Help Needed

[tasr...@my-deja.com]

Hi all, I am pretty new to this format of doing things. I am 38 and
have been busy for a long time with life and marriage. I used to visit
locations when I was younger about 18-22 and there was no internet etc.

I got married and left it all behind. the Wife was not interested.

Now I am separated and wish to join back into the scene.

I live in South Wales and work in Hampshire.

Your help and thoughts are most welcome.

Where are the best places to watch others in South Wales and Hampshire.

What are the rules these days, I am sure it shouldn't have changed much
(I hope).

Anybody can tell me how to make arrangements over the web??

I joined this forum but everytime I log in I feel lost, so many options
and sites to see (and I am a web designer believe it or not) (LOL)

Help please

Thanks.

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[Adel]

Hi
With regards to your question about sites in wales....
I think you are better joining a group that specializes in your
area...there is a new group formed within the e-groups:

http://www.egroups.com/group/S_Wales_car_sex

This sounds like it will give you some info on sites and the people who
are active, around you :) Maybe you should join, if anything just to
read the posts.

> What are the rules these days, I am sure it shouldn't have changed
> much (I hope).

Well as long as you are well mannered and can read the signals you
should be ok. Practice makes perfect. Maybe you should just go and
watch from a distance to see how todays voyeur does things and then
when you feel up to it, have a go. I sm sure it will all come back to
you once you have another experience.

I can't really say what todays protocol is, as so many people have
different signals, I suppose it is just knowing which people want to be
watched and which people don't and this will probably be the initial
problem, but once you know, you will be fine. I am sure there are some
established voyeurs on here that can give you their views and point you
in the right direction.

> Anybody can tell me how to make arrangements over the web??

Well usually by e-mail or even replying to some messages. Maybe even
looking in chatrooms and chatting with people who are interested in
this. One chatroom is located within our other site..A contact site
mainly and we have made many meetings from it:

http://come.to/uk_watchers_players

Once in click on the chatroom icon on the left and you're in. That
chatroom is linked to other chatrooms too and after clicking join, once
within the chatroom there is a button called "Active Chats" and that
tells you where the active chatrooms are and how many people are using
them. There are also a few good ones within MIRC.

Also within this website is a Locations page....maybe you should check
out some of the Wales sites mentioned to see if they are still busy.

Anyway hope this helps you in your quest, I am sure more people will
step forward and offer help too, don't feel lost within here, we are
all into the same thing :)

Adel

[bim_s...@my-deja.com]

Just to add really to what Adel has said...

It shouldn't have changed that much since you last were involved in the
scene, I imagine that if anything the whole thing should be far more
active than when you were last involved due to the publicity created by
sites such as this. I am sure there are many couples who have plucked
up the courage to become involved after realising that others were into
the same thing!

As has been mentioned, the best places to start are by visiting the
chatroom and looking at the locations lists to get a feel for where any
action is likely to be happening in your area(s). As for Wales, I have
heard good reports about Castell Coch in Cardiff and have seen stuff
happening at Christchurch in Newport but you don't say what part of
South Wales you are from so its a bit difficult to be more specific. I
suppose if you are travelling in and out of Wales a lot you could also
check out places like Togg Hill, which seems to be the centre of all
things exhibitionist, although I've never been myself :) Of course, if
you do find any good locations that are not on any of the lists then
make sure you let others know, as the South Wales question comes up
quite a bit so there must be quite a few who are in the same boat

As far as signals go, it's a difficult thing to say for sure. Just make
sure that you keep a fair distance and use your common sense. In my
experience, interior lights seem to be used quite a lot to signal,
followed by flashing of brake lights but I have also heard that these
signals change depending on which part of the country you are in, so
don't hold me to it!

Finally, enjoy your time in this site. We are all pretty friendly and
as Adel said, we are all into the same thing here :)

Scooby

[tasr...@my-deja.com]

Thanks for the reply guys.

I have joined the South wales e-group as well.

I tried the chatrooms a few times and they are always empty. is that
the norm or am I missing the busy times (when people visit them normaly)

Yes I am good mannered and the whole reason I asked the questions was
to make sure I do not offend people by my ignorance.

Anyway thanks for your replies and I will post here more to tell you
about my experiences (if anyone is interested)

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> step forward and offer help too, don't feel lost within here, we are
> all into the same thing :)
>
> Adel

[bim_s...@my-deja.com]

Hi,

You say the chatrooms are empty....just to check that you are using the
right one, make sure you point your browser at
http://come.to/uk_watchers_players and follow the links to the chatroom
there. That room gets quite busy, especially on weekday evenings but if
it is empty its still a good idea to hang around there for a while as
people tend to pop in and out and it can go from empty to busy in a
matter of minutes :) [This site also has a link to the doggers guide
locations list as Adel mentioned]

As for offending people, you shouldn't as long as you don't become
pushy. It all comes down to common sense really. Some of the busier
sites in the UK have run into problems because some doggers have
started leaving their polite heads at home! I am sure that you won't
run into this problem anyway, you seem pretty balanced :)

Anyway, enjoy!

Scooby

[tasr...@my-deja.com]

Of Course I agree with 100%. and the stupids make it hard for the rest
of us too. I will user your advise and hang around the chat room for
longer and see what happens.

Hope to meet one day.

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