Gifted Children, under persecution by their parents, the school system, and the white coats

[Beyond_Ideologies]

As I read more and more about this Autism / Aspergers, I continue to see now just how much total bullshit it all is.

These are Gifted Children. They are quick to reject their mother's narcissism and neuroticism. And yes, upon further reflection I see that this is exactly what Alice Miller was saying. It is just that the can of worms she opened was so big that she got lost in it herself.

These Gifted Children then become subjected to persecution, as they also reject the muggle peer culture they are expected to function in.

So then the White Coats come in. What this amounts to is a kind of peace treaty. The child will accept this diagnosis of Neurological Disorder, and then drop any and all allegations against the parents. But the parents will start to treat the child better. The problem is though that the child really believes the White Coats, and so then they also assimilate the fears and shame of their parents. So I read about this one guy, 12 FBI agents have got him in handcuffs. What he is most afraid of is that all his hard struggle to be able to support himself and live independently will no be for naught. These fears are his parents fears. And this is why parental child abuse is societally sanctioned and state sanctioned. The areas where there can be prosecution still remain extremely limited. Parental child abuse is sanctioned in order to suppress and control.

I read this one chapter, "A Mother's Journey to Save Her Family". She had had over 8 years of counseling from these Autism Advocates before she wrote that. Yes, it sounds good. But I can read between the lines, that she has always considered her son an embarrassment and a curse. Her performance is one worthy of Susan Smith.

Susan Smith
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lHkjeQGemM

Anyway, so I am learning and trying to find comrades in order to fight back. Parental child abuse is war.

****************************************************************

So I continue reading:

The Autism Spectrum, Sexuality and the Law: What every parent and professional needs to know
by Tony Attwood, Isabelle Henault, and Nick Dubin

Tony Attwood is highly read, but he goes right up my spine.

http://www.amazon.com/Autism-Spectrum-Se...ds=tony+attwood

So Nick Dubin was diagnosed with Autism / Asperger's at the age of 27. Then six years later 12 FBI agents broke into his apartment at 6:30am and handcuffed him, executing a search warrant. He had been viewing and downloading some free kiddie porn.

Apparently this sort of thing happens with Autism / Asperger's people quite often. It is the social isolation and the lack of sexual knowledge, plus also the tendency to try and collect information, and the natural affinity for the Internet. Such persons are very rarely victimizers. They are for more likely to be victims.

But Dubin was prosecuted and faced 5 to 10 years. Even though the federal prosecutor's own experts recommended that they let him off with just psychological counseling and nothing else, he still ended up having to plead guilty to a felony and then forever more register as a sex offender.

He has never been sexually inappropriate with anyone, and he has no sexual interests in children. He was just as Aspies seem to do, collecting information about something he knows little about. Like most people, he did not know that his actions were being monitored.

My immediate interest though is just in the biography, the family relations, and the role that the diagnosis plays. When he was diagnosed at age 27, he went on to get a Master's Degree and then a PhD in this stuff. So he fully accepts it.

But it turns out that even at the age of 3 his parents were sending him to a special speech disability teacher, because he was slow in learning to talk. Sounds like she did some real good too.

So if he really had a neurological difference, would the teacher be able to make that much difference, and in just three months?

I feel that of course this speech teacher was effective, as she was an adult paying attention to him, but without the contempt that I believe his parents felt for him.

So anyway, he was often in Special Ed. Preschools and Kindergartens.

He says they weren't applying an Asperger's diagnosis until 1994. I think it has something to do with the work having been done in Germany during the war.

But even with him in all these Special Ed. programs they still weren't using the American terminology of Autism.

I think there is an evolutionarily acquired revulsion towards someone who does not seem to be fitting into the group. And this is what you are seeing, and this is why people like school teachers tolerate and encourage bullying.

In Lord of the Flies, the boy Simon, is the first one killed by Jack and his pig hunters. I believe he is intented to be seen as Autistic. He was enjoying the mysticism of nature, and was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They were chasing a pig, but when they found him they turned on him.

I believe that Autism is closely related to mysticism, and this is why tribal societies have shaman. When they find a child who has these tendencies, meaning that they are not a muggle, they are separated and their path to adulthood does become longer and more complex.

Anyone knows that someone who doesn't have a mother is going to be different. It's there in Peter Matthiessen's, "At Play in the Fields of the Lord". And it amounts to the same thing if the mother rejects the child, or if the child rejects the mother. How can you really distinguish anyway? You can see the animosity though, and in that you can see that it was the parent who was not living up to their own values. The middle class lives in Bad Faith.

