在家教育的簡單原因
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妈妈所共同面对的一个难处，不过真的身处纠缠其中时感到是很辛苦的，愿神加给力量和恩典在每一个家庭中。
在家教育的簡單原因
http://www.wretch.cc/blog/chilelike88/23451007
童心*Childlike ~在家教育與共學之間~ 在家教育的簡單原因
十年來，小組是蒙福的所在；現在，期待祝福可以由此傳出－－98.1.16
“為什麼你要做在家教育?”這個問題不僅是別人好奇的問，自己也常常自忖著:到底為什重大好處做在家教育?這樣付出這樣難當…?在另一半球，孩子都已經
成人的在家教育媽媽Diane Kummer說:”我做在家教育是為了想將時間花在孩子們身上，有很多的時間可以和自己的寶貝孩子們相處。”這個簡單的
答案，是否很難讓你露出滿意肯定的笑容呢?
朝夕相處的親近生活及密切的學習環境，是很容易顯現出彼此最好及最壞的一面，而彼此的衝突─正是神給在家教育家庭靈命更新課程—不是靠奮興研經靈恩特
會，而是在每一天不斷的、必定的出現的、無法躲藏的小事中，催促你去處理，學著更多彼此破碎，以真理相待，更多對話.....
”在家教育提供給我們寬裕的時間，讓我們個人的罪行浮現出來。我相信至今自己還能和那已長大成人的孩子們維持著穩固的關係，全都是建立在多年來彼此解決
各種歧見的結果。在家教育讓我們有機會，幾乎每天都能重申承諾--要以尊重彼此的方式，來解決我們之間的衝突及爭執。”此話相信是許多在家教育家庭，特
別是有青少年相伴的父母心中很深的同感與期待。
昨天讀到一位美國13歲在家少女的隨筆，她和母親和自己緊密的相處及敏銳的觀察，讓她寫出下面這些文字…心中難掩激動感觸良多；我摟著和我道晚安的15
歲女兒，讀到最後一段，淚水決堤而下...走過，就懂得，就相信，值得。
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They say that a parent is a child’s first teacher.
They say that a teacher is a child’s third parent.
But what happens when you have to be both?
Being a Teacher
When I was in a private elementary school, my mom would
threaten to “call my teacher” whenever I misbehaved. The argument
might rage on for another hour, but at that moment, she won.
Why?
Well, it’s like this.
Kids behave very differently when they’re at school. Whether
they’re model students or troublemakers, you can usually bet that
they’re a lot better behaved in school than they are at home.
That’s because teachers, (even the good ones), are scary.
They hold a power over us. With a wave of the hand, our recess is
gone. We have extra homework. We get called on in class when they know
we know they know we’re not paying attention.
Now a parent—that’s a whole different story.
We live with you. We’ve seen you at your worst and at your
best.
So, when you lay down the law, we’re more inclined to search
for loopholes than to nod meekly. A student who wouldn’t dream of
talking back to Ms. Smith thinks nothing of demanding an explanation
from Mom.
And that can cause problems when you’re homeschooling.
Parents who homeschool their children have to be with their
children.
The whole day.
If families fight during the five to six hours that they
actually see each other, imagine how hard it’ll be if your child
argues with you during the seven hours reserved especially for
schooling.
The week before school, you need to sit down and talk with
your kid(s).
Explain that when school starts, you’ll not only be their
mom/dad, you’ll be their teacher.
Explain that, just as they don’t openly disrespect their
teachers, they can’t disrespect you.
And then be patient.
Also, understand this: If you want your children to act
like your students, then you will have to act like their teacher.
I’m thirteen, and I can tell you right now that the one
thing kids hate most in adults is hypocrisy.
Want to know why your children won’t clean their rooms?
Check your own room.
Want to know why your children won’t treat you like a
teacher?
Are you acting like a teacher?
A teacher is in the classroom before the students arrive.
A teacher is willing to help when the student needs it.
A teacher is not inconsistent.
I’m not saying that things will suddenly become perfect if
you act like a teacher. After all, we (your darling kids) will still
struggle with the huge mental shift. (Imagine if your boss suddenly
became your mom!)
It won’t be easy.
But who ever said homeschooling was easy?
Being a Parent
Just as we’ve seen you at your worst, you’ve also seen us at our
worst.
We expect you to know certain things—things our regular teachers
don’t know.
I still remember the day my second grade teacher asked us to
write journals and submit them for grading. She assured us that
everything we wrote would be strictly confidential, and that her eyes
were the only eyes that would read it. “Make it as personal as you
want!” she encouraged.
No one in the class wrote anything personal.
It wasn’t that she was a bad teacher. In fact, she was a really
nice one. But she wasn’t someone we could trust with our real
feelings.
As Mom or Dad, your children will look to you for understanding
when they feel frustrated. They’ll expect you to understand in a way
their normal teachers never can.
It doesn’t matter that you’re now a teacher.
You’re still a parent.
I love that my mom will explain a math problem to me with
unlimited patience—and I love that she’ll also understand when I need
to take a break.
A teacher will teach the material no matter what. A parent will
sit down and teach it until the child understands it.
A teacher will punish when shown disrespect. A parent will try
to talk it out and solve the problem.
It’s difficult finding the balance when you’re suddenly both
teacher and parent.
How can you be understanding without being too lenient? How do
you know when you should stand your ground and when you let it go?
It’s going to be hard for us too.
After all, we’re the ones who are going to have to learn from
you. The kids of this generation are independent. We pride ourselves
of not needing their parents. And, deep inside, we don’t want to admit
that we need help.
So when Mom tries to explain functions to us, what’s the first
thing that pops out of our mouths?
“I know that!”
As a teacher, you’ll have to be firm. As a parent, you’ll have
to be understanding.
No wonder homeschooling strengthens parent/child bonds.
My, (ahem) Personal, Testimony
When things get tough, don’t get discouraged. Trust me, things
will get better.
During elementary school, I loved math. Adding, subtracting,
multiplying—computation came easily to me.
Then, the year I started homeschooling, I encountered algebra.
Suddenly I didn’t understand everything. It was actually hard
work.
The little girl who loved math now loathed the subject.
It didn’t help that my teacher was now my mom.
The first few weeks were hard.
Every night, I’d sit with my mom as we did problem after
problem, page after page.
I was embarrassed at first. After all, I’d been the model
student at school. My mom had always taken pride in my grades.
Now, suddenly I was struggling with a subject that had once
been cake.
My first reaction was to hold onto my pride.
“I knew that!”
"I already tried that!”
My second reaction was depression.
“I’m never going to learn this. ”
"This is impossible!”
Like a good teacher, my mom made it clear that if I wanted
help, I’d have to lose the attitude.
And like a good parent, she gave me a hug as she said it.
I shut up and started paying attention.
Those nights were some of the hardest of my life—but if I had
a choice, I’d live through them all over again.
Why?
Well, now, looking back, I can see how close I got to my mom.
We tackled functions, algebraic equations and polynomials
together and emerged triumphant.
Sure, there were fights and tears and arguments, but despite it
all, we pulled through.
Being both a parent and a teacher is tough.
You’ll yell, blow up, and probably cry.
My advice?
Pray—a lot.
And don’t give up.
What you’re doing is not just making a successful homeschooling
experience.
You’re building a bond between yourself and your children.