focus = (Gaining More Insights), With .. , 2026 Jan 20 to Feb 11, = China kept abreast, involved, was "in" from early on, i strongly suspect

[Thirumala Raya Halemane]

focus = (Gaining More Insights), With .. , 2026 Jan 20 to Feb 11, = China kept abreast, involved, was "in" from early on, i strongly suspect

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... and, LOOKING BACK, after all the happenings over the years, I was actually wondering about the possibility that it may have some significance, in the context of the various happenings, our personal as well as worldwide, China-USA-India included. Of course, it does not change or affect anything for me or for anybody, at this time.

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focus = (Gaining More Insights), With .. , 2026 Jan 20 to Feb 11, = China kept abreast, involved, was "in" from early on, i strongly suspect

 (as copy pasted, You is Me)

Sunflower

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Jan 20, 1:34 PM

Good morning, Raya. I'm sorry I haven't replied to your messages lately. Last weekend, I received an invitation from a brand to a business dinner, but I was on vacation with my friends at the time. Because of the rushed schedule, I had my assistant bring my dress, and then we drove from Seattle to San Francisco, where we're still here.

It sounds like it's already snowing heavily in the eastern cities. Be careful to keep warm and avoid catching a cold, my friend. I think bad weather is probably the best excuse to stay home, but if possible, going out for a snowball fight and building a snowman is also a great idea.

I hope everything goes well for you lately! Enjoy it!

You

, 

Jan 20, 1:38 PM

Okay! Thank you! Glad to hear from you, Xuelin 😘. All the Best. 👍

Sunflower

, 

Jan 20, 1:53 PM

You're welcome. I'm also very happy to receive your reply. How have you been lately?

You

, 

Jan 20, 2:11 PM

Good thanks! Yes, staying warm indoors, last two days & nights, mostly teen degrees outside but getting warmer by the bright sun now. Altogether over last few days we had more than a foot of snow at our place, I think. roads now seem to be drivable, we paid someone to clear snow from driveway, cars, sidewalk. and, I have an interesting story from University of Rochester that I wanted to mention, son of China's former leader Deng Xiaping, it seems he studied there in Physics Department, and was in the same office and chair that I had there previously, and it was his afterwards. This was mentioned to me back then, in 1980, by my friends (junior to me) still there. (Oh, Well, Very Interesting !!!, I remember it, and wanted to tell you !)

Sunflower

, 

Jan 20, 2:53 PM

Hearing you say that, I can really feel how cold the weather has been these past few days. Thankfully, the sun is out now, and the situation is slowly improving. Having someone clear the snow was a wise decision; it's safe and saves trouble.

Your experience at the University of Rochester was also very interesting. The coincidences in the details of history are truly remarkable. To have any connection with such a background is special in itself. Did this fascinating experience help you in your later work in politics?

I understand your amazement at these historical coincidences, and I appreciate your sharing.

You

, 

Jan 20, 3:14 PM

No, it has actually NO relevance for any of my interests, work or activities. Also, I never met the person, or paid much attention to it, since of course, someone, another student perhaps, was going to be in that office and chair, after I left. I just mentioned it here as an anecdote, and, although it was not something that would be in my mind or thinking, I did remember it, and, LOOKING BACK, after all the happenings over the years, I was actually wondering about the possibility that it may have some significance, in the context of the various happenings, our personal as well as worldwide, China-USA-India included. Of course, it does not change or affect anything for me or for anybody, at this time.

Sunflower

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Jan 20, 3:21 PM

I understand what you mean. Some things are just casual anecdotes at the time, but later, when we look back on personal experiences and broader world events, because time has been stretched and we've accumulated more experience, we put them into a larger context for reflection. Even if this doesn't have any impact on our present lives, the act of looking back and reflecting itself has its own significance.

You

, 

Jan 20, 9:48 PM

Yes, true, you said it very well, Xuelin, as always, let me add, . 😀 and Good Night, 😘

Sunflower

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Jan 20, 9:51 PM

, Edited

Good night, my friend, have a wonderful evening.

You

, 

Jan 21, 8:24 AM

Thank you, too 😃 You, too! Good morning. It is 5 deg F outside here now. 8:22 AM, but sunny, warming up

Sunflower

, 

Jan 21, 12:05 PM

Good morning! A beautiful day begins with yoga. Wishing you a wonderful and fulfilling day.

