Honouring your own truth
White Sophia
We each have our internal view of the world that is filled with our experiences and expectations. We have hopes and dreams, which are coloured by satisfaction and discontent with the past. This includes every success, every disappointment and every failure. We judge every situation that we encounter according to our expectations - what we think is possible, what we want to happen, and what we don't expect. However, something I'm learning is that no situation will ever be in accord with our expectations. Some experiences will be fun, positive and encouraging, others will painful, disappointing and even harmful. Further, it is inevitable that people will cause us pain, either deliberately or by accident, because we all fallible, and we are all on a journey that we need to fulfill.
It is so important to ensure that you release your negative feelings. They may be fear, pain, disappointment, betrayal, etc. These feelings tell us when we are unhappy or in discord with the present circumstances. To let this situation remain is to harm yourself, because keeping them inside will cause them to fester. Negative feelings are natural - especially in the craft when we are deliberately walking into unknown territory, following our instincts and intuition. Negative feelings are simply the result of losing positive feelings, which we can regenerate, although it takes some effort.
Sometimes we simply have the wrong end of the stick, such as misunderstanding what someone means - this seems especially to happen via email, because you don't have facial expression and tone of voice to indicate the meaning of an ambiguous sentence. Sometimes we are drawn to trying something new, but are uncertain about the risks or how to proceed. Sometimes we lose the people we love, or are forced to change or move to different circumstances from where we want to be.
To voice these concerns is to honour our true feelings. We have to be cautious of whom we tell and how, but it is far better to discuss a negative feeling than to hold it inside. Our feelings guide our actions, and negative feelings that are bottled up will amplify and manifest as greater negativity - things like lashing out at someone, or finding ways to undermine them, running away from a problem, gossipping and bitching, or even attacking them.
By speaking out when the negative feelings arise initially, we cut off this downward spiral and transform the negative into positive energy. We address the heart of the problem.
'Why are you upset? What can we do about it? If you've lost something, how can we refocus on what you do have, and build on that? How can we make sure it doesn't happen next time?' These questions all illuminate the way forwards, rather than constantly focusing on the problem, which lies in the past.
You will meet people who constantly remind themselves of what they have lost, how they've been hurt, and why the should have your sympathy. In reality, these people are not helping themselves - to do this, they would have to release their burdens of pain and regret, and focus purely on where they're going, what they can do for themselves and others, and who is there to help them.
If you need help with something - tell me! If you don't understand something, are worried about it, or are afraid of it - tell me! If you're feeling hurt or humiliated - tell me! Or tell someone who can help. Because ultimately we can work together to make the world a better place.
Walk in the Light
White Sophia
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