whoever said "All's Fair in Love and War" - a grave injustice to both. Maybe one day I'll meet them and they'll be all scared and hurt me cause they heard what I said. Who knows, maybe I shouldn't take it out of context. Were they suggesting a treaty? Maybe I over reacted. I can imagine "grave injustice" sounds a little threatening. Oops. I was asking for it. As for losing value? Entertainment value? Educational value? Were you expecting to get more economic value? Virtue of Selfishness by Ayn Rand - great book, if that's the reference? Perhaps a vaccination against the rampant thought viruses of psychopathy and narcissism, sicknesses that exploit vulnerability. Still, Rand's cougar routine stole the thunder from her complaints about powerful older men's objectification of young, vulnerable women. Made her seem like a patronizing misandrist. Can't imagine her being popular with male prostitutes - probably uppity, cheap and demanding.
  • Jun 5 2012: I've just realized that I have been thinking about vulnerability since I read Marcel Mauss' "l'Essai sur le don". 
    Many aspects of our lives can be analysed with the key concept of why we feel (in many different ways) that we have to respond to kindness. Kindness can actually be considered as a self-righteous, pushy way of expressing your feelings. There's an inherent possibility. Yet, many people take courage and say 'I love you, I need you'. When it comes to this point, I think 'pretending' and in a way deceiving yourself, telling 'stories' are all necessary processes for mustering this courage. Your version of the events, (perhaps somewhat sweeter than reality) is what numbs your fear, just enough to clear your voice and at the other end, trick the receiving person into thinking the message was truly intended for themselves. Or so it might be. 
    There's a word in Japan where I live which makes me uncomfortable; 'uzai' is mainly an adjective to describe someone or something they feel is just a bother, not worth recognition. Uzai things are often ignored. I feel this word cuts apart many levels of connection in our society. I think uzai acts initiate relationships of vulnerability with people.     
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    Jun 5 2012: Remarkable..so insightful and beautifully articulated. Thank you.
  • Jun 4 2012: Alienation. We evade vulnerability through alienation. We alienate ourselves, the inner being that is authentic. We learn from the outside world that to be safe is to avoid being vulnerable.. so we learn to hide. But that hiding place is lonely, dark, cold. No love can reach us there.
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    Jun 3 2012: I think a lot of this subject has to do with how cynical we have become; and why not? I am not defending cynicism but when we're surrounded in many ways by fake emotions in the media, or contrived sentiments meant to manipulate you into thinking or feeling that which may be profitable to a few, can we really blame those people who are afraid to show how vulnerable they can be? Is not a guard on your emotions then more a survival tactic to navigate through the sludge? Where we go wrong of course is when we adopt that a life philosophy--to never let ourselves be seen weak, and why we do that I think is because we're concerned overtly sometimes about how others interpret us, without keeping into account that their interpretation of us need not be accurate, and need not matter at all! 
    I think the bottom line is to allow ourselves to acknowledge that we can be weak or be ashamed and be vulnerable and to feel all that, and move on to grow from those experiences, learn about ourselves and our neighbors, and see those qualities that unite us as human beings even while we remain individuals.
  • May 31 2012: Loved the recognition of the audiance's laugh...uhu, yup.....she hit it right on the button thorughout the presentation.
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    May 31 2012: this is absolutely amazing
  • May 31 2012: Very inspiring and truthful, would love to add my little thoughts:

    http://beatastasak.hubpages.com/hub/What-is-the-difference-between-falling-in-love-and-loving
  • May 27 2012: i can't tell how much this touches my own life Dr. Brene. i think this touches the whole world not just an individualistic level... that's really what we need... not vulnerability itself for sure.. but to be real-version humans... not to exclude a single feeling... we are made of them all, each feeling builds a part of our consciousness... it ain't be complete then.
    we also have to appreciate each and every person we meet... never lose a minute to make others feel they worth, not something, the worth everything... the most important in this whole world... this definitely differ in the course of their lives and in ours too
    YOU ARE AN EXCELLENT PRESENTER... I'LL TRACK YOUR VID'S FROM NOW ON :)
  • May 24 2012: my loving sister gave this talk to me. I was touched and deeply impressed. Thank you sister and thank you Brene Brown, for your feeling of ' being good enough " to tell other people what youself learned about life, living and feelings, even other people dont talk about. my englisch isn't that good, but I just want to say thank you :-)
    • May 29 2012: After reading your comment ,I konw you have described your sincere emotion ,so I am impressed by your volunerability .
  • May 22 2012: Truly the best talk i heard in a while!!
  • May 19 2012: Please support my vulnerability!

    I am a volunteer working with Burmese refugees through video so they can tell their unheard stories to the world. Many of them hold a constant feeling of vulnerability and shame as they live in fear with feelings of unworthiness. It is so incredible to hear their voices and witness their courage to be vulnerable in their fight for freedom from an oppressive dictatorship who have discriminated against their ethnic race and gender. Sensitively using video as a tool to encourage people to speak can be so empowering and give them a feeling of release and connection with others. 

