Family Responsibilities
1Tim 5:4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God.
Putting religion into practice is like this: "Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world." Jas 1:27 So also caring for the needs of one's family is part of what it means to live the Christian life.
But in addition to both these obligations there is yet another reason to provide for widows in one's own family - namely the idea of repaying one's parents and grandparents for all the labor they put into raising you. Even at his death Jesus provided for his apparently widowed mother, saying to John, "Behold your mother!" And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home. John 19:27
So if you've been struggling to have a clear idea as to what you can do to please God - well, there you have it!