You
are reading from the book Today's Gift.
Planning is deciding what to change today so tomorrow will be different
from yesterday. --Ichak Adizes
A house is like a lump of clay that can be molded and changed. It can
be fixed and shaped, torn down and added to, painted, papered,
carpeted, and panelled. We can think about how to change it, find
pictures in books, and order plans. We can stock up on supplies, take
fix-it classes, and get advice from others. But the house will remain
unchanged until we pick up a brush, grab a bucket of paint, and get to
work. Only then will we see tomorrow the results of what we did today.
Our plans help us construct a vision of how we'd like the future to be,
but only actions will bring these things about. With confidence in the
rightness of our desires, we can be assured that God never gives us a
dream we can't reach.
What action can I take today to make tomorrow's changes?
You are reading from the book Touchstones.
I learned from them that inspiration does not come like a bolt, nor is
it kinetic, energetic striving, but it comes into us slowly and quietly
and all the time, though we must regularly and every day give it a
little chance to start flowing, prime it with a little solitude and
idleness. --Brenda Ueland
We tend to be action-oriented and concerned about showing results in
the shortest period of time. Our world has emphasized this outlook,
especially for men. Now we are seeking spiritual progress. We are on a
journey seeking a relationship with our Higher Power, with ourselves,
and with others.
Spiritual progress is made by pushing aside busyness and efficiency. We
become receptive to inspiration by allowing empty spaces in our lives,
some solitude and idleness. This moment - right now - is one such time.
It is not clearly goal-oriented. Rather it is a moment when we reflect
on ourselves as recovering men. We become receptive to inspiration, to
a deeper wisdom, to that part of life which we do not command.
I will remember today that spiritual progress comes only when I make
room for it in my life.
You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning.
To expect too much is to have a sentimental view of life, and this is a
softness that ends in bitterness. --Flannery O'Connor
Having too high expectations is a set-up for disappointment.
Expectations that are high lend themselves to a fantasy life, and
reality can never match our fantasies. When we get hooked on the
fantasies, somehow thinking they are reality, or should be reality, we
are vulnerable to the hurt that accompanies the emergence of "the
real." Then we feel cheated--bitter: "Why did this have to happen to
me?"
Having too high expectations was a familiar feeling before recovery.
And it remains familiar to us, even now. Dreams and aspirations aren't
wrong. In fact, they beckon us on to better and greater things. But
dreams of what we can become through responsible choices are quite
different from idle expectations of what will or should be.
Every moment of every day opens the way to my aspirations that enhance
reality. I will be open and receptive to reality and its gifts.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
Learning New Behaviors
Sometimes well take a few steps backward. That's okay too. Sometimes
its necessary. Sometimes its part of going forward. --Codependent
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Life is a Gentle Teacher. She wants to help us learn.
The lessons she wants to teach us are the ones we need to learn. Some
say they are the lessons we chose to learn before we were born. Others
say they are the lessons that were chosen for us.
Its frustrating to be in the midst of learning. It is like sitting in
algebra class, listening to a teacher explain a subject beyond our
comprehension. We do not understand, but the teacher takes the
understanding for granted.
It may feel like someone is torturing us with messages that we shall
never understand. We strain and strain. We become angry. Frustrated.
Confused. Finally, in despair, we turn away, deciding that that formula
will never be available to our mind.
Later, while taking a quiet walk, we break through. Quietly, the gift
of understanding has reached that deepest place in us. We understand.
We have learned. The next day in class, its hard for us to imagine not
knowing. It is hard to remember the frustration and confusion of those
who have not yet caught on. It seems so easy . . . now.
Life is a Gentle Teacher. She will keep repeating the lesson until we
learn. It is okay to become frustrated. Confused. Angry. Sometimes it
is okay to despair. Then, it is okay to walk away and allow the
breakthrough to come.
It shall.
Help me remember that frustration and confusion usually precede growth.
If my situation is challenging me, it is because Im learning something
new, rising to a higher level of understanding. Help me be grateful,
even in my frustration, that life is an exciting progression of lessons.
Today my trust in the overall and the long run is deep and is growing.
When events and people do not act as I would like them to act, I reach
deeper inside for my faith and let it comfort me. --Ruth Fishel