Is your sex life feeling a little stale? Do you want to make your partner feel truly satisfied? It's normal for relationships to experience ups and downs in the bedroom. Here are seven easy ways to increase her pleasure and spice things up!
Schedule Time for SexLife gets busy. Work, family, and other commitments can easily take over. This leaves little time or energy for intimacy. Scheduling sex can bring back the excitement!
Think back to when you first started dating. You likely planned dates with the intention of getting intimate. This created anticipation and excitement.
Scheduling sex can have the same effect. It does not have to feel like a chore. Instead, view it as a protected time to connect with your partner.
Talk to your partner and find a time that works for both of you. This shows that you care about her needs and desires.
Know Her AnatomyUnderstanding female anatomy is key to giving pleasure. Many people think the vagina is the main source of pleasure for women. But this is not true.
The clitoris is the primary organ of sexual pleasure for women. It is similar to the penis in men. Focus on stimulating the clitoris to help your partner achieve orgasm.
Did you know? Only about 20% of women have orgasms from vaginal penetration alone. The clitoris is key.
Some people talk about the "G-spot." This area is on the front wall of the vagina. But stimulating this area mainly stimulates the clitoris.
Put Her FirstIt's not all about you! Prioritize her pleasure. This means focusing on her needs and desires during sex.
Hands, mouths, and vibrators can all be great tools for pleasure. They can sometimes be even more effective than a penis.
Women want to feel desired and cared for. When you focus on her pleasure, she's more likely to enjoy the experience and want to return the favor.
Ask yourself, what can I do to make this experience all about her?
Slow DownMen reach orgasm faster than women. Women take longer to become aroused and reach orgasm. Studies show women need 30 to 50 minutes from start to orgasm. Men only need 3 to 5 minutes.
Going slow is important to help her get fully aroused and enjoy the experience. Sex doesn't have to start and end with just penis-in-vagina action.
Intimacy involves touch all over the body. Focus on foreplay and build up to penetration. This will increase her pleasure and make the experience more satisfying for both of you.
If you struggle with premature ejaculation, talk to a doctor. There are treatments that can help you last longer.
Use LubeThere are many different types of lube available:
Her natural wetness does not always mean she is turned on. Lube can add moisture and make things more comfortable, regardless of her natural lubrication.
Meet in the MiddleIt's common for couples to have different levels of desire for sex. One partner may want it more often than the other. This is called desire mismatch.
Desire mismatch does not mean your relationship is broken. It just means you need to find a way to meet in the middle. Talk about your desires and needs. Find a compromise that works for both of you.
The higher-desire partner can also find other ways to fulfill their needs. This can be through self-pleasure or other forms of intimacy.
Communicate, Communicate, CommunicateCommunication is key to a healthy sex life! Talk to your partner about what you both like and want.
Tips for better communication:
If you or your partner is having problems, talk to a doctor. A urologist or sex therapist can help.
Take Action TodayReady to turn up the heat? Try incorporating these tips into your sex life. Start by scheduling a special night with your partner. Open the lines of communication, and most importantly, have fun! Remember, taking care of your relationship is taking care of yourself.