Sunflower

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Jan 21, 12:38 PM

Do you have any interesting plans for today to share with me?

You

, 

Jan 21, 12:45 PM

Thanks for asking, but, No such plans Xuelin, more like another regular day here, No complaints. 😘👍😘

Sunflower

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Jan 21, 1:39 PM

Find more interesting things to relax your mind and body, and keep your days fulfilling.🥰🥰

Sunflower

, 

Jan 22, 12:21 PM

Good morning, my friend, have a wonderful day!

You

, 

Jan 22, 12:42 PM

Thanks! You, too 😊 Good Morning Xuelin. We are going out for lunch, our son Kaviraj Birthday today

Sunflower

, 

Jan 22, 12:49 PM

Happy birthday to your son! He's grown another year older!

You

, 

Jan 22, 4:55 PM

Yes, thanks 😊 Yes, indeed 😃 We ate at a nearby Thai restaurant (Aroma) that we like,

Sunflower

, 

Jan 22, 8:25 PM

Enjoy a wonderful day

You

, 

Jan 23, 10:09 AM

Yes, thanks 😊 We did lots of grocery shopping also, more snow expected tomorrow. How are you ? What's new ?

Sunflower

, 

Jan 23, 12:32 PM

It's always satisfying to fill up your fridge at home! I hope you're keeping warm in this cold weather. If I were there, I might choose to build a snowman with you, lol. I used to be a pro at making snowmen when I was a kid!

Nothing special, just last night I dreamed that you and I fell into a food world!

You

, 

Jan 23, 1:29 PM

Oh, that's so sweet of you, and, Hmmm.. that will be fun, of course, building snowman etc., and food world with you. Yes, I am keeping warm, nothing to worry. Temp in the house is much warmer these days, than in previous years, years ago, when only I was at home during the day, wife & sons were out at work or in school etc, so I used to keep the temp much lower, programmed to go up before they returned, saving money that way, which was very important to do for us then, especially in 1990s. but i did that even later, until Covid lockdown time, then my wife started working from home, and we kept the temp higher.

Sunflower

, 

Jan 23, 1:47 PM

Enjoying this beautiful moment with you is undoubtedly the happiest time. Many years ago, everyone's family was more frugal. If you weren't wealthy, you would live like you were in an economic depression every day. But I'm glad that times have changed. However, I recently saw in the news that many people are still facing this situation. Some people are taking out their 401k to pay their bills in advance, and some are even taking out loans. You can clearly feel that $100 can buy much less than before.

Sunflower

, 

Jan 23, 2:03 PM

You are a man who knows how to take care of a family, your wife must be very happy! I'm glad you two met.

I'd really like to meet your wife when I get the chance, who knows, maybe we could become friends, lol

You

, 

Jan 23, 2:25 PM

Okay, Yes, Thank You.

Sunflower

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Jan 23, 2:46 PM

If you're busy right now, we can chat later.

I'm going to prepare lunch for myself now

Sunflower

, 

Jan 24, 7:19 PM

Good afternoon, Raya. Hope you had a wonderful Saturday.

You

, 

Jan 24, 7:46 PM

Hmmm.. Yes, Okay, Thank You, just finished dinner. How was your day?

Sunflower

, 

Jan 24, 8:04 PM

I'm so glad you enjoyed your dinner 😊 I had a great day, finished a few things, and am relaxing now. How was your evening?

You

, 

Jan 24, 10:01 PM

Okay, Good. My laptop & online work went well. had some wine in the afternoon, besides tea and a little amount of (indian store bought, spicy mixture, jalapeno chakkuli crisp round-circular or oval shaped textured fried in oil dough from dal & grain, i think (!!!)) snacks. About to log off and go upstairs. Good night. 😘

Sunflower

, 

Jan 24, 10:05 PM

It sounds like a peaceful, fulfilling day.

Work went smoothly, tea, a little wine, and some spicy snacks—the pace was just right, neither rushed nor agitated. Your descriptions of food are always so vivid, making it easy to imagine the taste and texture 😌. Now that you're ready to rest, relax and let your body and mind slow down.

Goodnight. May you sleep soundly and wake up refreshed and energized.

