Starting to connect in the group

[carolinedonahue]

Heike-

Thank you so much for creating this Google group for us to use once the CITO site closes. I hope that we will bring more of the members over from the CITO Gratitude group into this forum. 

I wanted to post a topic here to test the set-up and to begin the process of conversation over here. 

On a positive note- I re-wrote my online dating profile on a site I am using with the advice given on Evan Marc Katz's bonus call from the course and I am getting messages from men I feel a much stronger connection to in the last week. I have two dates next week to look forward to, and went out with a man this past weekend who asked me out at an event. He turned out to be 9 years younger than me- wow. Very flattering, but I'm not sure if that will mean we have a shared intention for the same kind of future, but I was able to express my concerns about that in a way that felt good on the date. 

So those are my immediate thoughts on the course today... I'll keep posting on the site as long as we have it, but I wanted this to be ready for us, too, when the time comes. 

Caroline

[Heike Hamann]

Hi Caroline,

 

Thanks for kicking off the discussion here and testing the set-up!!  It looks like it’s working well.  Thanks also for posting to the CITO page – hopefully that’ll get others responding too.

 

That is so great to hear about the advice from Evan being so good.  I haven’t listened to that seminar yet, but will definitely do so.  That’s great that you can already notice the difference and have so many dates lined up J. 

 

See you back on the CITO site.  Thanks again for testing this to ensure it’s ready to go.  Love, Heike

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[Andrina Rossi]

Hey guys,

I have never posted to a google group before, so I am testing it out.  Caroline, my last boyfriend was 9 years younger than I was, and we were together for 2 years.  Once I got over the weirdness of it, it was not that big of a deal.  That was actually my longest and most loving relationship.  Glad to hear you are dating and putting yourself out there--I have not done that yet, and I'm not sure when I'll be ready, so I feel impressed at your bravery! 

Love,
Andrina

[Heike Hamann]

Hi Adrina,

 

Your test worked well!  You did well to work out how to subscribe and what to post to without clear instructions!  At the moment you, Caroline and I are the only members of this group.  And maybe Diana, but I don’t think so.  I’m hoping others will join.

 

Love,

Heike

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[Andrina Rossi]

Ah, I figured it out!  I know how to reply to the whole group now :)

[caroline donahue]

Yay! This is very exciting. I am so happy to continue to connect with each of you.

Caroline Donahue

323-485-1830

carolin...@gmail.com

[Andrina Rossi]

Hey, I don't know if you guys are still around, but my friend sent me this short article about over-giving and masculine and feminine energy and thought you might be interested in reading it.


http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-10170/why-over-giving-turns-your-partner-off.html?utm_source=sailthru&utm_medium=popup&utm_campaign=concierge

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[Heike Hamann]

Hi,

 

I’m still around – just semi disappeared into non-computer land for a while!  I need to send out a message letting people know how to join this group and reminding them to do so.

 

Thanks for this article – I look forward to reading it.

 

Love, Heike

 

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Hey, I don't know if you guys are still around, but my friend sent me this short article about over-giving and masculine and feminine energy and thought you might be interested in reading it.


http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-10170/why-over-giving-turns-your-partner-off.html?utm_source=sailthru&utm_medium=popup&utm_campaign=concierge

[Caroline Donahue]

Hi!

So nice to hear from both of you. I saw a post from Julie on the forum yesterday- I sent her my email- when I hear from her I will help her join over here.

Thank you for the article, Andrina!

I hope all is well with both of you. I have a second date this evening after the best first date I have had in a while, so I am looking forward to that and I also feel like I am holding onto what we learned in the class, which is exciting.

Many hugs,

Caroline

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[Heike Hamann]

Hi Caroline,

 

So lovely to hear from you too.  Oh, that is so exciting about your second date!!  And that you are holding onto what you learned in class.  Super J.

 

Thank you for helping Julie join here – if you feel up to posting the instructions on the CITO website on the relevant thread, that’d be wonderful.  If not I’ll do it this weekend.

 

I am well.  I have also met someone special, a woman who I went kayaking with, and we are in the early stages of exploring a relationship, with an openness to moving into what I call a Relationship later.  Interesting times – beautiful and also discombobulating!  I can really feel how the course has had a big impact on who I am and how I am in relationship. 

