Hi Emily,
caveat: I know nothing about hurdle_gamma but I think Paul is finishing his thesis atm, so maybe this will still help.
with bf, you can specify separate formulae for the hurdle and the gamma part, like so:
brm(bf(
demandCount ~ 1 + (1 | Dyad),
hu ~ 1 + (1 | Dyad)), data = data, family = hurdle_gamma())
As for the back-transformations, I usually use the marginal_effects(model) function to visualise my effects, or the predict function if I need something more specific.
I've never needed more, but your mileage may vary :-)
Best,
Ruben