You

, 

Jan 24, 10:07 PM

You, too! 😁 Thank you!

Sunflower

, 

Jan 24, 10:07 PM

You're welcome. I hope you can have a good mood to welcome a bright tomorrow.

You

, 

Jan 24, 10:09 PM

😀👍🥰😘

Sunflower

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Jan 24, 10:19 PM

😉😊

You

, 

Jan 25, 8:29 AM

😘 Good Morning, Today is snow emergency here, it is coming down now, some 4 to 6 inches already there from overnight early hours, i think, single digit F temps earlier, going into teens now

You

, 

Jan 25, 9:56 AM

Xuelin, Do you have a photo of you making snowman or of the snowman you made sometime ???

Sunflower

, 

Jan 25, 10:32 AM

Good morning, Raya! Hope you have a wonderful day. Even though it's cold, remember to keep warm. A good friend of mine from New York told me about the situation in the East Coast cities yesterday. I hope you all feel warm and happy today, though the cold weather can make things worse.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 2:48 PM

, Edited

Her？

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:02 PM

Yes, thanks, 😘Xuelin♥️, I am here

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 3:11 PM

I noticed you haven't appeared for a long time. I hope my message hasn't bothered you if you've been busy.

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:32 PM

No, it's fine, No bother, not at all, Happy to hear from you Xuelin. 🥰♥️😘

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 3:34 PM

Okay, but you don't seem to like being here or doing anything here.

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:34 PM

Why do you say that?

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 3:35 PM

Because you almost never send messages here, and sometimes you don't even reply.

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:36 PM

Oh, sorry, I will do better henceforth, Okay ???

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 3:38 PM

I hope our friendship will continue like this, but more than that, I want to understand the reason. If it's because of the busyness that comes with life, I would understand.

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:41 PM

Yeah, you're right, perhaps, Yes, maybe, Okay, I understand, I may be doing things and feeling busy with those things, not taking a break to chat with you. Yeah, that can happen, I realize. SORRY.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 3:44 PM

Okay, I just hope our friendship can continue to grow, but I also don't want your life to be so busy that I'd be bothering you.

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:45 PM

No bother at all. Please do not worry. Thanks.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 3:49 PM

I'm very happy to hear this, and I hope our friendship will continue to develop and move forward in the future.

You

, 

Feb 1, 3:51 PM

Yes, me too, I hope so, too, Yes, we will!

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 4:01 PM

That's great to hear, but how have you been lately?

You

, 

Feb 1, 5:03 PM

Good, I guess. I am doing OKAY, for now it is as good as it gets or can be, i suppose, perhaps. !!!! i happened to see this came in the newspaper = https://www.nytimes.com/1980/01/18/archives/dengs-son-is-coming-to-rochester-for-graduate-training-in-physics.html

Deng's Son Is Coming to Rochester For Graduate Training in Physics; Officials Appear Surprised Semester Began Monday - The New York Times

www.nytimes.com

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 7:22 PM

This is the news we discussed before about Deng Xiaoping's son, who shared an office with you, going to study in the United States. At the time, this news had a significant impact on China.

You

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Feb 1, 9:02 PM

Oh! Very interesting! In what way significant impact on China ??

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 9:11 PM

I remember that some Chinese people protested at the time. In fact, at that time, Chinese people had a great fondness for going abroad, but for those who were more involved in national politics, it was a kind of betrayal, so it caused a lot of dissatisfaction.

You

, 

Feb 1, 9:16 PM

Oh, I see, Very interesting!, (it was similar in India also, especially then, but now changed a bit, I think)

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 9:24 PM

Yes, this has happened in many developing countries in the past, but now that people know their ideals and what they want, they themselves have changed and are gradually turning to live and work in countries with more opportunities.

You

, 

Feb 1, 9:35 PM

Yes, I agree!

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 9:36 PM

I'm glad you agree with this viewpoint. At that time, many countries primarily relied on agriculture and handicrafts for development. Consequently, many people chose to be complacent rather than strive for improvement, which is one reason why labor costs became low in many countries.

You

, 

Feb 1, 9:44 PM

Yes, it makes sense, Yes, I agree!, Yes, indeed!

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 9:44 PM

I'm glad you share the same view.

