's Guide To Love And Pleasure
Elis Riebow
Do you, like many people, have a mental list of things you think you need in order to be truly happy? There are many externals our society teaches us to chase: success, wealth, fame, power, good looks, romantic love. But are they really the keys to happiness?
Count your blessings. Make it a habit to regularly reflect on the things you have to be thankful for. Bring to mind all the good people, experiences, and things in your life, both now and in the past. Focus on the blessings both big and small, from the people who love you, to the roof over your head and the food on your table. You will soon see it's a pretty long list.
Minimize multi-tasking. Savoring requires your full attention, which is impossible when you're trying to do multiple things. For example, if you're eating a delicious meal while distractedly surfing the Internet, you're not going to get as much pleasure out of the food as you could have. Focus on one thing at a time in order to truly maximize your enjoyment.
Stop to smell the roses. It may be an old cliché, but it's good advice. You'll appreciate good things more if you stop whatever you're doing for a moment to appreciate and luxuriate in them. It will enhance your pleasure, even if you can only spare a few seconds. And if you can share the moment with others, that's even better. Shared pleasure is powerful.
Play to your strengths. The happiest people know what their unique strengths are and build their lives around activities that allow them to use those strengths for the greater good. There are many different kinds of strengths, including kindness, curiosity, honesty, creativity, love of learning, perseverance, loyalty, optimism, and humor.
If we expand our minds to think about the feelings of sexual pleasure and not only reproduction, suddenly so many other body parts come to life. Our genitals are only just part of the story- we have so many different parts of our bodies that contribute to sexual pleasure. The most important one is actually our brains! This guide to your body from Scarleteen is a really great breakdown of all of the parts and systems of our bodies that work together to allow us to experience sexual pleasure.
A guide to inclusive Wicca, which welcomes everyone regardless of sexual orientation, disability, age, or other differences, examining ideas such as eco-spirituality, science, truth, the sacred, sexuality, consent culture, tradition, and magic
All Acts of Love and Pleasure is a companion guide to inclusive Wicca, which includes all participants regardless of sexual orientation, disability, age, or other differences, not by erasing or ignoring the distinctions, but by working with them creatively within initiatory Craft. Tracing the development of Pagan and Wiccan ideas about gender and sexuality, authority and tradition, we can see that the Craft has evolved since the 1950s, and will continue to develop in the future.
Although the aim of this book is to act as a guide to existing initiatory covens who want to make their practice more inclusive, its scope is much broader as it deals with wide-ranging issues including group dynamics, coven leadership, ritual, ethics, and Wiccan theology and practice. It is sure to appeal to Pagans, Magicians, Druids and Witches, of all persuasions and views.
\"I wrote the book to establish guidelines so that people would behave in a manner that is non-injurious to each other, for one, and, for two, to communicate the fact that these people who are so different in maturation, etc., that when they develop relationships, they use certain principles that regular people, adults, would be well to attend.\"
ELIZABETH TUDOR, 1558-1603
The accession to the throne of England of a monarch possessing a strong individuality has always resulted in that particular peculiarity being stamped upon the nation, and Elizabeth decidedly established herself as one such individual. Her force of will, her strong business qualities, her intense love of pleasure, her passion for display, her love and encouragement of everything that added to the greatness of England, are all marked upon the progress of the nation during her reign, and especially upon costume. It was not to be expected that a woman of her force of character would be content with the same garments her grandmother affected, and consequently at an early period in her reign we find those changes inaugurated which resulted in a complete upheaval and entire revolution of the dress of the English nation.
Women love slow, romantic sex. In other words, we love when a man makes love to us. Forget banging, getting laid, getting it on, and all of those different ways to have sex. We often love the caring nature of making love more than any of that.
So remember to keep the balance right, and mix up lovemaking with some plain old sex, some dirty sex, rough sex, naughty sex and everything else too! [Read: The 7 sexy types of sex you need to have in your relationship]
But if you want to make love to a woman, thrust her deep, but do it as slowly and passionately as you can. Enjoy each stroke like you want to take forever entering and leaving her. Slow thrusts is the real definition of making love.