    Despite the fact that I have encouraged them to be honest, I have made sure that my stories were not made public! I was ashamed of what others would think and that I would be made weak by admitting my past. This strong, independent woman would not go on show! Now, I have been so inspired by these talks to tell my story and allow myself to be seen.

    I have entered a competition to win a scholarship and have written an essay about my personal story called 'Moving into Stillness'. The crazy thing is that I must get as many people as possible to see this story and vote for me! I have purposely put my self in a place of vulnerability! I am going through feelings of fulfillment, empowerment, stupidity, weakness and fear but know I am crossing some big personal boundaries by pushing through this. It is also incredible how responsive people have been and has encouraged some of my friends to really open up and share their stories too - asking for help. It has also rekindled a family relationship that I feared was lost. 

    I encourage everyone to show your strength by opening up and amazing things can happen. Barriers will be broken and your true, beautiful self can be seen.

    Please read my story and vote for me http://www.vitalitylink.com/essay-118-Moving-Stillness-yoga-life-body-love-practice-world-yoga-teacher-training-challenge-2012

    With love and gratitude,
    Katy
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    May 14 2012: I have been watching TED Talks continuously (5-6) hours a day for the last couple of days. This is the best talk for the last week (I have watched total almost 120 Talks).

    You have done a great work 'Brené Brown'. My works and education is as like as you. I want to make this world a better place to live in with the help of 'Business' and 'Marketing'. It may sound weird. But yes! I am talking about 'Social Business' and 'Social Marketing'. These two are more powerful then 'Nuclear Atom'.

    Almighty God bless you to live long and enlighten us...:))
  • May 9 2012: I seriously hate being vulnerable! This talk, however, has made me realize how crucial it is to life, growth, and fulfillment. The times I have felt most alive have all been when I was most vulnerable, and those are the memories I will cherish forever. This talk reminded me of an article I had read by Dr. Robert Firestone where he explains what exactly vulnerability is and its role in our lives. Both this talk and that article have given me a new perspective on vulnerabiity.

    Here is the link to the article by Dr. Robert Firestone: 
    http://www.psychalive.org/2012/02/on-being-vulnerable-part-i/
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      May 9 2012: Thank you for posting the link. I had a "eureka" moment! Thank you :)
  • May 5 2012: A very inspiring and empowering talk on the real essence of what is most important.....feeling worthy, and enough. Thank you Brene for your contribution, it has made my day, and set my thinking wheels in motion. Please upload more talks, they're fantastic.
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    May 3 2012: I Feel you Brené!!! I bet you never even noticed the change you went through until you looked back, though!! Reality and every thing we take as fact, is only a mere perception ruled by our flawed (well, not flawed only complacent) senses and not knowing this is the gateway to vulnerability! The need for certainty is the real weakness. The only way to fight this "Demon" is to LOVE!! When you love you have to ACCEPT. "IT IS WHAT IT IS"... There's over six Billion people in the world and each one of them with an opinion. Any given scenario judged by Any or All of these people is bound to differ from that of MANY others. The best approach to soothe the need for certainty is to accept every thing for what it is and make what you want out of it!!! IT IS YOUR BIRTH RIGHT!!!!! EMPHASIS on making it what you want!
    There's no such thing as an ordinary moment. See what you want to see. Accept life... Live through love and be receptive to its beauty, and you'll realize that happiness is no more than acceptance acknowledged through your own perspective... as individual as it is!.. This method eliminates the need for belonging, the need for acceptance, the need for certainty... When you're happy, what else matters?
    • May 3 2012: You are absolutely right. 
      Happiness lies within us. And in order to feel happiness within our lives, we as individuals have to love ourselves first. To put ourselves first and understand that we our worth it.
    • May 25 2012: Jim Kay wrote:

      Reality is pretty clearly not the way I perceive it but that's a far cry from being a 'mere perception.' You postulate a need for certainty, but I don't experience that. 

      As for making what I want of things, everyone does exactly that already. There is no alternative available to us. 

      I dispute your claimed need for certainty and I maintain that we humans have a wired in need for belonging and a need for acceptance. I also hold that these things are essential to our being human and not being monsters.
  • May 3 2012: A TedFriend suggested this talk today and I'm glad she did. 
    Vulnerability is something I don't considered most often in human relationship or connection but it is true! It is the fear of vulnerability that keeps us from connecting, it is this fear that hold us back from loving wholeheartedly. Now, I have more insight about why some people choose to lie about who they really are. why some lie about what they have done and what they are doing. Why some withdraw when it's time to socialize and why some cannot love wholeheartedly. 
    We have to let go of our fears, we have to accept our imperfection and stop pretending we are the best of the best, and most of all we have 'LOVE OURSELVES' and until we learn this things and take actions, we will never understand people around us. 

    This is truly a great talk.
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    May 2 2012: What a truly great talk. Well expressed truths. If it was easy therapists would be out of business.
  • May 1 2012: I watched this Conversation in class, and I have to say it was one of the most revealing and emotionally poignant lectures, I have ever listened to. I had just come back from a 3 day spiritual retreat were the focus was on inner development and found the content to be of immense value, Truly brought me to my knees with gratitude and a renewed dedication to personal growth . Thank You

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Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.

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