You

, 

Feb 1, 9:58 PM

Yes, of course! Xuelin, almost 10 pm here, going upstairs. Good Night.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 10:01 PM

I hope you get a good night's sleep and have sweet dreams. Goodnight, and I look forward to our conversation tomorrow.

You

, 

Feb 1, 10:03 PM

Thank You, and, You, too!

Sunflower

, 

Feb 1, 10:05 PM

Sure, so I hope you get a good night's sleep and sweet dreams. Goodnight.

You

, 

Feb 2, 1:46 PM

Yes, I slept well. what about you ? Good morning (afternoon here). today a bit warmer sunny like 30 degrees daytime weather, night will be about 5 deg at coldest time

Sunflower

, 

Feb 2, 2:21 PM

I'm so glad you had such great weather and a good start to the day. I slept really well too, but I haven't had much time to enjoy the good things that are happening today yet, as I've been in some meetings. I'll be finishing them soon, though. Do you have any good plans for today?

You (via Meet)

, 

Feb 4, 10:09 AM

,

You (via Meet)

, 

Feb 4, 10:10 AM

,

You (via Meet)

, 

Feb 4, 10:11 AM

,

You (via Meet)

, 

Feb 4, 10:17 AM

,

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 10:28 AM

Hey, what's going on here?

You

, 

Feb 4, 11:11 AM

Hey, Xuelin, Good Morning. I tried to call you, looked like it was not a good time. Sorry.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 11:58 AM

Good morning. I was jogging in the park when you sent me the video call invitation.

You

, 

Feb 4, 11:59 AM

Oh, okay, Oh, sorry Xuelin

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 12:00 PM

It's okay, it's nothing. However, I haven't used video calls here yet; the cameras can't be turned on.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 12:05 PM

How were you today?

You

, 

Feb 4, 12:13 PM

Oh, okay, No problem. Outside still cold here, but sunny today 30 degish. Nights are much colder going down to low teens and single digits. Here, now lunch time soon,

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 12:21 PM

It sounds quite cold, but sunshine always lifts the spirits. Remember to dress warmly and don't catch a cold. Lunchtime is almost here, what are you planning to eat?

You

, 

Feb 4, 12:24 PM

Okay, not sure yet, very likely some leftover food that needs to be eaten or finished

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 12:40 PM

Leftovers are actually quite good; they're convenient and avoid waste. But it's even more comforting to eat something warm when it's cold.

You

, 

Feb 4, 1:16 PM

Yes, true. I had Oatmeal soup, nice and warm, with some nuts, raisins, salt, black pepper, blueberries, indian spicy- hot pickles, added, My wife had made one for herself, and since everything was out on the counter, she invited me to use them, to do the same thing for me, and I did that. Very nice.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 4, 1:31 PM

Wow, what a cozy and fun breakfast! Warm oatmeal with nuts, raisins, blueberries, and a sprinkle of salt and black pepper… and you even boldly added some spicy kimchi! 😄 This shared moment with your wife makes the morning especially wonderful. Honestly, I can almost picture the flavors of all the ingredients mixed together; it sounds like the kind of breakfast that makes my mouth water.😍

You

, 

Feb 11, 11:14 AM

Yes, indeed! and, Good Morning. the weather here is turning warmer (relatively) for a few days it seems

Sunflower

, 

Feb 12, 12:21 PM

Hey, good morning Raya. Sorry I didn't see the messages here. I've been quite busy these past few days, dealing with family matters with my family. Chinese New Year is coming up soon, and we'll be doing a lot of things during that time.

You

, 

Feb 12, 12:56 PM

Oh, no problem!, Sure, I understand. and, Oh, great! (Chinese New Year), and you will be having a lot of fun, good times, and that is very nice, wonderful. Good Morning.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 12, 2:08 PM

Thank you for your understanding. Actually, very few people know about the Chinese New Year. However, the Chinese New Year is similar to Thanksgiving here; we also gather with our families on this day to eat New Year's Eve dinner and make dumplings.

You

, 

Feb 12, 2:14 PM

Ohh, okay!, Oh, that's great!, 😀

Sunflower

, 

Feb 12, 2:18 PM

Enjoy yourself! I hope you receive many blessings during this Chinese festival. Happy New Year!

