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Jamar Lizarraga
For college students, this book has it all. It is a quick and easy read that can serve as a wonderful stress-reliever during the school year, and it addresses relevant topics, including: tragic love lives; the struggle to pay for tuition; cutting back on unnecessary expenses to pay for said tuition; trying to maintain old friendships; and searching for a path in life that is both enjoyable and practical. Moreover, throughout the book, Alice shows understandable fear and apprehension, but also determination, which can be incredibly encouraging for anyone going through similar situations.
Perhaps my favorite part of this book is its optimistic ending. Interested readers should have no fears about the book sending an off-putting message. Personally, I found it incredibly uplifting and felt as though the ending tied everything together nicely, allowing me to close the book with a satisfied grin. Rather than being punished for who she is, Alice is rewarded in a big way for being her most authentic self.
Cami is a fourth-year English major with a minor in LGBTQ Studies. When they're not stuck in a book or listening to music, they are likely spending time with their cats and crying over how amazing animals are.
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Hebrews 11:1 (Amplified)
Now faith is the assurance (the confirmation, the title deed) of the things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality [faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses].
I Corinthians 13:9-12 (Amplified)
For our knowledge is fragmentary (incomplete and imperfect), and our prophecy (our teaching) is fragmentary (incomplete and imperfect). But when the complete and perfect (total) comes, the incomplete and imperfect will vanish away (become antiquated, void, and superseded). When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; now that I have become a man, I am done with childish ways and have put them aside. For now we are looking in a mirror that gives only a dim (blurred) reflection [of reality as in a riddle or enigma], but then [when perfection comes] we shall see in reality and face to face! Now I know in part (imperfectly), but then I shall know and understand fully and clearly, even in the same manner as I have been fully and clearly known and understood [by God].
I John 4:6-8 (Amplified)
We are [children] of God. Whoever is learning to know God [progressively to perceive, recognize, and understand God by observation and experience, and to get an ever-clearer knowledge of Him] listens to us; and he who is not of God does not listen or pay attention to us. By this we know (recognize) the Spirit of Truth and the spirit of error. Beloved, let us love one another, for love is (springs) from God; and he who loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively] to know and understand God [to perceive and recognize and get a better and clearer knowledge of Him]. He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love.
If you are just going for pizza or to play a set of tennis, go with anyone who will provide good, clean fun. But if you are serious, or planning to be serious, please find someone who brings out the best in you and is not envious of your success. Find someone who suffers when you suffer and who finds his or her happiness in your own.
One of the great purposes of true love is to help each other in these times. No one ought to have to face such trials alone. We can endure almost anything if we have someone at our side who truly loves us, who is easing the burden and lightening the load. In this regard, a friend from our BYU faculty, Professor Brent Barlow, told me some years ago about Plimsoll marks.
As a youth in England, Samuel Plimsoll was fascinated with watching ships load and unload their cargoes. He soon observed that, regardless of the cargo space available, each ship had its maximum capacity. If a ship exceeded its limit, it would likely sink at sea. In 1868 Plimsoll entered Parliament and passed a merchant shipping act that, among other things, called for making calculations of how much a ship could carry. As a result, lines were drawn on the hull of each ship in England. As the cargo was loaded, the freighter would sink lower and lower into the water. When the water level on the side of the ship reached the Plimsoll mark, the ship was considered loaded to capacity, regardless of how much space remained. As a result, British deaths at sea were greatly reduced.
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Raymond Carver came up a memorable title for his 1981 collection of short stories. As a moniker, What do we talk about when we talk about love has it all. It points to the impossibility of coming up with exhaustive definitions of what we most value. Love, it tells us, is not a statistic, nor a science. It is an experience best understood as a question, one that goes on creating meaning.
This is, I think, also true of therapy, particularly psychoanalysis, which is premised on questions remaining alive. That is the contradiction in the Talking Cure, as psychoanalysis is known: One talks to find answers but finds that ultimate answers are disguises rather than definitions. Some answers, of course, are possible, but they tend not to be categorical. As Leonard Cohen points out, there is a crack in everything; that being the way that the light gets in. So what we find when we talk about love, even in an analysis, is not black and white. This is one of the ways in which psychoanalysis differs from religion, self help and new age nostrums.
As Lacan sees it, the project of psychology is to plot all human relations, and human subjectivity, on an imaginary axis, rather than accept what is implied by the way the unconscious works. What is this? It is the effect of the continual displacement of signifiers: what we see and think we know is conditioned by the meanings we infer. Subjectivity, then, is linked to a theory of language that privileges the mobility of the signifier, rather than some supposed inherent, unchanging character and rationality. This is why ambiguity is central, both for language and for psychoanalysis. The fact that a signifier can be unhinged from its referent means meaning is mutable and human psychology is not an extension of animal psychology.
This means that the surface, what someone says on the couch for instance, is not superficial. It is what matters. An example is the Mobius Strip, which Lacan invokes as a way to represent the topology of the unconscious. While this object is just a piece of material, twisted, and joined at each end, its key quality is that it only has one surface. It seems to have a top and bottom, but if you trace its surface you see they are the same. Lacan used it to imply the unconscious; in the US it has been used to shape a bracelet with an inscription from poet Ralph Waldo Emerson.
A blog reader sent me an email sharing this interview with life coach Brooke Castillo on a podcast called Bold New Mom. I listened to the interview and loved it, so I followed Brooke back to her own podcast and listened to an episode on the same topic that they referenced during the show called Someone To Love.
Kath, you never cease to inspire me. Thank you for the reminders. It is beautiful to love and it is empowering to remember how much of our love is internal. Happy Thursday. Thank you for a good footing to start on today!
So interesting you say that. I teach high school and we talk communication and relationships a little bit I want to do it more. I had to learn on my own the hard way. Now the mom in me takes advantage of all sorts of these teachable moments.
In February 2016, I sat with 17 others to discuss what love meant. It was a college assignment, but we all took it pretty seriously, with the classical romanticism and arrogance of student-journalists who would soon be out in the real world harping about the big stuff.
Nearly four months after that class, I found myself swimming in a love which, pardon me for the excess, felt like someone had cracked the sun open and its warmth had spilled out into the sky. I got comfortably attached to the idea of love we have always been programmed to believe in: The idea of being relaxed, of being understood, of being happy. I had the love that was nearly as real on social media as it was in life. I felt victorious and was adamant to maintain it. But that is not what happened.
As the sun and the gin go out, they stop talking. All their experiences and knowledge of love, all the intuition and aggression they had deployed, has come to naught. They are adults who think they know what they are talking about. But they do not. I was a little scared when I finally got this. There were no answers. What is the point even?
From Carver, I learnt that love is not linear. We are made to believe time keeps moving forward, and everything is finetuned to the idea of progression. We tell ourselves that things can be different, but tomorrow will always be better. I have learnt that to think of love as linear at any point is to be further away from the last. Wherever we stand in the universe, in love, we may be the farthest from the centre.
Taught to believe that the mind, not the heart, is the seat of learning, many of us believe that to speak of love with any emotional intensity means we will be perceived as weak and irrational. And it is especially hard to speak of love when what we have to say calls attention to the fact that lovelessness is more common than love, that many of us are not sure what we mean when we talk of love or how to express love.
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