The Quality of Scott O'Hara's friends
Coy McCoy
Well after John Stanley referenced the URL about Scott O'Hara, I decided
to check this out... Talk about a gag-fest. Now add pedophile to his
list of immoral acts... Since it is relatively short, here is the piece
sleazemaster or cruisemaster wrote. Read it and hurl...
Coy
The Biggest Dick in San Francisco ...
is dead. I was alerted this morning that Scott O'Hara died of
complications
from AIDS on Wednesday, February 18. For cruisers around the world,
this will come as sad news. No other person made himself more vocal
about the rights of cocksuckers. Scott was a strong advocate for the
repeal
of all laws that regulated sexuality. He used his fame from a porn
career
and his editorial bully pulpit at Steam magazine to spread the
gospel that
sex is good and normal between consenting persons (he was also a
very
strong advocate for barebacking and routinely marched with NAMBLA, a
reflection of his desire to push the sexual envelope even further
than
most.).
In retrospect, I now realize that while Scott lay dying, I was
cruising
Hampstead Heath in London. London was his favorite big city
destination
and Scott would visit the Heath and spend hours on his knees sucking
cock. He was a gifted cocksucker, easily able to deep throat any
sized
dick, though he preferred small dicks.
I knew Scott very well -- probably as good as anyone, which is
saying a
great deal. Scott was a very private person and rarely allowed
anyone to
venture too deeply into his life. Some of us managed to get through,
but
even we were often puzzled by the peculiar nature of this man.
Scott and I hadn't spoken since July 4, 1996. He came to a barbecue
I
hosted and we went up on Buena Vista in San Francisco to observe the
fireworks. Scott and I never had a real falling out, that is we
never had a
yelling match. We just stopped talking. The way he handled the
demise of
PDA Press, the publisher of Steam magazine, was the source of our
disagreement. It was a business we started together, when we came up
with the idea for Steam during one of my annual month-long visits to
his
farm, lovingly known as Little Dick, in rural Wisconsin. Scott was a
trust-fund baby and he was looking for a way to spend his money in a
way
that would help him with the Taxman, but also provide some sort of
legacy (he had been diagnosed with AIDS for many years, even
battling a
near death from AIDS-related cancer.). Steam was the solution. He
lost
money (over 3/4 of a million dollars of his own cash was sunk into
PDA
Press) and got to become one of the leading sex activists in the
USA.
We met in 1985, but our relationship started even before then. I had
seen
him doing one of his trademark jack-off shows in 1984 and sent him a
fan
letter. Months later, unknown to me, Scott was photographing me for
a
local gay paper while I delivered a political speech. He came up
after the
speech and introduced himself. He had kept the fan letter and made a
point of letting me know this. That was the beginning of a long
friendship.
We had sex a few times (and yes, it was very big -- but Scott really
preferred to bottom), and then moved on to other matters. My heart
fell
for him, and he knew this, but then again, Scott had men falling for
him all
the time. Somehow, I managed to remain his friend even as he
traveled
around the world and would be gone for months at a time.
The defining moment in his life came at a very young age. His
sister,
Claudia, a lesbian and published poet, committed suicide when he was
a
kid. He loved Claudia as much as anyone and never forgave his
parents
(whom he hated, and I do mean hate) for apparently driving their
daughter
to her death. Whenever we would go to Ashland, Oregon, to the
Shakespeare festival, Scott and I would drive out to the country and
visit
the grave of his sister. I suspect that part of his obsession with
writing and
being published drew from his adoration for Claudia.
Scott loved Broadway musicals. He was a fanatic for Stephen Sondheim
(hating Andrew Lloyd Webber in equal amounts). He also had a
particular
fondness for South Pacific. Apparently he associated that musical
with his
first childhood sex when he seduced a man in his twenties. Scott
frightened the older man half out of his wits, but the man captured
his
heart and Scott told me once that he would often listen to South
Pacific as
a kid and remember this man. One night sitting alone with him on his
farm, I saw Scott crying while listening to South Pacific. That was
the
first, and only, time I ever saw him express such emotion.
He was a major collector of pornographic art (he donated his vast
and
valuable collection to the Tom of Finland Foundation), and used his
trust
fund money to support struggling artists and numerous causes, not
least
being regional theatre companies. He had a weakness for Latino men
and
any man with a shaved head. Piss, fisting, bondage -- Scott was
willing.
He lived the very lifestyle that his politics spoke so eloquently in
defense
of -- the life of a sleazehound.
How should we memorialize Scott? That one is easy: have hot sex,
perhaps fantasizing about Scott with his huge dick and boyish grin,
being
careful that you do this in a bathhouse or park. He hated bedroom
sex and
wasn't that keen on tearooms, either.
Goodbye Scott. You will be missed on the Heath tonight. We shall
suck
some cock in your honor.
