Subject = ("recognizing a person", more to it, individual identity personality, than just the visual & physical, and how it changes, transformations, = better understanding needed of this IMPORTANT factor), With our dearest Shilpi, on 2025 September 10 to 14

[Thirumala Raya Halemane]

Subject =

("recognizing a person", more to it, individual identity personality, 

than just the visual & physical, and how it changes, transformations, 

= better understanding needed of this IMPORTANT factor), 

With our dearest Shilpi, on 2025 September 10 to 14

2025 September 10

Wed 11:43 AM

Me: 

Ajji is under huge big stress because of lots of things happening around her, including our various job situations of family members, as well as life situations of family members, including her own childre. And, it is not something she can comprehend or reconcile with well or easily or properly, even after allowing for some flexibilities in various aspects of it. And, one of the things I, and we, noticed here is her inability, at times, to properly recognize her own daughter Usha here. So, as I / we saw it over the past month here during this visit, I gave mom and Kavi, my assessment = Very Deep Inside, she does not fully recognize you because you are not like what remembers from earlier years, as a mother, as the mother. Many instances are there, regarding this inability of hers, and I even see a slight improvement over the past few days, getting better answer to her own question regarding who kept her medicine on the dining table so that she will have it when she comes down in the morning, and now I ask her to guess, after hearing her say a few times "Raaja maDugiddaayiku", "ava enna maga", I asked "Raaja elli ippadu ?" answer was "mEle idda aayiku" etc, that is ahe had said it must be her son Raaja who kept the medicine for her on the table, and that he must be upstairs. etc. Yesterday and Today she said to me first "ningo maDugidda?", if I had kept it and when I said " alla", No, yesterday she said then it must be either Raaja or Usha, and today she said "Usha aadikku", "adu enna magaLu". that is, it must be her daughter Usha. Actually, today morning the medicine was ot there, as amma had forgotten to do it last night, so the conversation was about it not being there as on other days. I felt, that was a very noticeable improvement regarding this interaction situation.

2025 September 10

Wed 12:00 PM

Me: 

Some days ago, like ten or twenty perhaps, it seems, ajji came to the room where amma was sleeping, ajji could not recognize amma, who it was, and asked "neenu yaavaaga bandadu?", (= "when did you come?", here), and ajji had also asked me one or more times who the other thicker (fat) lady in the house was, "aa thOrada hengasu aaru?", and similar question to me regarding Kavi also. And, several times, I am referred to as Kavi's "ajja" grandfather to Kavi, and Kavi corrected her that I am his "appa" father, This was typically when I requested her to take the cup of tea, bowl of snacks for him when he was sitting in the Library room, but last time,like three days ago or so, she said "thappaathu", she apologized for the mistake, again showing an improvement there !!!!. == Vaaaaaaaaaa.

2025 September 14

Me: 

Shilpi & Surekha, Wishing You Both All the Best on occasion of your special day today. Happy First Wedding Anniversary. Mom made paayasa for us here. laayikittiddu. It was very nice, ajji also appreciated it quite well. It seems today 2025 September 14 is also Sri Krishna Janmashtami Day in Kerala, as per the Malayalam solar-lunar combo calendar (slightly different calculation than in most other parts of India, which was on August 16this year).

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in the attached photos, (mostly copied from my old WhatsApp messages), we see, our son Shilpi and his friends with us (Usha and me)  in Portland OR, in Hood River OR, in Washougal WA, when we were visiting him a few years ago, in 2021 May-June