河南翻译论坛群
我心飞扬
专业翻译，河南品牌
电话：0371-65925775
地址：花园路纬五路口西南角花园春楼304
Does Perfect Love Exist?
-------by Cynthia Legette Davis
Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted
just the way we are. Our hearts’ desire is to give and receive love
in relationships that make us feel that even
if others disagree with what we do or say, they still love us. They
accept us. They appreciate our contributions to the world. While it
would be wonderful to have these types
of relationships with all people, we know that that’s hard to do. We
can, however, have them with some others, but only when we first have
them with ourselves-and, ironically, this is often the hardest
relationship of all.
One of the reasons many of us find it hard to love ourselves is because
we do not realize that we are already loved in the most divine way. God
loves us, totally and unconditionally.
It’s hard for many of us to believe this fact because we know how
imperfect we are, and we believe we have to be perfect before God will
love us. The truth is that God’s love makes us perfect, even with our
imperfections. By knowing this truth intellectually and believing it
spiritually, we not only love ourselves more; we love others more as
well.
Do you love yourself? You may think you do, but do you really?
There’s only one way to find out-by taking a closer look at what you
think, say, and do. You may not like some of what you find, but if
you’re serious about really loving yourself, you can use this insight
to do some positive inner work.
Here are three ways I’ve found for gaining greater personal insight
for deeper love.
Listen to your words and listen even more closely to your thoughts.
Why? Because your words and your thoughts will determine your actions.
One of the things that has helped me to listen to my thoughts has been
to keep a journal. It is not necessary for you to write in it everyday,
but it helps to record various insights you gain as you go about living
your life. Instead of using a big notebook, you might use a small note
pad that you can keep in your purse or pocket for easy access to record
your thoughts as they occur to you. (I’ve found that if I don’t
immediately write down ideas and insights as they come, it’s hard to
remember them later, at least with the same degree of clarity.)
Whichever method you choose, what’s most important is that you write
your thoughts down. It will help you know what’s in your heart.
Be honest with yourself by paying attention to your actions. Actions
speak louder than words, and they always tell the truth. What do your
actions say about you? If you say you
love your job, but your actions say otherwise, which do you think is
more true - your words or your actions? On the other hand, if you say
you’re not good at a certain job, but your
actions say otherwise, that’s also important. What do you do with
this insight? You can use it to make more beneficial choices in your
life. By being honest with yourself based on your previous actions,
your actions moving forward will be based on truth instead of just what
you tell yourself.
Take time out during the day for quiet time to listen to your inner
voice. I call this inner voice the voice of God. This is similar to
point number one, but it takes it a step further - beyond the natural
mind to the supernatural heart. You may want to use your quiet time to
meditate or pray. However you use this time, the key is to shut out all
of the noise around you by focusing deep within yourself. Breathing
deeply during quiet time will also help you focus. I know it’s hard
to find quiet time during a particularly busy day, but it’s so
important - even if it’s just 10 minutes a day and you have to sneak
away to get it. Quiet time can really make a difference in your life.
It enables you to hear God speaking to your heart reminding you of His
perfect love for you.
Despite what your subconscious may be telling you, you can have love
with no limits. The key is to unconditionally love yourself first.