I have been travelling on business almost continuously for the past four weeks and it has lead me to ponder - as it often does - on the strong sililarities and acute differences in bisexual men around the world. In this particular case I had reason to consider the various erogenous zones that men have. Not that I much believe that men of different nationalities have specifically different areas of their body that are erotic for them - but different cultures certainly have some phobias about how and what they will explore.
Any heterosexual or bisexual man alive will have travelled the complicated and mysterious realms of female erogenous zones which are as much phychological as they are physical. Working hard to buildthat excitement and find that particular spot that will send her eyes rolling back in her head and arching of backs. Forget about finding the clitorous - I spent many years as a teenager searching with fingers and tongue and still believe a solid vigorous fuck is what it is all about. Thank God men are a helluva lot less complicated and so little of it (not zero but not a lot) is mental and men soar on the sheer physicality and lust of touch and taste and texture. Men in my opinion are still very primal in the rawness and natural power of enjoying ........ "enjoying"!!! If it bring pleasure to give and receive pleasure then the only real mystery is to find those particular spots on another person that are major turn ons. Not necessarily an endless range of options but many of the men reading this are certain to have found places - both moist or dry / smooth or hairy / sweet or salty - that have never occured to me. I have tried almost everything that has seemed viable in this journey since i was 18 so please share anything I may have missed.
As I sit to write this I possibly realize how mainstream my own erogenous zones are but some of my strongest sexual energy comes from seeing the pulsating pleasure in another man as some part of you touches down on that special spot that does it for him. The steel tension in his muscles as he spasms; the half scream / half moan; cuss words of passion; glazed eyes; lost breath - god that sort of sexual crescendo whether experienced or given .... is what keeps bringing us back in spite of all the stuff we go through in our heads in deciding to drink from that sweet fountain again!!!
So what in particular got me thinking along this particular line?? I was in Doha recently and spent an evening with a beautiful Lebanese guy. Very tall, very hairy and sexy, great kisser, uncut cock, very physical and sensitive lover. He was also a nipple freak. My nipples are entirely non active sexually as much as I may enjoy another man who has sensitive nipples. This Leb guy needed a level of biting gouging and pinching of nipples that was extraordinary. The harder I worked them the crazier he got. I was seriously worried that I was going to completely remove one of the bloody bronze erect nipples that were like shotgun cartridges in size. He demanded more and more and we rolled around that bed like a pair of breast feeding bears. Unfortunately he must have assumed that it was also something that I was looking for and what was good for him was just fucking killing me - I had to stop him quickly as I was losing my mojo. In aspite of that my nipples stayed hard for like 3 days after I was with him and are still major sensitive (and darker I think for some reason) a week later.
Another differential I have discovered is rimming. I enjoy it well enough if I am getting it from a guy who knows what he is doing. My major turn on however is tongue fucking another guy who really enjoys it. His face buried in a pillow. His hands reaching back to pull his cheeks waaaaay apart to expose his sweet muscle. Legs parted wide to stroke his bounching cock while my tongue deeply ploughs his tight wrinkled hole. Fuck that is erotic and the clean natural smell and taste of a mans ass is incredible. Listening to his moaning and pushing his ass hard against your face as your tongue pushes deep into his crack. I got nuts with lust when I can feel hear and taste his excitement. The only time I ever remember that it was something really incredible for me was with a South African guy I knew up to maybe 2 years ago. Christ we had great sex together and we had to break it off pretty quickly as we were both dedicated and committed to our marriages and the sex between us was just too damn good and getting to damn hard to go without. He and was were somehow flexible to tongue fuck each other at the same time - don't remember ever being able to do that before. Hell it was an exciting experience where we were both losing it to the same degree at the same time. I am hard now just remembering how good it was.
Someone once told me that guys who enjoy nipple play and being rimmed are often bottoms .... I cant quite understand the correlation. It may have some grounding in commonality of sensation but - hell - I just thought it was that massive engorged impaled sensation of feeling a thick hot cock slowly sliding inside you until it was pushing against that acorn of sheer pleasure - but hey if your nipples are attached to your chestnut then more power to you.
Armpits are another one - quite a number of guys enjoy kissing licking sucking being delivered to their hairy muscled armpits. Again it is that clean musky manly smell and taste that is intoxicating. Still does nothing for me but my pleasure is in finding their pleasure. Strongly holding their arm over the top of their head while your hairy bodies and cocks rub together and you devour his muscled armpit .... very sexy. Feet - frequent almost common place of interest but I for one think it is a fetish and not an erogenous zone - I cant believe that anyone has any pleasure points between their toes or in the arch of their feet .... if that was the case we would all have boners while we jogged (been known to happen of course). Neck and earlobes ..... hmm ..... I will allow that area as having some excitement but one thing I cant abide it a thick wet tongue slobbering in my ear.
So where are my well understood and explored pleasure points? Kissing is the easiest one for me. A powerful making out session on a couch with a guy who is a great kisser and hugger is the best starting point possible for me. Nothing is more erotic and powerful. I have met married guys who were willing to let you fuck them but wouldn't kiss you (some sort of last bastion of bisexual denial I assume). Without the kissing part nothing much will follow for me unfortunately. In the same vein - those times of holding each other tight and kissing more gently as your sweaty cum covered bodies are entwined after sex - man that is great too.
I have two powerful erogenous zones that will make me explode like a bomb if a tongue or finger or cock rubs against them. These are my spots where I seriously go nuts and time stops and I almost lose consciousness. One is at the back of my ball sac in my groin - just where my nuts connected with my crotch - for some reason it is not an area that I can much excite myself but a lover .... of eaither sex ..... who works that spot will be rewarded with a cum dump similar to a tub of yoplait. The other spot is on the underside of my cock where my knob and shaft meet in a small wrinkle of skin residue from my circumcision. If a guy is swallowing my cock and as he comes up to the knob and his tongue slithers across that wrinkle ..... my balls clench and my ass muscle contracts. Then I feel the wrinkle slide the length of his cat tongue as his head drops back down my shaft.
Massage generally is a major physical sensation for me and I have even been know to moan in the hairdressers when my scalp has been massaged while my hair is being washed. My spine must be one bloody great long electrical impulse as a stronge pair of hands massaging my shoulders and working down my spine to the base has my back arching and my hips lifting a much relaxed asshole into the air. As you expect I dont think my sexual inclinations have ever been much of a mystery to any of the guys who have massaged me and thankfully a couple have even picked up on the rawness of the evident invitation. That is a story for another day.
So guys anyone else know of some interesting erogenous zones that I may have not (yet) had the chance to enjoy. Not fetishes as i believe that is physcological and a different thing all together. Have a good day. FINIS