The Favorite 偏爱
Dexu Xia
The Favorite
As I have loved you, so you must love one another. John 13:34
My husband’s brother lives about 1,200 miles away in the mountains of Colorado. Despite the distance, Gerrits has always been a beloved family member because of his great sense of humor and kind heart. As long as I can remember, however, his siblings have good-naturedly joked about his favored status in their mother’s eyes. Several years ago, they even presented him with a T-shirt sporting the words, “I’m Mom’s Favorite.” While we all enjoyed the silliness of our siblings, true favoritism is no joking matter.
In Genesis 37, we read about Jacob who gave his son Joseph an ornate coat—an indication to his other children that Joseph was special (v. 3). Without a hint of subtlety, the coat’s message shouted: “Joseph is my favorite son.”
Displaying favoritism can be crippling in a family. Jacob’s mother, Rebekah, had favored him over her son Esau, leading to conflict between the two brothers (25:28). The dysfunction was perpetuated when Jacob favored his wife Rachel (Joseph’s mother) over his wife Leah, creating discord and heartache (29:30–31). No doubt this pattern was the unhealthy basis for Joseph’s brothers to despise their younger brother, even plotting his murder (37:18).
When it comes to our relationships, we may sometimes find it tricky to be objective. But our goal must be to treat everyone without favoritism and to love every person in our life as our Father loves us (John 13:34).
When have you struggled with showing favoritism? How is God helping you to treat everyone equally?
Loving God, as I interact with others help me to avoid showing unhealthy preferences. Help me to see others as You do and to treat everyone fairly and without favoritism.
偏爱
我怎样爱你们，你们也要怎样相爱。—约翰福音13章34节
我丈夫的哥哥盖瑞特住在离我们大约2,000公里远的科罗拉多山上。尽管距离遥远，他却因风趣幽默和心地善良而一直备受家人宠爱。在我印象中，他的兄弟姐妹也曾戏称他是母亲心中的宠儿。几年前，他们甚至送给他一件衬衫，上面印着“我是妈咪的最爱”。虽然我们对兄弟姐妹傻气的行为感到有趣，但如果最爱变成了偏爱，就无法让人一笑置之。
在创世记37章，我们读到雅各给他儿子约瑟一件彩衣，这向其他的儿子表明约瑟是特别的（3节）。这件彩衣不是暗示而是大声地张扬：“约瑟是我最爱的儿子！”这样的偏爱会严重伤害家庭关系。雅各的母亲利百加因偏爱雅各胜过以扫，导致后来两兄弟之间产生嫌隙（25章28节）。此后，当雅各偏爱妻子拉结（约瑟的母亲）胜于利亚，也造成家庭纷乱和带来伤痛（29章30-31节）。毫无疑问，雅各对约瑟的偏爱是造成家庭失和的主因，以致哥哥们憎恨这个弟弟，甚至计划谋杀他（37章18节）。
当谈到我们的人际关系时，有时我们可能会觉得很难保持客观，但我们仍必须努力以不偏爱人、公平待人为目标，学习像天父爱我们那样去爱每一个人（约翰福音13章34节）。
慈爱的上帝，求祢帮助我对人不厚此薄彼，让我能以祢的眼光看待每一个人，公平待人、不存偏爱。
你曾否因无法改变对某些人的偏爱而纠结呢？
上帝如何帮助你平等地对待每一个人？