Together by Vivek H. Murthy > Quotes
Mohan Gulrajani
Together by Vivek H. Murthy > Quotes
v “...this is the reality of being human, that we
have the capacity to love people--family, friends, and strangers--even if we
profoundly disagree with them.”
v “Solitude allows us to get comfortable being with
ourselves, which makes it easier to be ourselves in interactions with others.
That authenticity helps build strong connections.”
v “Solitude, paradoxically, protects against
loneliness.”
v “Intimate, or emotional, loneliness is the longing
for a close confidante or intimate partner—someone with whom you share a deep
mutual bond of affection and trust. Relational, or social, loneliness is the
yearning for quality friendships and social companionship and support.
Collective loneliness is the hunger for a network or community of people who
share your sense of purpose and interests. These three dimensions together
reflect the full range of high-quality social connections that humans need in
order to thrive. The lack of relationships in any of these dimensions can make
us lonely, which helps to explain why we may have a supportive marriage yet
still feel lonely for friends and community.”
v “What is humanity, really, but a family of
families?”
v “What often matters is not the quantity or
frequency of social contact but the quality of our connections and how we feel
about them.”
v “To be real is to be vulnerable,”
v “When we become chronically lonely, most of us are
inclined to withdraw, whether we mean to or not.”
v “Many people described what they were feeling as a
lack of belonging.”
v “Connection, not hatred, is the glue that makes us
feel we all truly belong.”
v “we need to more deeply appreciate the relationship
between loneliness, social connection, and physical and emotional health.”
v “Most of us are interacting with lonely people all
the time, even if we don’t realize it.”
v “We all need to know that we matter and that we are
loved.”
v “Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a
tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.
You need one because you are human. —Jane Howard, Families”
v “Like thousands of others, we survived the storm
and the many dark days that followed because of the kindness of strangers who
brought food, water, and comfort'.”
v “Today it's widely understood that one of the most
important factors in preventing and addressing toxic stress in children is
healthy social connection.”
v “Being connected to others gives us a stake in more
than our own interests.”
v “Being connected to others gives us a stake in more
than our own interests. It expands those interests to include our whole
community and thus increases our motivation to work together.”
v “Small irritations can lead to exaggerated
reactions.”
v “it’s the painfulness of the disconnection.”
v “loneliness overlaps with and is often inherited
with anxiety disorders or depression.”
v “They also can feed off each other, as depression
and anxiety make it harder to connect with other people, and this can deepen
the pain of loneliness.”
v “Others didn’t even realize that loneliness was
what they were feeling.”
v “strong emotional connections that are encouraged,
where people talk to one another and share honestly and openly on a regular
basis.”
v “Loneliness is the subjective feeling that you’re
lacking the social connections you need. It can feel like being stranded,
abandoned, or cut off from the people with whom you belong—even if you’re
surrounded by other people. What’s missing when you’re lonely is the feeling of
closeness, trust, and the affection of genuine friends, loved ones, and
community.”
v “we have a universal need to connect with one
another.”
v “To be at home is to be known. It is to be loved
for who you are. It is to share a sense of common ground, common interests,
pursuit, and values with others who truly care about you. In community after
community, I met lonely people who felt homeless even though they had a roof
over their heads.”
v “the power of gratitude can be delivered in the
smallest of moments”
v “nature. Meditation, prayer, art, music, and time
spent outdoors can all be sources of solitary comfort and joy. Help and be
helped. Service is a form of human connection that reminds us of our value and
purpose in life. Giving and receiving, both, strengthen our social
bonds—checking on a neighbor, seeking advice, even just offering a smile to a
stranger six feet away, all can make us stronger.”
v “Her emotions were simply warning her that her life
was out of balance, that she needed to tend to her social needs. Loneliness was
signaling, not accusing her. It was trying to help by reminding her just how
vitally she needed to reconnect”
v “To be at home is to be known. It is to be loved
for who you are.”
v “What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are
not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves?”
v “Virtually front-loading the relationship with
social information, it seemed, was a trade-off that eased entry but made the
resulting connection “less binding.”13”
v “but my parents understood that to truly listen,
you have to meet people where they are, emotionally and physically, however
long that takes.”
v “In the workplace when we violate human nature, we
create a crisis that causes disengagement, depression, and loneliness. This
comes in part from not honoring people’s humanity and not honoring their unique
contribution as human beings.”
v “In community after community, I met lonely people
who felt homeless even though they had a roof over their heads.”
v “John Cacioppo helped us understand an additional
way loneliness causes mental and physical exhaustion: it takes a toll on the
quality of sleep. When we’re profoundly lonely, we tend to sleep lightly and
rouse often, just as our ancestors did to prevent being overtaken by wolves or
enemies.”
Dr. Mohan Gulrajani
Gurugram - Haryana - 122009
Ph. 9818253979, 0124-437676