But this innate revolution and sense that the child was a curse and was evidence against them, is why I believe Nick's parents would have found him to be an embarrassment. I see this between the lines in the writing of the mother. The father seems more to be trying to placate the mother and to be extending the olive branch to Nick, while still always standing with the mother in her condemnation. I know the book does not really say this, but this is the feeling I get.

And of course the first type of bullying Nick was probably subjected to was his mother trying to inflict the Narcissistic Wound, trying to make him mirror her facial expressions or play games like patty cake. When he would not, she turned on him. It is kind of like post partum depression, but it comes on later. And it can most certainly be fatal for the child.

So I remember a therapist of my own who was trying to exonerate parents, saying that they are just like that because they are fearful that the child might not be able to earn a living. And yes, underneath all these supposed Neurological Disorders, Learning Disabilities, and Psychiatric Conditions, that is what it seems to come down to. So they break your wings, and then try to make you forget that you ever had a chance of being able to fly, so that you will have to be just like them.

So then when the White Coats come in, with all the diplomas on their wall, and with all their tests, they apply a diagnosis. Now the child is expected to accept this, but along with it they are exonerating the parents and accepting their values. The parents are in turn taught how to treat the child a bit better, and to show a little bit of pity, instead of just pure hatred.

You know, they say that what opened the door to capitalism was Augustinian interiority and his doctrine of Original Sin. The Bible had been a round for a while, but it wasn't until the Christian Patristic Era that it came to be interpreted in Augustine's way. He is the bridge between the Patristic Era and Medieval Scholasticism. His doctrine is the most extreme.

See, capitalism depends upon some sort of innate guilt, to make people tow the line. And so this is what the middle class family is for. It is sanctioned by our society, and it is even state sponsored, as the instrument to inflict this guilt.

And so I read the writings of Nick Dubin. 12 FBI agents have him in handcuffs and are rummaging through every corner of his apartment. What is he scared of? That his hard won victory of being able to support himself financially and of being able to live independently will be lost. So he apologizes to his father, "I am sorry that I have not been a good son."

Accepting the Autism / Asperger's diagnosis did elicit some slightly better treatment from his parents. But it also meant that he had to internalize their values, their justifications, their fears, and the innate revulsion they felt towards him.

For a child, the middle class family is state sponsored torture.

I have always resisted the concept of "child abuse" as being particularly important. In her later years Alice Miller had a web site which identified child abuse as the central theme of her work. I never went along with it. Saying it is abuse makes it sound like it is aberrational, God Bless the Good Family.

So I looked for something else, finally setting on "child exploitation". This comes from Deleuze and Guattari saying that the child becomes the worker. I take this to mean that the child is used to justify the adults, so the child is the exploited worker.

But when you talk about the situation for Gifted Children, then it is also Child Persecution. It is not just a handful of violations. It is an ongoing campaign.

And this does make a great deal of sense, with Leo Kanner emigrating from Germany in the 1920's, and with Bruno Bettelheim being interned in Dachau, and then seeing in those supposedly afflicted with Autism, the same faces he saw in Dachau.

And then with Alice Miller being interned in the Warsaw Ghetto, and then learning how to sneak in and out to bring food, and getting involved with Polish Resistance, and then being there for the uprising.

Gifted Child Persecution is war. We can't expect children to fight this war. So we being adults have to do it.

Under international law those engaged in wars of self determination are exempted from any legal obligation to take prisoners.

Despair thy charm;
And let the angel whom thou still hast served
Tell thee, Macduff was from his mother's womb
Untimely ripp'd.

http://shakespeare.mit.edu/macbeth/full.html

*****************************************************************

So I continue reading Nick Dubin, writing about himself. And I continue to see this even more strongly in exactly the same ways.

He makes only occasional mention of his mother. Though he never says this, he would seem to be incapable of seeing it, he has clearly internalized his mother's visceral revulsion towards him.

The father then tries to occupy a middle ground, extending a pity branch of rotten olives, while at the same time placating and affirming the mother in her condemnation. Most of Nick's references are to his father and this is the one he seems to look to for support. But Nick also shows us again and again how he is unable to distinguish between actual friends, and those who are just using him to socially advance themselves by making fun of him. I say that his blindness starts as he is required to be blind when it comes to the intentions of both of his parents.

And of course what seals this in are the therapists who are doing their very damndest to convince Nick that there is something wrong with him. And so here we have a man going into his late 30's who is completely convinced that he is defective, and that this is proven by the fact that he did not seem to be one of the normative group in primary and secondary school. And so he laments that he was always such a burden to his parents, and that at times he was enraged with them over all the bullying he was being subjected to in school. Reading this one is overwhelmed with Nick's therapists and parents induced despair.

