1. Not much to scale once the data is there. Dmc4chee (2.18.x) is more memory dependent than processor. Your choice of DB will be important. You don't need a $5,000 server, but a Raspberry Pi won't do either. Finally, your network is the issue more than anything else.
2. Extremely, but latent network meaning what? Since you say WAN, do you mean the server connection to the internet is slow, or whoever is Q/Ring? Also, to what scale? How much does a car cost?
3. Get in touch with Gunter. Other than reading the boards like everyone else, you can choose to pay, or not.
4. Good hardware, with the appropriate OS, with the appropriate knowledge and you'll be fine.
B) Some questions for you to think about......
1. How are you planning on migrating the existing data.
2. You really have 1000 Q/R /day over bad WAN connections?
2. Costs are relative. In the end someone is going to pay. The question is....who?
Good luck,
Rich