I'm a little confused on how adding "-XepDisableAllChecks" would disable error prone both in bazel and in the other plugin.
But for the bazel build, you could add the flag --javacopt="-XepDisableAllChecks" and that would be added to every java target in the build.
And, as it sounds you may already know, you can disable individual checks in the whole build like this for example:
--javacopt="-Xep:ReturnValueIgnored:WARN"
and you can disable individual checks on individual targets with
java_library(
...,
javacopts = ["-Xep:ReturnValueIgnored:WARN"],
...,
)
So if bazel's errorprone is checking something that the other plugin isn't, you could disable that check at a pretty high granularity in bazel