The Stare

[Tracer]

This is a sort of "gambit/routine" i've been using on and off for the
past month. I'm not sure if it's good to use in the long term, but
i've had pretty good success with it so far.

When a girl asks me a ditzy question (or a question i don't want to
answer right off the bat) i just give her strong eye contact, not
moving, flinching,blinking or saying anything. Just complete, utter
silence with strong eye contact. If not a serious, James Bond type of
stare then a sort of "You've got to be kidding me" sort of look. It
usually follows through with her repeating the question, each time her
stumbling a bit more and more then ending with her laughing and maybe
punching me on the arm. BOOM, an IOI. Or her begging me to answer her,
putting me at the advantage - another IOI.

What do you guys think?

[Grill]

First off, that is not a gambit or routine. It's a response to a
ditzy question. And it's aimed at making your target feel stupid,
something that is never good in my opinion. I highly doubt you will
get away with this with higher quality women, especially as they're
used to being looked at and even more used to feeling superior to
you. If they ask you something "you don't want to answer right off
the bat", and you respond with dead silence and a stare, you're on
grounds to get a "Screw you, I'm moving on to someone else."
I personally would never, again, make a girl feel stupid. That's not
my goal when conversing with a girl, and if she asked me a stupid
question, I wouldn't think she's dumb. I'd wonder why I ended up
speaking to her in the first place.

[bradtastic]

I actually do the opposite.

Here's something that everyone can benefit from. If the girl is boring
and becomes bored, IT'S YOUR FAULT.
If the girl can't entertain herself and you don't stop her, IT'S YOUR
FAULT.

If the girl asks a ditzy question, I don't believe that it's any time
to "punish her." Instead, I roll past it with frame-control, answer it
very briefly or simply move-on, talking about something WAY MORE
INTERESTING or asking a REALLY SIGNIFICANT question (to get her mind
off of it).

To be perfectly, perfectly honest, though... (and a bit blunt), I
don't spend too much of my time hanging around and talking to girls
apt to ask or talk-about the inane... one dumb question is one thing,
and that happens to the brightest and the best. However, if and when a
pattern becomes evident, I steal control of the conversation, ensure
she's had a good enough time, and excuse myself without causing harm
or damage.



Something to note: her repeating the question, begging you to answer,
may be out of legitimate frustration. Micro-calibrate to gauge; I'm
sure that you, Tracer, are aware of the differences, but for anyone
new to this, coming in looking to learn something, I'd attempt to go
with something less hostile and less risky. I just don't see the
reward (being punched in the arm or having her "beg" for a reply)
being worth the time or the negative potentialities when there are so
many other things that can be done.

With that said, it MAY fit into your personality and "style" of
approach, and that "action" may work for you. I'd have to see it for
myself to determine whether or not something more-powerful could be
put in it's place.

On Apr 19, 6:29 pm, Tracer <t.vancou...@yahoo.com> wrote: