The other day, I was listening to an old friend give a talk about ‘Identity.’ He conveyed that relationships are a series of projections, parts of our selves we avoid or embrace. In my opinion, while it’s partially true, it’s not the whole truth.
I think my friend is like many that believe in the ‘reason of truth,’ the reason that one plus one equals two. But that’s too simplistic for truth, yet ironically, truth is simple but it suits no one. Truth makes life uncertain.
It’s a path few dare to tread and those that do, rarely talk about it. How do we know The Truth? One way is failing, or falling or losing everything. Death is also a dead ringer for truth! But every passing moment is a form of death. Sometimes death can be pleasurable, The French call an orgasm ‘Petit Mort.’ Meaning ‘little death,’ perhaps actual death will be the most pleasurable experience we are yet to have, who can tell?
You see, my problem with particular psychoanalysis and modern interpretations to ancient, spiritual wisdom is an intellectual understanding, flawed by the lack of full knowledge. It doesn't go deep enough. Sometimes, there is no projection. Sometimes it is what it is. To coin a popular phrase, ‘a cigar can be just a cigar.’
The journey of life is a path of knowledge and at the end, if one attains true knowledge, enlightenment. Becoming ‘one with’ reality. But what does that mean? Myths, legends, spiritual quests are based on this subject and are numerous.
The myth of narcissus is about the nature of projection, until he sees his reflection. He falls and in the falling embraces his true self. Narcissus dies and in his death transforms into the flower Jonquille, an emblem of freedom from the shackles of ego projections.
When one knows the true self, one knows heaven and the hell people only dream and fear of. But to get to that point, true freedom, free from projected self and projections, one has to go beyond the comfort zone and enter the realm of vulnerability, uncertainty, a continual state of no guarantees. When one is vulnerable then one can see and be seen in truth.
This is the ancient notion of DARSHAN, a Sanskrit word meaning to be seen and to see. Darshan is a term mostly used in reference to going to Temples, the abodes of Gods. Darshan is the blessing of Gods’ grace that reveals the inner reality and true knowledge, where projections cease and duality is no more.