OK, I did a bit more Google-ing and there are two great video tutorials for jquery-ujs and AJAX. The first one is free, from
GoRails. The second one is from Ryan Bate's series, which is not free. It's time for bed, but I will give it another go tomorrow using the GoRails videos. (I would love to subscribe to Bates, but at this moment that's not going to happen).
Note that, while these will show me how to get the AJAX working, it does not show me how to get a modal working. I think that based on this tutorial and the work I've done so far, I can get it done. But first, I'm going to get it working via AJAX w/o the modal, and then worry about the modal.