Thanks for all the replies. We have had success. I thought I would wait for a while before giving some feedback for others who might have a similar problem.
Ray, your methylated spirits approach was very successful, especially in getting control of the major colonies around pruning wounds and new branches. It seems to dissolve the wool and exposes the aphids to the metho resulting in any survivors being vulnerble to subsequent spray treatments. Fortunately our trees are on dwarf root stock, otherwise treating large trees might be a little difficult. I got a bit enthusiastic and tried spot spraying with metho but it didn't do the nearby leaves much good (they went brown and fell off!), so that approach was abandoned. Brushing the occasional large new colonies with metho works very well (fortunately the wool is a give-away where they set up camp).
Once the bulk of the infestation was treated with metho, the population was reduced, but came back again quite quickly. Another metho treatment followed by spraying the whole tree with a "Naturally Based Insect Spray" now has the infestation largely under control (but not quite eliminated because the little beggars keep appearing occasionally, but new leaves and branches are growing). I think the secret of success was to "nuke" the major colonies with the metho treatment which then allowed the spray to mop-up and control the residual. Limited spot spraying is now a maintenance regime if small colonies of the aphids appear.
A major attack is planned for the pruning wounds when the leaves are gone in winter.
I am using a local spray called Beat-A-Bug and there are probably similar products in the UK and USA. While it is not safe for bees and so has to be used with some caution, at present we are getting towards the end of Summer and there are no flowers on the fruit trees hence no foraging bees. For anyone looking for something similar, the concentrate active ingredients are 150g/L garlic, 40g/L Chilli, 4g/L Pyrethrins, 16g/L Piperonyl Butoxide (a pyrethrin enhancer) and is mixed with water (2-4 tsp to 8 litres of water) , so a little goes a long way.
The next move is IPM with predatory insect attracting flowers and a close watch for any aphids next Spring which we will look to control with bee friendly sprays until the fruit has formed. For those interested, we have already planted allysum nearby as some USA research indicates that this attracts hover-flys and lacewings which feed on and substantially reduce aphid populations.