 

Love and hugs,

Heike

[caroline donahue]

hello everyone!

Just wanted to say a quick hello and see how it's continuing to go past-class. I am going to download some of the bonus calls and listen as I have to drive to northern California this week for a work trip. Thank you for the inspiration to keep listening to everything, Andrina. 

How exciting that you are exploring a new relationship, Heike. I hope that you are still enjoying your time with her. I have been on several dates with several new men- I ended up breaking it off with the man I went on two dates with as I felt we didn't share the same values once I got to know him better. I feel the course has really helped me get clear about these things and I feel much stronger making choices and moving forward. 

Thank you all and hope everyone is doing well.

Many hugs,

Caroline

Caroline Donahue

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[Andrina Rossi]

Hi Caroline and everybody!

Great to hear you are taking so much action with dating--I am not ready for dating yet, so I'm really impressed with you.  I am still enjoying listening to my interviews, and I'm learning about the deeper issues like sex, marriage, communication, etc, and I think it will help me once I do get back out there again.  I even filled out an online dating profile for 10 minutes until I changed my mind when I got to the part where I had to describe myself.  So I am taking small steps!  Mainly I'm working on self-love and a lot of EFT to shift old beliefs and childhood trauma that the CITO course brought to my awareness.

Congratulations on knowing yourself better and cutting things off early if you sense the match isn't right.  Saves a lot of time that way!

Love,

Andrina

[Sarah Laskin]

Hi everyone, thanks for checking in.  The course has helped change the way I see myself in many ways.  But I've noticed that I tend to slip back into "aloneness" in my thinking. I'm on vacation right now and I'm hoping to spend a lot more time re-listening to the lectures and going back to the daily meditations.  

I'm very pleased to read about your various moves into dating and love if others and/or self.  I'm more at the beginning stages too  with the occasional interest in someone (seeing him today though not as a date) but nothing active quite yet. 

Really terrific to have the continued support of you all!  

Many blessings, Sarah

[Stacyann Forrester]

Hi Everyone,

I just want to say again how great it is to have these updates post-CITO. They seem to appear in my inbox exactly when I need that small dose of encouragement. Thank you!

I've been on three dates with this guy, I think could be the one. These last few weeks I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety around whether it will go anywhere. The feelings suck but they have been great for my growth. I had to come to terms with the belief that I don't see relationships and marriage working out for me. And how it seems like others have some relationship gene I never had. Insane thoughts, I know. It still amazes me how powerful these thoughts remain to be in my life. Just when you think you have things figured out and your doing well.... something comes to challenge you. 

I've been listening and re-listening to week six. I've set some time to do the homework today. Please keep me accountable for posting my response by Tuesday.

We are all doing the best that we can and I'm very proud of all of you and myself.

Warm hugs,

Stacy

[Andrina Rossi]

Hi everyone,

I just want to encourage Sarah and Stacy--how great that you are moving forward!  And that you are facing old patterns, no matter how frustrating it is that they keep popping up. 

I like to be affectionate with my patterns, talk to them, make friends with them, understand they are coming up to protect me.  Helps me when I soften towards them instead of wanting to get rid of them and change them--they are part of me, and they might always pop up in little ways, so might as well befriend them.  They are only there to keep me safe.  I even have names for them, so that I see that they are part of me, but not the totality of me.

And we are lovable just as we are, even with the self-sabotage, fears, and dis-empowering ways of behaving.  So be gentle with yourselves and pat yourselves on the back for all of your progress!

Love,

Andrina

On Sun, Aug 11, 2013 at 9:01 AM, Sarah Laskin <sarahl...@gmail.com> wrote:

[Caroline Donahue]

I love this! Names for patterns are great.

I have been working with a new younger self- a more adolescent/teen one who feels very angry to me as I get closer to her. It has been an interesting process working with that part of myself- previous younger selves have been much younger and more open about their needs. This one tends to stonewall and takes much longer to speak up.

So glad to hear from you all and know we are all still figuring this out together...

Many hugs and congrats on week six, Stacy!!

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Caroline Donahue

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