A lesson to learn

[Sundara Rajan]

An awakening call to one & all

One evening, a husband casually called out from the doorway, “Honey, I’m heading out with my friends for a bit.”

His wife, busy folding laundry, simply looked up and said, “Alright. Have fun.”

He was a little surprised. Usually, she would remind him to be back early, to drive safely, to not stay out too late. 

A few hours later, their teenage son walked into the kitchen, holding a sheet of paper. His face was pale. “Mom,” he said quietly, “I got my mock exam results… and they’re bad.”

He waited, bracing himself for the familiar scolding. 

But instead, she nodded and said, “Okay, If you study harder, you’ll do better next time. If not, you might have to repeat the semester. It’s your choice.”

He walked away wondering why his mom had become so calm — almost peaceful.

The next afternoon, their daughter came home looking nervous. She hesitated in the hallway before stepping into the living room. “Mom,” she said, voice trembling, “I… I crashed the car. Just a small dent, but it’s bad.”

Her mother didn’t shout, didn’t scold, didn’t even raise an eyebrow. She just said, “Alright. Take it to the repair shop tomorrow and have it fixed.”

The girl stood frozen, my mom is not mad at me anymore.

By now, everyone in the house was starting to get worried. 

She used to be fiery, quick to stress, quick to lecture. 

Now, she was calm, collected, almost at peace with herself.

Finally, that evening, they all sat her down at the kitchen table.

“Honey,” her husband said, “you’ve been acting… different. You don’t get upset anymore. You don’t react to anything. Is everything alright?”

“Nothing’s wrong,” she said. “Everything is exactly how it should be. I’ve just learned something important.”

They waited.

“It took me a long time to realize,” she continued, “that every person is responsible for their own life.”

“I used to worry about everything. If you were late, I worried. If the kids did badly in school, I blamed myself. If something broke, I got angry. If anyone was unhappy, I tried to fix it. I carried everyone’s problems on my shoulders. But I’ve learned something — all that worrying doesn’t solve their problems. It only ruins my peace.”

“I can advise you, love you, and support you, but I can’t live your lives for you. Whatever decisions you make, you’re the ones who will face the results. Good or bad.”

She paused for a moment, then smiled again. “So I decided to stop trying to control what isn’t mine to control.”

Her son leaned forward. “You mean… you don’t care what happens?”

She shook her head gently. “Oh, I care deeply. But caring and controlling are not the same. I can care without losing my peace. I can love you without taking your burdens as my own.”

The room fell quiet.

No one spoke for a while. The house was still, but something had shifted.

And slowly, the home began to feel lighter.

Everyone started handling their own problems — not out of fear, but out of understanding.

*Because when one person in a family chooses peace, it spreads.*

*When one person stops trying to control everything, everyone else starts learning self-control.*

And that’s how calmness grows by leaps and bou.

आकाशात् पतितं तोयं यथा गच्छति सागरम् |सर्वदेवनमस्कारं 

 केशवं प्रति गच्छति ||

 As all the raindrops falling from the sky ultimately meet their end in the ocean, the worship of any divine God ultimately reach the one Supreme Lord.

[Kuppuswamy N]

Very true example. Self control is only the best and possible choice. It is not worth controlling any one in this world, resulting in losing our peace of mind .  Kuppuswamy Coimbatore 

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