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Parenting Perspectives June 2011
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Every Bad news is Good news If you are a parent or a teacher or anybody who works with children - then it is important that you understand how and why every ‘bad’ news is actually a ‘good’ news. Lets take some examples of bad news first: Say Your child is being bulled in the school; or Your child has been lying to you about studies; or Your child is scared and refuses to go into a dark room alone; or Your child has a habit of chewing nails; or Your child gives all the tiffin / snacks to friends; or Your child is watching too much TV; or Your child has been neglecting his homework or tests; or any other of your child’s behaviour that you may consider bad news and hence worry about. Why is every bad news a good news? Because Every bad news gives the child an opportunity to grow. Not just grow out of issues, but learn the ability to grow out of any issue the child faces anytime in life. Every bad news gives us (parents / teachers) an opportunity to guide the child to realise the potential, the resources the child has within; To connect with the child not as a provider but as a catalyst for his or her growth, which is what we think is the real role of a parent. Every bad news is an opportunity to empower. Yesterday, a new child in the school (5.5yrs) was crying incessantly, missing her mother. “Good news”, I said to myself. Here is an opportunity for her to learn how to accept and overcome one’s emotional 'low's. I did not pacify her nor gave her any assurances nor tried to divert her mind into anything else. After I had acknowledged her feelings for few minutes, I asked her what she wanted to do. She said she wanted to send an email to her mother and we together sent the email (me as her verbatim stenographer). Feeling better she continued her day in a much better state. Today, the same child was crying again, missing mummy again. I decided to push her a little today, so I turned down her request to send an email (no more dependence on me) and asked her “What else can you do”. She said, “I keep thinking about her (mummy) and this thinking makes me cry. I will try not to think”. After few minutes she came back, and said, “I cannot help but think about her and I think whole day I will be thinking about her only and hence crying whole day.” Is it okay to cry whole day? I said, “I am perfectly okay with you crying whole day” “But am I allowed to cry in school?” she was doubtful. My co-facilitator pitched in, “Till your crying does not disturb others, yes, it is alright to cry in school, as much as you want”. Having accepted herself and her emotions, she soon settled down into the work for the day. So, the seemingly bad news of crying / missing / being emotionally unsettled turned out to be the good news as she got an opportunity to engineer her own significant victory over herself. Above is only one example; we can rant endlessly with stories umpteen on the magic of empowerment that we have experienced in the last 10 years that we have worked with all ages of children - right from one year toddlers to teenagers. Our wish: If only all parents could see each problem as opportunity. If only all parents could see each difficulty as opportunity to learn. If only parents could see each weakness as a source of strength. If only all parents could see life itself as the best book to learn from. If only all parents could see each bad news as a potential good news. IN the next article we talk about specifically how we can empower a child - but meanwhile We invite parents for a short but intensive parenting workshop on EMPOWERING children to become resourceful, successful and happy individuals on 18th June, 11 to 12:30pm at Geniekids, Indiranagar. This workshop will be repeated on 2nd July (same time). Click here for details. We also invite you to check our very unique and EMPOWERING program for children between 3 to 13 years - called success saturdays - starting on 2nd July 2011. Click here for details. *************************************************** An article by Aditi & Ratnesh For Geniekids To leave comments on this article click here	Announcements: 18 June 2011 Workshop on Empowering Children - Click here for more details Program to develop Success Skills - every Saturday - starting 2nd July 2011 - click here for more details ******* Train the Trainer Training - if u would love to work with / learn about children. Two batches - In class and online - Starting 20th June and 14 July respectively. click here for more details ***** Geniekids life School If you are looking at a school that values the learner more than the learning; that values the process more than the results, that is based on children creating their own learning rather than us teaching them, then we invite you to look at ~ for children 2-5 years - Pre Primary section Khoj and ~ for 5-15 years school Aarohi**
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Parenting Perspectives June 2011
Web version \| Parenting Articles \| Schooling options at geniekids
