Partner response model

[gaby.adam]

Hi,

A part of me would like to share some of her experience with the partner exercise. 

A part of me felt like verbally attacking my partner, Jooli, was incredibly uncomfortable and really wanted to apologize and another part of me was really comfortable with attacking and reacting.

A part of me felt really stupid using the response model like she was just repeating and bouncing back what Jooli was saying and another part of me felt that as the exchange went back and forth and she kept using the model she felt she was hearing the message that was being spoken from Jooli more clearly at which point another part of me thought "yes I've succeeded, I'm so good."

When responding a part of me felt very powerless and alone like she wasn't helping Jooli and a part of me really wanted to take ownership of what Jooli was saying and that this would make her feel powerful.

For one of the exchanges, Jooli had given me a compliment and my reaction was to accept it and a part of me was frustrated and another part confused because I was aware that a part of me was giving her power away by accepting and another part of me chimes in "I don't know what else to do."   And another part is curious, is accepting a compliment a flight response??

That's it for now! A part of me is really overwhelmed and would like to pretend like this didn't happen and like her world is intact.

Thanks for listening.

Gaby