Sep 28, 2020, 3:02:26 AM9/28/20
Here are seven patterns of men’s and women’s sex drives that researchers have found. Lets see how we compare according to the experts.
1. Men think more about sex.
The majority of adult men under 60 think about sex at least once a day. Only about one-quarter of women report this level of frequency.As men and women age, each fantasize less, but men still fantasize about twice as often. Also men report more spontaneous sexual arousal and have more frequent and varied fantasies.
2. Men seek sex more avidly.
Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it. This isn’t just true of heterosexuals, gay men also have higher frequency of sex than lesbians at all stages of the relationship. Men also say they want more sex partners in their lifetime, and are more interested in casual sex.
3. Women’s sex drives are more influenced by social and cultural factors.
-Women’s attitudes towards (and willingness to perform) various sexual practices are more likely than men’s to change over time.
-Women who regularly attend church are less likely to have permissive attitudes about sex. Men do not show this connection between church attendance and sex attitude.
-Women are more influenced by the attitudes of their peer group in their decisions about sex.
-Women with higher education levels were more likely to have performed a wider variety of sexual practices (such as oral sex) education made less of a difference with men.
Men have every incentive to have sex to pass along their genetic material. By contrast, women may be hard-wired to choose their partners carefully, because they are the ones who can get pregnant and wind up taking care of the baby. They are likely to be more attuned to relationship quality because they want a partner who will stay around to take care of the child.
5. Women take a less direct route to sexual satisfaction.
Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. For women there is a need for a plot, hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there, it is the longing that is the fuel for desire, experts say. Women’s desire is more contextual, more subjective, more layered on a lattice of emotion. Men, by contrast, don’t need to have nearly as much imagination, since sex is simpler and more straightforward for them.
That does not mean that men do not seek intimacy, love, and connection in a relationship, just as women do. They just view the role of sex differently. Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex, For men, sex is the connection. Sex is the language men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side.It is their language of intimacy.
6. Women experience orgasms differently than men.
Men, on average, take four minutes from the point of entry until ejaculation. Women usually take around 10 to 11 minutes to reach orgasm, if they do. That’s another difference between the sexes: how often they have an orgasm during sex. Among men who are part of a couple, 75% report that they always have an orgasm, as opposed to 26% of the women. And not only is there a difference in reality, there’s one in perception, too. While the men’s female partners reported their rate of orgasm accurately, the women’s male partners reported that they believed their female partners had orgasms 45% of the time.
7. Women’s libidos seem to be less amenable to drugs.
With men’s sex drives seemingly more directly tied to biology when compared to women, it may be no surprise that low desire may be more easily treated through medication in men. Men have embraced drugs as a cure not only for erectile dysfunction but also for a shrinking libido. With women, however, the search for a drug to boost sex drive has proved more elusive.Testosterone has been linked to sex drive in both men and women. However it works much faster in men with low libidos than women.