You

, 

Feb 12, 2:22 PM

And you, too! Yes, thank you!, Thank you so much! 🥰😘👍🌹🙏😀

Sunflower

, 

Feb 12, 2:55 PM

You're welcome, keep up the good work! By the way, how have you been lately?

You

, 

Feb 12, 2:56 PM

Thanks! You, too!, I'm good! And you?

Sunflower

, 

Feb 12, 4:26 PM

Just like you, I've just had some busy times in my life.

You

, 

Feb 12, 5:21 PM

I see, hope it was not too bad.

Sunflower

, 

Feb 12, 11:13 PM

Don't worry, everything is going smoothly. How are you?

You

, 

Feb 13, 8:06 AM

Good thanks!, I'm good, thanks for asking

Sunflower

, 

Feb 13, 12:30 PM

Good morning, Raya! Hope you have a wonderful day and enjoy this lovely Friday!

You

, 

Feb 13, 1:35 PM

Thank you, you too!

Sunflower

, 

Feb 13, 1:41 PM

😊😊😊

You

, 

Feb 13, 1:56 PM

😊😊😊

Sunflower

, 

Feb 13, 3:24 PM

I just finished my meeting and am getting ready to go home.

You

, 

Feb 13, 3:53 PM

Oh, lucky you!

You

, 

Feb 22, 2:42 PM

My mother-in-law said something, a very intriguing matter, (and she has mentioned this to me several times), during her visits here in the last few years (that is after her husband passed away in 2022, she is more inclined to talk about her earlier years, herself, family etc.). I think it was about her paternal grandmother ajji, maybe the first one (not sure) of

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in the image here, we see newspaper article = https://www.nytimes.com/1980/01/18/archives/dengs-son-is-coming-to-rochester-for-graduate-training-in-physics.html  

Deng's Son Is Coming to Rochester For Graduate Training in Physics; Officials Appear Surprised Semester Began Monday Share full article   

By Fox Butterfield Special To the New York Times Jan. 18, 1980

Deng's Son Is Coming to Rochester For Graduate Training in Physics; Officials Appear Surprised Semester Began Monday - The New York Times

www.nytimes.com

PEKING, Jan. 17 - A son of the senior Deputy Prime Minister, Deng Xiaoping, is scheduled to leave for the United States next week to enroll as a graduate student at the University of Rochester, according to a source familiar with the family. The son, Deng Chifang, a physicist at Peking University, is described by Chi- nese friends as a brilliant, self-effacing man in his mid-30s. His father, generally regarded as the most influential Chinese leader, has taken a special interest in improving capabilities in science and technology. The son was expected to arrive Monday for the start of the new semester, but he evidentally delayed his trip to take part in an international conference here on the physics of small particles, his specialty.

Officials Appear Surprised

An embassy spokesman said he could neither confirm nor deny that the younger Mr. Deng had been given per- mission to go to the United States; other American officials appeared surprised when told about Mr. Deng's family rela- tionship. The source familiar with the family said Deng Chifang did not use his father's name when he applied for a visa to avoid publicity and any implication that he had gotten his visas through his father's influ- ence. The special privileges enjoyed by Communist Party officials in housing, food, employment and travel abroad have become a major issue in recent months. A Harvard professor who visted Peking was startled when asked by Chi- nese leaders to help get their children into school in Cambridge. It is estimated that a thousand Chinese scientists, exchange scholars and stu- dents have gone to the United States over the year since the normalization of rela- tions between Washington and Peking. About half have been sponsored privately by relatives in America under a new di- rective allowing Chinese to travel abroad if their way is paid by people overseas. The others have gone on Government sti- pends. In a related development the New China News Agency said that Chinese students in the United States were enjoy- ing great academic success. Zhou Ningli, a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin, received the highest mark in a chemistry examination in a class of 250 students, the press agency said, quoting the Chancellor, Dr. Irving Shain. At Co- lumbia University Chinese students took four of the top five places in a course on electrodynamics, the agency said.

Semester Began Monday

ROCHESTER, Jan. 17 - A spokesman for the University of Rochester said that Deng Chifang had been accepted as a graduate student in physics and was ex- pected when the semester began Mon- day. University officials said they did not know where he was or why he had failed to arrive.

[Thirumala Raya Halemane]