Keith Griffith
Cruisemaster
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Paul Halsall
Coy McCoy wrote:
>
> Well after John Stanley referenced the URL about Scott O'Hara, I decided
> to check this out... Talk about a gag-fest. Now add pedophile to his
> list of immoral acts...
How was he a pedophile?
If he had sex when *he* was a teenager with a man in his
twenties, then Scott was not a pedophile. If anything he was
an androphile!
You should learn to read, or at least learn the meaning of
words.
Paul Halsall
> Scott loved Broadway musicals. He was a fanatic for Stephen Sondheim
> (hating Andrew Lloyd Webber in equal amounts). He also had a
> particular
> fondness for South Pacific. Apparently he associated that musical
> with his
> first childhood sex when he seduced a man in his twenties. Scott
> frightened the older man half out of his wits, but the man captured
> his
> heart and Scott told me once that he would often listen to South
> Pacific as
> a kid and remember this man. One night sitting alone with him on his
> farm, I saw Scott crying while listening to South Pacific. That was
> the
> first, and only, time I ever saw him express such emotion.
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Mike Silverman
In article <34F57762...@acc6.its.brooklyn.cuny.edu>, Paul Halsall
<phal...@its.brooklyn.cuny.edu> wrote:
> Coy McCoy wrote:
> >
> > Well after John Stanley referenced the URL about Scott O'Hara, I decided
> > to check this out... Talk about a gag-fest. Now add pedophile to his
> > list of immoral acts...
>
> How was he a pedophile?
Maybe *HE* wasn't a pedophile, but he was a supporter of NAMBLA.
Not just their right to exist, or their right to free speech, but an
active supporter of their goals.
--
Mike Silverman -- cubsfan at turnleft.com -- Lawrence, KS
http://www.turnleft.com/personal
Mike Silverman
At 10:38 AM -0600 2/26/98, Paul Halsall wrote:
>> Maybe *HE* wasn't a pedophile, but he was a supporter of NAMBLA.
>> Not just their right to exist, or their right to free speech, but an
>> active supporter of their goals.
>
>That could not be derived from the passage in question.
>
>And the topic you want to discuss is banned here!
Discussion of the subject is banned, but simply mentioning it in passing as
it related to another subject being discussed in detail (O'Hara) isn't
banned.
Right?
Mike Silverman -- cub...@turnleft.com
http://www.turnleft.com/personal/
"pride in the name of love..."
Paul Halsall
Mike Silverman wrote:
>
> In article <34F57762...@acc6.its.brooklyn.cuny.edu>, Paul Halsall
> <phal...@its.brooklyn.cuny.edu> wrote:
>
> > Coy McCoy wrote:
> > >
> > > to check this out... Talk about a gag-fest. Now add pedophile to his
> > > list of immoral acts...
> >
>
> Not just their right to exist, or their right to free speech, but an
> active supporter of their goals.
That could not be derived from the passage in question.
And the topic you want to discuss is banned here!
PBH
Fred Bradford
Mike Silverman wrote:
>
> Discussion of the subject is banned, but simply mentioning it in passing as
> it related to another subject being discussed in detail (O'Hara) isn't
> banned.
Lately, prohibition of the direct discussion of NAMBLA is the ONLY rule
on Gaynet that has been followed 100%. NONE of the other rules have.
(And I am one of the offenders.)
I'll try to get over it.
-f
--
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Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Don't AOL.
Mike Silverman
At 8:51 PM -0600 2/26/98, gorichweb2 wrote:
>Is the subject of Nambla NOT allowed on this list?
>
I don't think so. Ivaguely remember getting some rules document when I
signed up that listed debating the merits of NAMBLA as a verboten subject.
The rationale being that it leads to flame-fest, although it's not like
there's a tea party here as it is right now :-)
Mike Silverman -- cub...@turnleft.com
http://www.turnleft.com/personal/
"pride in the name of love..."
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Chris Fox
At 09:54 PM 2/26/98 -0600, Mike Silverman wrote:
>At 8:51 PM -0600 2/26/98, gorichweb2 wrote:
>>Is the subject of Nambla NOT allowed on this list?
>>
>
>I don't think so. Ivaguely remember getting some rules document when I
>signed up that listed debating the merits of NAMBLA as a verboten subject.
>The rationale being that it leads to flame-fest, although it's not like
>there's a tea party here as it is right now :-)
Roger can corRECT me if I'm wrong, but I believe that NAMBLA is not
forbidden as a subject so much as a debate.
Experience elsewhere is that the topic quickly boils down to a few
intransigent and "passionate" partisans of opposite views who sit and slug
it out day after day, week after week, saying nothing new and calling each
other names. It gets nowhere and it turns everyone off.
Not that this could *ever* happen on GayNet....
Chris Fox
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