Hi Jenny,
something that may get you closer to what you want (if I'm not misreading this) is using the AvgCountSnp data provided by dart like so:
glRef <- gl.filter.locmetric(gl, lower=5, upper=100, metric="AvgCountRef")
glAlt <- gl.filter.locmetric(glRef, lower=5, upper=100, metric="AvgCountSnp")
This is clearly the average of the count for each allele across all samples, so it doesn't guarantee that you won't be including samples that have a low read count, but it could be better than nothing.
cheers,
carlo