Think of it as slow-motion sex, it looks and feels sexier than anything else. And if you want to make love, everything you do in bed should seem purposeful and calculated, and most importantly, slow and pleasurable too. [Read: Slow sex and all the steamy reasons why your girl will enjoy this most]
So focus the sex on her pleasure this time. Spend some time giving her some much-appreciated oral, and focus on getting her off before you finish. Be selfless in bed, and make her pleasure your number one priority.
This is perfect for making her feel the love even after the sex has ended, ensuring that she truly feels appreciated for more than just her body. [Read: The best cuddling positions to make your girlfriend feel loved]
Why is it that the bodily pleasures have accrued such a poor reputation? Plato, as usual, had the first, very loud, say on the matter. His views shift over the course of the dialogues, but some general themes stand out. Bodily pleasure, he says, is often connected to pain and, because pain is a bad thing, so too is bodily pleasure.
1. It is hard to say exactly what pleasure is. Though it is a common enough feature of existence, trying to nail down an exact definition is an elusive goal. That makes reflecting upon the nature of pleasure all the more important.
Because the value and pursuit of pleasure are such ineluctable parts of how you go about being a human, it deserves serious reflection. Is bodily pleasure too much of a preoccupation? Are you getting enough pleasure overall? Where else can pleasure be sought? And so on. But more than these pragmatic queries, thinking about pleasure can often lead to some downright serious considerations, like this beef Wellington of a question: how much do you value your temporary life on Earth?
More incisive than Saint-Évremond was his friend the courtesan and philosopher Ninon de Lenclos. She affirmed, more bravely and beautifully than any contemporary, the pleasures of the flesh and the joys of the material world. She outright hated asceticism, particularly its Christian variant, which she felt helped to deny women their rights, because it helped to deny women their pleasures.
Mingoo Kang (Mingles)Two MICHELIN Stars
MICHELIN Guide Seoul 2022
I enjoy eating chicken after work or with my team members. I really like Korean Fried Chicken, so I put chicken on the menu at Mingles and at Hansik Goo in Hong Kong. Korean Fried Chicken borrowed its form from Western-style fried chicken or roast chicken, but it gained a unique charm because it was loved by the public in Korea. When seasoning chicken, we use Korean spices such as green onions, garlic, and ginger to enhance the flavour, and add a variety of tastes such as sweet soy sauce and spicy sauce to it, making it a very unique chicken dish that you have never experienced in the West.
My favuorite chicken is Green-pepper Anchovy Chicken. It's a dish that Chef Shin Chang-ho of two-MICHELIN-starred Joo-ok and I developed together, which was inspired by Korean side dishes. Stir-fried anchovies and green peppers are mixed with Korean soy sauce and served with crispy fried chicken. You can enjoy the charm of Korean food and the characteristics of chicken together.
Arousal is expressed through our breathing. Becoming aware of breath in sexuality will bring life and orgasm into focus like nothing else.
Whether you tend towards long and slow breaths, or short, fast inhalations, stop and notice how your breathing affects your connection to your body, your lover, and your orgasmic possibilities.
Try changing your breathing pattern and see how it transforms the experience. Making an agreement with your partner to synchronize your breathing and movement is a remarkably simple step which can have a profound impact on lovemaking. Refocusing your breathing will not only deepen your connection, but may also expand your idea of orgasm.
The body has many feel good hormones that boost mood and promote general wellbeing in many ways. Some are able to alleviate anxiety and prevent depressive symptoms while others trigger pleasure, joy, bonding, and trust. Here are the main happiness chemicals in your body:
Endorphins and dopamine are often confused because each one is a chemical that makes you happy in the broad sense of the term. However, they are in some ways related because, when endorphins bind to receptors of the central nervous system, dopamine (the pleasure hormone) is released.
There are some natural ways to increase your levels of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin which will boost your mood, emotions, and even cognitive function. Activities like exercise, eating a meal with loved ones, and increasing your intake of prebiotics and probiotics are all beneficial.
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