Nick laments that he had no interest in popular culture. Instead of Madonna and Beavis and Butthead, he liked Frank Sinatra music and watching TV Game Shows. Again he sees this as defect.

He also likes to watch Televangelists. He has this routine he does, called "The Preacher". And he also does a Game Show Host.

For myself, I would find that hilarious, and even more so that it is a middle school kid who is doing it. But Nick laments that he was being used and that they were not laughing with him, they were laughing at him. He can see this now because the very kids who were asking him to do these routines each day were the ones who in the locker room were taking his underpants and tossing them back and forth over Nick's head.

This taking of the underpants was happening day after day after day, along with calling Nick gay and making up other ways to taunt him about suspected homosexual tendencies. It was so bad that he just about could not function. He was living in fear.

This was way more than sufficient to get a lawyer involved. I mentioned someone C. before, in my high school, who was being subjected to hazing. All it took was one letter from a lawyer to melt the wax out of the ears of school board members and then some teachers were whipped into shape, and the problem stopped.

As far as how things went for C., I am sure it was better. I knew his older brother, and I think things were fine. I mean you can't make a deep cultural change overnight, but I think they made enough of one to make it workable.

But see, with Nick's parents it couldn't go that way. They had already signed on to the idea that Nick had a defect. Even though they weren't calling it Autism or Asperger's yet, it was still a defect. So they were not going to get confrontational with the school district. They were just going to let him be bullied and tormented, while the therapists were supposed to be fixing him. And I am sure what lies at the bottom of all this would be his mother's visceral revulsion towards him.

In Martha Mitchell's "Gone With The Wind", the protagonist holds a visceral revulsion towards her son, always lamenting that he is not a "proper boy". It is one of the most dislikable traits of the character. That she is such an anti-heroine is something which gets lost in the film adaptation.

And then again we have Judith Guest's "Ordinary People", where they underlying issue is a mother's visceral revulsion towards her son.

The family is Jewish. At his Bar-Mitzvah Nick gave a presentation about the entertainer George Burns. The adults loved this. I am sure they were just tickled that a kid would select such a person and know how to speak about him.

Doing his Preacher and Game Show Host routines, and then researching and talking about George Burns reminds me of John Elder Robison always making up fanciful stories and becoming an expert in being able to convince people of absolute nonsense. But both Nick Dubin and John Robison still continue to spout the doctrine that Aspies have difficulty understanding social cues and nonverbal communications.

John Robison loved to get people going with ideas like there being dragons who live in the sewers. But the real nonsense is what these White Coats have been able to propagate, that there is such a thing as Austim Asperger's, and so these kids need somehow to be changed, as opposed to the truth, that these are Gifted Children who are being persecuted.

Nick was terrified that he was gay. Kids in middle school would call him that to taunt him, as they often do. And like everything else, the teachers did nothing. But Nick was terrified that he really was. I'm not sure if he even has it resolved today, and this was a factor in his ending up looking at online free kiddie porn and then being charged with a 10 year felony.

I read Nick's writing and to me it sounds like he probably really is gay. But if he is terrified of this, he is going to have problems.

This most highly regarded Tony Attwood writes about how Nick was socially isolated and underdeveloped in his sexuality, and that he tried to "flip the heterosexual switch", but was unable to.

This Attwood is in Brisbane Australia. He really irritates me. Here he seems to be suggesting a motivational approach to flipping this switch. All of this is suggestive of this sexual orientation modification therapy.

I am proud to say that in the US a number of states have made it illegal to try and practice this therapy on a minor. I hope that someday people will realize that it is wrong to practice anything at all like this on anybody.

But of course if that was the environment Nick was in, this is going to hurt him. It is the therapists, the school system, and the parents.

The parents were Jewish and they lived in a well off suburban neighborhood. It was as such a very conservative neighborhood, near Detroit.

He went on a trip and meet someone his own age from the East Coast and he was more eclectic. Instead of the choice being just between pop culture and Frank Sinatra, now Nick was introduced to various forms of Jazz. He liked this much better. Not every cultural enclave was as conservative as the one he was being forced to live in.

Now we cannot expect a child to stand up to the adults and defend themselves in real time. So it has to be done after the fact. We who are now adults have to step into these situations and do it. First of all the parents must be held accountable. They must be held financially liable and there must be a prohibition on disinheritance, and there has to be real time intervention at the first sign of problems. It is the parents who must be forced to change, not the child. Second the people who run the schools must be held accountable. The schools must be safe. They cannot be Lord of the Flies situations. If this is not so, then administrators will be removed and the school districts will be held financially liable. And finally, we have to put the White Coats out of action. Treat them like kiddie rapers, because what they do has a very similar effect.

Becoming Other