Every Bad news is Good news If you are a parent or a teacher or anybody who works with children - then it is important that you understand how and why every ‘bad’ news is actually a ‘good’ news. Lets take some examples of bad news first: Say Your child is being bulled in the school; or Your child has been lying to you about studies; or Your child is scared and refuses to go into a dark room alone; or Your child has a habit of chewing nails; or Your child gives all the tiffin / snacks to friends; or Your child is watching too much TV; or Your child has been neglecting his homework or tests; or any other of your child’s behaviour that you may consider bad news and hence worry about. Why is every bad news a good news? Because Every bad news gives the child an opportunity to grow. Not just grow out of issues, but learn the ability to grow out of any issue the child faces anytime in life. Every bad news gives us (parents / teachers) an opportunity to guide the child to realise the potential, the resources the child has within; To connect with the child not as a provider but as a catalyst for his or her growth, which is what we think is the real role of a parent. Every bad news is an opportunity to empower. Yesterday, a new child in the school (5.5yrs) was crying incessantly, missing her mother. “Good news”, I said to myself. Here is an opportunity for her to learn how to accept and overcome one’s emotional 'low's. I did not pacify her nor gave her any assurances nor tried to divert her mind into anything else. After I had acknowledged her feelings for few minutes, I asked her what she wanted to do. She said she wanted to send an email to her mother and we together sent the email (me as her verbatim stenographer). Feeling better she continued her day in a much better state. Today, the same child was crying again, missing mummy again. I decided to push her a little today, so I turned down her request to send an email (no more dependence on me) and asked her “What else can you do”. She said, “I keep thinking about her (mummy) and this thinking makes me cry. I will try not to think”. After few minutes she came back, and said, “I cannot help but think about her and I think whole day I will be thinking about her only and hence crying whole day.” Is it okay to cry whole day? I said, “I am perfectly okay with you crying whole day” “But am I allowed to cry in school?” she was doubtful. My co-facilitator pitched in, “Till your crying does not disturb others, yes, it is alright to cry in school, as much as you want”. Having accepted herself and her emotions, she soon settled down into the work for the day. So, the seemingly bad news of crying / missing / being emotionally unsettled turned out to be the good news as she got an opportunity to engineer her own significant victory over herself. Above is only one example; we can rant endlessly with stories umpteen on the magic of empowerment that we have experienced in the last 10 years that we have worked with all ages of children - right from one year toddlers to teenagers. Our wish: If only all parents could see each problem as opportunity. If only all parents could see each difficulty as opportunity to learn. If only parents could see each weakness as a source of strength. If only all parents could see life itself as the best book to learn from. If only all parents could see each bad news as a potential good news. IN the next article we talk about specifically how we can empower a child - but meanwhile We invite parents for a short but intensive parenting workshop on EMPOWERING children to become resourceful, successful and happy individuals on 18th June, 11 to 12:30pm at Geniekids, Indiranagar. This workshop will be repeated on 2nd July (same time). Click here for details. We also invite you to check our very unique and EMPOWERING program for children between 3 to 13 years - called success saturdays - starting on 2nd July 2011. Click here for details. *************************************************** An article by Aditi & Ratnesh For Geniekids To leave comments on this article click here	Announcements: 18 June 2011 Workshop on Empowering Children - Click here for more details Program to develop Success Skills - every Saturday - starting 2nd July 2011 - click here for more details ******* Train the Trainer Training - if u would love to work with / learn about children. Two batches - In class and online - Starting 20th June and 14 July respectively. click here for more details ***** Geniekids life School If you are looking at a school that values the learner more than the learning; that values the process more than the results, that is based on children creating their own learning rather than us teaching them, then we invite you to look at ~ for children 2-5 years - Pre Primary section Khoj and ~ for 5-15 years school Aarohi**
Geniekids, Bangalore, India. www.geniekids.com Privacy and Spam policy \|\| Right to copy Policy To ensure you receive our newsletter, make sure you add geni...@geniekids.com to your address book. If you prefer not to receive future email from Geniekids, please reply with one word "unsubscribe" (as subject or content of your email)