Present Patterns
Julieanne
enlightenment instead. Transmute it into consciousness.’
Eckhart Tolle
So often we become unconscious in our relationships and miss
opportunities to bring consciousness into them. We become trapped in
the cycle of shifting responsibility, blame and guilt.
Whenever we find ourselves within conflict in our relationships we can
so easily pause and remember this cycle.
RESPONSIBILITY – BLAME – GUILT
When we bring this to mind and choose to be really honest with
ourselves by asking ourselves what is it that we are not claiming
responsibility for we can instantly bring consciousness into the
situation.
In the first instance we may find ourselves saying ‘But they did this
to me’ or ‘they said they would do this and didn’t’ but by choosing to
become present you will find that there is something that you are not
taking responsibility for.
You may not see it at first; you may not want to as the power of the
ego can be temporarily quite satisfying.
Every conflict in relationships is bringing to the surface something
that can be addressed and in turn strengthen and grow your
relationships. By choosing to focus on what you are ‘doing’ rather
than what is being ‘done’ to you, you instantly remove any room for
victimisation.
You become proactive rather than reactive.
Whenever you start to blame someone you are in relationship with for
something, this is a sign that there is something you have not taken
responsibility for and are trying to shift that responsibility onto
the other person. You then blame them in an effort to relinquish
yourself from any responsibility... or you play the victim.
If they are also in this cycle of unconsciousness they will then try
to defend themselves and shift responsibility back to you. It is a no
win situation. The issue needs to be addressed and as Tolle write
‘Transmuted into consciousness.’
You are then creating guilt, which is where you are able to hide the
fact that you shifted responsibility successfully... or so you think.
This is really a very simple approach to take with your
relationships.
Awareness is the first step!
Happy Manifesting!
Julieanne
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