The importance of having a plan - your divorce plan
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"FIND OUT WHY IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO BE ORGANIZED AND HAVE A PLAN"
If you have never been involved in a divorce or child custody case, I
can tell you that the experience will leave you confused, frustrated,
and depressed. I have assisted in thousands of cases in the last 25
years, therefore I have learned a lot about the "game" of family law
and why having a plan is so important. You will be able to navigate
the waters of the family court system much easier with an organized
and prepared plan. The Dedicated Fathers audio book series features
several plans you may want to consider when going through a divorce or
child custody case. Even if you don't go through with the divorce,
you will be better off with the knowledge of what to do if you ever
did need to.
How will I know when my marital problems are too much to handle, and
my marriage cannot be saved?
The decision to divorce is not always an easy choice. A marriage is
usually over when
the trust and respect are gone from the relationship. These are
extremely difficult to
gain back. Also, couples will part ways from an unhappy marriage when
their goals and
aspirations change course. A marriage may also be too far gone to
save when the
partners do not share the same ideals anymore.
"BE PREPARED AND SAVE THOUSANDS ON LEGAL FEES BY LEARNING HOW TO DEAL
WITH LAWYERS"
Again, your primary job is to make decisions about your life. The
Dedicated Fathers audio book series will give you the education and
information to assist you in making good, sound, strong decisions
about your case.
"YOUR CHILDREN DEPEND ON YOU. YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU"
What kind of plan will I need?
There are different types of categories to think about when planning
and preparing for a divorce or child custody case:
1. What you may want to do, or not do, when you suspect a divorce or
paternity action may happen soon.
2. What you may want to do, or not do, when you know for a fact a
divorce or paternity action will happen soon.
3. What you may want to do, or not do, once a divorce or paternity
action has been filed and served.
Here are a couple of ideas you may want to, or not want to consider
when you suspect a divorce or paternity action may happen soon:
·Do not listen to family, friends or co-workers. Family, friends and
co-workers have an emotional relationship with you. Although well
intentioned, family and friends give information based on their
experience - not yours. In family law, you need sound objective and
unemotional answers to your real life questions.
·Do gather any and all information you can about divorce or paternity
actions. Knowledge and information is power in the game of family
law.
·Do put together a record of all marital facts including, but not
limited to, a list of all assets and all debts. Get together copies
of all tax returns, create a list of bills and expenses, and make
copies of all important papers such as life, auto, and medical
insurance policies.
Next are a few ideas you may want to, or not want to consider when you
know for a fact a divorce or paternity action will happen:
·Do take an inventory of all your assets and do what you need to do to
protect them.
·Do join a support group. A good support group will assist you in
your feelings of depression and sadness.
·Do not leave the family home until legally forced to leave by court
order or legally advised to do so.
Here are some ideas you may want to, or not want to consider once a
divorce or paternity action has been filed and served:
·Do get yourself organized and maintain that organization throughout
your case. This is an extremely emotional time; organization is the
key to your successful navigation through the family law process.
·Do treat the other parent as you would want to be treated, especially
in front of your children. Never bad mouth the other parent in front
of the children.
·Do put in writing all events regarding your case including, but not
limited to, names, dates, places, events, and conversations. In other
words, keep a journal or chronological diary of all events and
situations regarding your case.
"IT IS EASIER TO RAISE A CHILD THAN IT IS TO FIX AN ADULT"
These are just a few of the many ideas you may, or may not want to
think about when it comes to your case. The Dedicated Fathers audio
book series contains the full list of ideas for you to use when
planning your case. Being organized and having a plan is key to
confronting divorce, paternity, and child custody cases. You need to
stay on top of your case. It is your responsibility. It is your
life, and your children's lives at stake. Dedicated Fathers will help
you in becoming organized and guide you in developing a winning plan.